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To find out....or not to find out? Help!
Okay, I know that it's early but I am having a hard time deciding on whether we should find out the sex of the baby or not. We found out with the twins because we had so many u/s. But now I don't know what to do. My DH wants to find out and says that he can just find out and leave me hanging. Totally not fair. I hear that it is the most wonderful experience finding out when you give birth rather than before hand. I understand that there are few surprises left in life but I'm so impatient. I can't stand green and yellow clothes. I'm a planner but maybe this one time I shouldn't be, hmmm. So what do you ask for at baby showers? Gift cards? Boring isn't it?
Any input would be helpful from those that have had waited til the birth and those that found out prior. Help.
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Re: To find out....or not to find out? Help!
There's a topic about this below called "need some input."
For a baby shower I plan to register for things I will need immediately or down the road - anything from high chairs and pack and plays to medical/first aid stuff. I don't want anything gender specific because that's not me and also because I want to be able to re-use stuff for future kids.
I don't plan on registering for clothes at all. Apparently I am in the minority about the green and yellow but I a) don't want a girl always dressed in pink and vice versa and b) don't plan on dressing my baby in much of anything in the beginning! I think s/he will be in a diaper and onesie a large part of the time. lol. People have plenty of time to buy you gender-specific stuff after the baby is born.
I waited to find out for DS and will with this one. It was a great experience for me, but to each their own. You have to do what is best for you.
A couple of things about not finding out though:
1.) I am a planner, not finding out does not indicate one does not "Plan"
2.) DS did not wear green and yellow clothes.
3.) I did not just get gift cards at my baby shower. I got plenty of gender neutral ( NOT green and yellow) items. ie rainforest bouncer, strollers, bath tub other baby gear.
Question for you though. If you already have twins, why would you be having another shower anyway?
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I wouldn't be able to wait.
For me, I just don't understand the reasoning behind waiting and being 'surprised'. Maybe because it's my first. Maybe my opinion will change. But it will be 'surprise' whether I find out at 20 weeks or at 39 weeks. I'll just know sooner rather than later.
I hope that made sense.
AND didn't offend anyone who likes to wait and see.
we didn't find out with DS. I was the one who pushed for it and DH complained for a few weeks but then was totally on board. we enjoyed it so much that we aren't going to find out this time either and that was DH's choice this time around. We loved not knowing, at all of our friends baby showers they got nothing but clothes (pink or blue) and not the necessities off of the registries. While we had big and little items given at our showers, they were out scrambling to buy at the last minute because people wanted to buy cute outfits instead of things they actually needed.
We registered for all gender neutral big items knowing that any future babies would use them too. The thought of a pink bouncer or PNP was just not appealing to me anyway. As for clothes, we got some onesies we had registsered for but mostly pjs and they were in a variety of sizes.
I've never heard anyone say they were disappointed to not find out ahead of time. It made the birthday so much fun after all the speculation from us, our family and friends. it is SO worth it.
(Question for you though. If you already have twins, why would you be having another shower anyway?)
My family and co-workers said that they will be throwing me another shower since my twins are now 9. I told them that it wasn't necessary but they want to. (Yea, I know....we waited a little bit longer inbetween!)
My post is not about whether or not to have another baby shower and if it is tacky or not. My post is about whether or not to find out what the gender of the baby is and to hear from others on the subject,
I have already told family and friends that it isn't necessary but they insist on throwing me another shower since the twins are 9.....so I am a little offended that you "highly doubt" anything.
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I admit that I didn't read the prior post but that doesn't mean that no one else has ever posted a similiar question by mistake. If you have read the previous posts (like I should have according to you) then you would know my whole life story rather than a "half post" also. I am simply asking for some advice about finding out the sex of the baby. You have taken your comments too far. I'm not here to fight with anyone.
Gotcha. That makes sense. Sounds to me from your post that you probably would rather find out. But again it's a personal decision and I don't think anything people are here say is going to influence you.
Team green here.
For the baby shower I plan on registering for mostly practical things: crib, feeding supplies, cloth diapers, diaper bag, stroller, diaper pail and sprayer, baby health kit (thermometer, nail clippers, suction device, etc), blankets, towels, nursing cover, breast pump, pacifiers, boppy, pack and play, burp cloths, hamper, monitor ... you get the idea.
Of course since you already have children you probably have most of these items. I suppose that's why most people don't have a shower every time they get pregnant.
As far as clothing, it's not like that is the ONLY thing people can buy a baby. And you do realize you can put other colors on a baby besides yellow and green? What about red, grey, orange, brown, even blue (yes, girls can wear blue too). Don't limit yourself to two colors.
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[ Question for you, what are the sex of your twins? ]
The twins are boys. I don't have anything left from when they were babies. We are hoping for a girl but as long as it is healthy, we don't care. I guess that is why we are anxious to find out. If it is a boy, well then, we know how to take of one!
I have a few name books and I keep on mentioning some names to my DH but he says that he will be more into it when we found out what sex it is so we can narrow our search down. But I guess the u/s can be wrong can't it?
Oh time will tell, but I completely understand what you are saying about bonding with the baby. We found out with the twins b/c of so many u/s and it was nice to say "he" instead of "it."
Thanks for the advice!
[Gotcha. That makes sense. Sounds to me from your post that you probably would rather find out. But again it's a personal decision and I don't think anything people are here say is going to influence you]
KABKD~You are probably more than likely right. I guess I want some of the Team Green to rub off on me!! Oh how I wish I had patience.
i found out. i was far too impatient not too and it was the highlight of the pregnancy. but some people wait and find out at the end and it's all that more special for them. for us, we knew it would be special no matter when we found out so we decided to enjoy it a little early. i mean, in the end we were meeting our baby, we didn't need anymore excitement then that.
we'll find out this time too.