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Frustrated with my Mom!~~VENT!

lilbit923lilbit923 member
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My Mom and I have an online journal, much like this one. I popped over to read hers today and I scroll down to see how she met my ex-SIL (AKA~Spawn of Satan) to pick up the grand kids for the weekend. Ex-SIL and our family do NOT get along. She has made nothing but trouble for all of us since she birthed my handsome nephew 12 years ago. She makes it a point to ruin every holiday if she is not the center of attention, keeps her kids from attending the other cousins birthday parties because it's not all about her, and even went so far in the divorce preceedings to name people in our family she never wanted around my niece and nephew unless there were numerous adults around. She is a rude biitch.

 I was healing from cancer surgery in 2000 and had a relapse due to the medication and could not feel my legs. I called the ex-SIL to come help me, we lived on the same street and she refused to answer the phone. I had to call my parents who only lived 20 minutes away but still, 20 minutes. When my parents saw me on the floor unable to walk and bleeding from surgery, my Dad called her and asked why she didn't come to help. "Your family isn't my concern." was her response. I still believe there is a special place in hell for her.

Fast forward to this morning, Mom has not physically laid eyes on her in 5 years but in Mom's blog, she saw it fit to give ex-SIL a hug. I guess some people make peace in their own way but I couldn't help but remember every family emergency, funeral, birth, party, holiday where she acted an ass, ruined the day or kept my brother and the kids from coming.

I am very frustrated with my Mom. She and I have been close and I immediately felt this was a slap in my face from every time that woman made it a point to hurt me or my family.

I was going to go visit my Mom today before I read that. Now? I think I will meet up with DH and go have dinner instead. I'm really hurt right now.

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  • liza0828liza0828

    I understand that you don't like it, but the fact is that your mother is a grown adult and how she chooses to handle her relationship with your exSIL really has nothing to do with you.  I think you need to let it go.

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  • anabell0920anabell0920 member
    I doubt if yall have a good relationship that she is doing it to spite you or hurt you. Maybe she is just trying to make peace to have a better relationship with her grand kids. And unfortunately it could be easier being on the kids moms good side. I am sorry it hurt you but I highly doubt she did it to be mean to you. I would after you cool down just call her and tell you how you feel but leave out the anger and see what she has to say.
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  • aegrimmaegrimm member

    Forgive but never forget. And ALWAYS take the high road. Easier said than done, but your mom is probably trying to keep as much peace as possible since you guys are stuck with her at LEAST until your nephew gets a driver's license and a car if not a little longer (until he turns 18).

    Cut your mom some slack...she's stuck between a rock and a hard place. She probably knows you don't agree with what she did. Sad

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  • Damians09Damians09
    I guess your mom is not letting what she did get the best of her, which is the best revenge. It's not good to be mean and stoop to her level even though she sounds like an a$$.
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  • lilbit923lilbit923 member
    imageaegrimm:

    Forgive but never forget. And ALWAYS take the high road. Easier said than done, but your mom is probably trying to keep as much peace as possible since you guys are stuck with her at LEAST until your nephew gets a driver's license and a car if not a little longer (until he turns 18).

    Cut your mom some slack...she's stuck between a rock and a hard place. She probably knows you don't agree with what she did. Sad

    I was thinking that too after I posted this until Mom emailed me this evening. She does know that I disagree with what she did. I just know how evil and cruel the ex-sil is and she will try to get next to Mom only to stab her in the ribs later. So yeah, Mom is a grown woman and she can do what she'd like. I won't want to hear about the issues with her later though.

    I went for a walk this evening and hadn't given much thought to the ex-sil till tonight. I had forgotten about the day she came to see me in the hospital when I had my son and learned he was dying. She leaned in to hug me (rare) and whispered "If he dies he will be better off." and she smiled at my parents and left the room. I hadn't thought much about her visiting me then till today. I hope for my Mom's sake she meant to be polite to my Mom today.

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