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Night sleep advice on newborn please
so my Lilly is only a week old and we are still learning...but she doesn't like to have her arms swaddled (breaks out of her blankets and the Swaddle Me's). She does NOT like to sleep in her pack and play at night ( we have an infant positioner we have tried in there too)...she can be sleeping just after her last feeding of the night, put her down and two seconds later yelling inconsolably. She will sleep if we hold her though--but as soon as we put her down forget it. We have "Happiest Baby" and are still having issues. I'm just trying to get he from her final feeding of the night to her next feeding. What am I doing wrong or what should I do...everyone of my friends who have had infants are telling me that i can't start holding her throughout the night b/c she will never learn to sleep on her own. But I honestly don't know what i should be doing instead. She gets so worked up that we can't calm her down. I feel like such a failure when that happens and feel badly that she is crying and i can't get her to stop. Any help and advice would be greatly appreciated. TIA ladies.
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Re: Night sleep advice on newborn please
I'm certainly not one to be giving you advice, because we are having the same sleep issues with our LO...but I will tell you that you cannot create bad sleeping habits at this age. If you find something that works, DO IT. Don't worry about creating problems for later...babies don't learn bad habits at this age.
The other thing I can tell you is that I'm learning that you are not doing anything "wrong" and neither am I--some newborns just have a harder time learning to sleep on their own than others.
Good luck! I feel your pain.
How long do you burp her after you feed? DS was like that and we figured out very quickly that he had burps sitting there hurting him. He was a HORRIBLE burper to begin with. I would stand and bounce while alternating patting and rubbing his back for about a half hour or more to make sure they were all out. If he cried when I put him down I tried again and invariably that was it.
Ditto pp. Try swaddling her from under her arms down.
Do whatever you need to to get some sleep.
Good luck.
"When it comes to sleeping, whatever your baby does is normal. If one thing has damaged parents enjoyment of their babies, it's rigid expectations about how and when the baby should sleep." ~ James McKenna, Ph.D., Mother Baby Behavioral Sleep Center, University of Notre Dame
Heh. I totally agree with all of this. I think you mentioned the Happiest Baby on the Block? Well then you know you're right in the thick of the fourth trimester. Your baby needs to feel close to you and if putting her down to sleep isn't working for her, well you already know it isn't working for you. We spent a lot of that first week sleeping with DD on our chests. And we've "graduated" to now having her sleep with us in our bed most of the night. I hadn't planned on bed-sharing but it means we get a ton more sleep than I hear most new parents describe. DD naps in her crib and will even now go down for the night in her crib but she still always ends up in bed with us. Hang in there and do what instinctively feels right to you -- it will get better.