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my first IL/ex wife Vent - LONG

Erin0922Erin0922 member
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I am SHAKING i am so furious right now.So, DH was raised with no family to speak of (parents etc) and just has his siblings.. He has two sisters and a twin. DH and twin are super close, sister "M" is in jail, and and sister "A" lives about about an hour and a half away.A is, according to DH, "shady." She has 4 kids, by as many fathers, and has recently landed herself a rich one, and actually convinced him to marry her. They are married, and "happy." Last year, when so much tensions was going down bw DH and his ex wife, ex declined to allow him to talk to his son "P" for a few weeks in November. After stalking her myspace one day, we see an incredibly recent pic of P at A's house. When DH confronts A, it turned out A had PAID for Ex and P to fly up here (from AR to VA), and at ex's insistence, did not tell DH his son was so close. (One of only 2 times I have seen him cry).Fast Forward a few weeks. DH told A she was cut out of his life, blah blah. She has been trying to make amends since. I was trying to give her the benefit of the doubt, not really knowing her and all. She has been so friendly to me, offered to throw me a baby shower, etc.I was just perusing the facebook feature that suggests "people I know" ...and ex's boyfriend popped up. We apparently had one friend in common. Curious, I looked. A.So, I checked out her page. They are all three buddy buddy. Her kids DO NOT call me Aunt Erin, but they still call her Aunt Ex. And Ex is all "love you miss you" all over her page.Oh, and PS: Ex hated A until DH filed for Divorce, and A trashes ex to me ALL THE TIME. Its a convenient relationship, apparently.

Am I wrong for getting my feelings so hurt? I want to be 12 and insist she choose sides, but I know thats not the way things work in grown-up land, lol.And why the heck would this guy accept a friend req from his new girlfriend's ex husbands SISTER? I think thats a bit odd in and of itself. They've never even met...

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Re: my first IL/ex wife Vent - LONG

  • aegrimmaegrimm member

    ::hugs:: family crap is so hard Sad

    I think DH is right for cutting A out of his life, but what about his DS? Does he get to see/talk to him now? Has that all blown over?

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  • Erin0922Erin0922 member

    Thanks. Its so much harder than I ever imagined... 

    Oh yes "we" get visitation. Summers, rotating holidays, and phone calls several times a week. And Ex and DH are on MUCH more cordial terms now than they were a year ago, so we are really lucky in that regard.

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  • BoSoxbrideBoSoxbride member

    Family drama is the worst. My brother and I haven't spoken since a falling out in April, and I don't see it happening any time soon. So I know how hurtful this stuff can be.I think your feelings are legit, but unfortunately there's not much you can do. Take solace in the fact that you have your husband and baby on the way. GL

     

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