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I'm back and daycare guilt...

sldandridgesldandridge
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So today is M's first day at daycare and I so do not want to go back to work and leave him in daycare. Tell me how you got over the guilt of leaving baby in daycare.
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  • barkers4jmmbarkers4jmm
    It's our first day in daycare, too.  Sucks.  But I think she'll eventually like it - fun to play with all the other little peanuts.  And they have age-based educational games and learning, too.  She was staring out the window at me as I left - so tiny and confused.  Waah! 
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  • kcita_234kcita_234

    oh the first day is hell. Just hell. I cried like a banshee.

    But I kept telling myself that this is good for me- to go back into the adult world- and it's good for DS as he will learn how to socialize and he is in very, very good hands. The only thing I can recommend is just stay busy. I does get easier once you get into the routine, although to this day I still look back into his room after I drop DS off. There are still a few sniffles, but in my heart I know it's for the best. It does get easier, but it's never easy (if that makes any sense).

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  • ArtslvrArtslvr
    Oh dear, first day of daycare is a tough day, sorry!!  It gets MUCH easier, though I think the feelings of guilt are always kind of there, along with a zillion other mixed emotions that hit you post partum.  Hang in there!!!!!
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  • sldandridgesldandridge
    Thanks ladies for the support. I am a blubbering mess. I know its for the greater good, but damnit I don't wanna be at work.
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  • vtkgirl77vtkgirl77

    Crying It's so hard I know  I just took my DD to daycare for the first time last week. There are two thoughts that help me:

    First, I just try to remember that my parents put me in daycare and I do not think it impacted me negatively at all. If anything, it helped me to be more independent and self-sufficient which helped me throughout my school days and in life.

    I also try to think of what my alternative is. If I stayed home, we would have no health insurance, we couldn't cover our mortgage, we wouldn't have enough money for food, and our marriage would be under a major strain due to financial stresses. So, I am actually doing the best thing for DD and for the family by putting her in daycare.

    I know that probably doesn't help much but everyone says it will get easier over time. In the meantime, hang in there. You are not alone.

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  • Hey JellisyHey Jellisy
    It's hard, but it does get easier.  I really enjoy my time to be an adult and not have to be constantly on that mothering requires.  Plus lunch time is great for errands.  I usually make my DH drop off and I pick up.  DH has made a game of drop off and takes camera phone pictures every morning and posts them to his facebook account.  It's so nice to see DD smiling at me everyday.
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  • tracy042206tracy042206
    The first day is rough, especially with the first but I cried for DD#2 as well.  You'll miss them but they have a lot of fun with the other kids.  As babies my kids love watching all the older kids and now Maggie loves all her friends there.  It was nice for me to be back at work and like a pp said - not the only one responsible all day long for the baby and get in some nice adult time. 
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