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Toddlers: 24 Months+
howleyshell
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Any 3 yo's not in pre-school?
howleyshell
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Because I'm unemployed we decided not to spend the $$.
I know he's doing fine educationally speaking because we work on everything he should be learning and he's actually ahead of where he needs to be.
I watch a friend's daughter the same age who does go to preschool and he's more advanced than her.
But I worry about the other things he's missing out on.
The basics of becoming comfortable in a class room setting, paying attention to a teacher when surrounded by peers, etc.
We do things like library story time and organized activities at the children's museum so it's not like he's never exposed to organized learning environments - it's just not as often a pre-school.
DH says he'll have plenty of time to learn it later and he's not going to be "behind" but I still worry a bit.
Anyone else have a 3 yo not in preschool?
Do you feel they're missing out on something?
Do you do any special activities to try to bridge the gap?
Our IF journey: 1 m/c, 1 IVF with only 3 eggs retrieved yielding Dylan and a lost twin, 1 shocker unmedicated BFP resulting in Jace, 3 more unmedicated pregnancies ending in more losses.
Total score: 6 pregnancies, 5 losses, 2 amazing blessings that I'm thankful for every single day.
Total score: 6 pregnancies, 5 losses, 2 amazing blessings that I'm thankful for every single day.
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Re: Any 3 yo's not in pre-school?
He was- now he stays with my stepmom while I am at work. I don't think preschool is needed. I feel like they are in school for so long that it's just not needed. In kindergarden they aren't expected to know what's going on. I mean I bring TJ to the libray when they have story times and I think that's fine- I don't think you little guy is missing out on anything. Plus I would kill to be able to spend more time with TJ, so don't feel guilty about not sending him- feel lucky!
That's my 2 cents anywhoo!
I just wanted to comment on a previous post- Kids are not supposed to know what is going on in Kindergarten.
Actually that is not true anymore. Kindergarten has gotten very sophisticated. Kids are expected to know all sorts of things we probably learned in kindergarten. And they are expected to understand how to sit in seats, raise hands, and be in a classroom situation.
My mom is a teacher in elementry school, and her kindergartners are expected to know to read BEFORE they start at the age of 5. They should have all their sight words, and know the months, days of the week, count to 100 etc. it is crazy, but true.
:::gulp::: that is crazy - does it depend on the school or is that all over?
as long as op makes an effort to teach and expose ds, i would think he will be fine. it doesn't sound like she parks him infront of the tv all day and expects him to just get things on his own.
It may depend on where you are... my mom did teach prek in the south and did teach the children to write letters, their names and some small words (depending on how the class was doing as a whole... they did not get to this every year... she followed their lead) and numbers. they would learn shapes, colors, days of the week.stuff like that. they did not have to read by kindergarten. I think that is unrealistic. but a friend did go through the interview process for kindergartens here (nyc) recently and her dd had to write her name, count to a certain number, know her phone number and say (not sing) her alphabet. She was asked some tough questions that she could not answer (like 2 part questions... that would have made me walk right out.. as a 4 1/2 y/o a two part question, ugh). My dd is not interested in writing at all.. but is interested in reading and knows letter sounds and is starting to put letters together and saying the word. But, as her preschool principle says each child is different.. if you push now, it could be detrimental later... there was a study that showed at age 10, it didn't matter who read first, what did matter was their perception of learning ... It's best to teach through play and not force it on them. That's why I like this preschool. Now, here... I think most people do have their child in preschool by age 3. It's the norm.. but everything is different here. lol. I know friends elsewhere who did not. don't worry about it. So long as you're working with ds in a fun way... he'll be fine. I would suggest asking around or asking the teachers at the school you plan on sending him, what their expectations are for kindergarten or prek...
My kids went at 3, but mostly because we live in a rural area instead of a neighborhood, and they are not around other kids much. I wanted both of them to have practice separating from me, and exposure to peers well before kindergarten started. However, lots of kids start preschool at my son's school for the first time as 4s, and they are just fine. This year my guy is in the pre-k class (mostly kids who turn 5 by December) and there are several students who are in school for the first time.
The first reply in this thread mentioned that kids in kindergarten are not expected to have experience in a classroom setting. I think that varies depending on where you live. My sister teaches art in an elementary school, and she says she can always tell with her kindergarten kids who has been in preschool and who hasn't. Here in Maryland, kindergarten is what we all experienced in first grade -- learning to read, doing math, learning to write.
ETA: Kids in kindergarten here are not expected to already be reading before they start, but many of them are. In my DD's kindergarten class of 20 kids, probably at least 7 could read well, and more could pick up sight words quickly. There were also, however, a few kids who didn't yet know their letters.
That being said, I think being in a class or activity, or even participating in "preschool story time" at the library probably accomplishes a lot of what you'd get from a preschool program.
Ditto this. In my area, Kindergarteners are reading too. It used to be first grade but this past year, they moved it up. My ds is in a private school Abeka program, and they are academically advanced than the public school and even in K, they do basic mathematics as well. (Third graders are solving for x and y.) Really seems advanced to me. But I LOVE LOVE this school so as long as ds thrives in it, he will stay there.