feeling scared again

lnle · September 2009

Sorry to be such a drama queen - I swore I wasn't going to do my weekly "I"m scared of my u/s" post. But I can't help it. I just got a book about multiple pregnancies in the mail and even though I haven't read that far into it I'm scared that we'll get bad news at the u/s and I won't need a book for multiples anymore. Plus I'm kinda paranoid about the flu shot I got earlier this week, even though my RE told me to do it.

I'm still having symptoms, though, so I guess that's good. Although they definitely come and go - some days I actually almost feel human!

Will I ever relax about this??

ela81 · September 2009

(((HUGS))) I would be nervous too. You will still need your book after your next u/s! It's totally normal to have pg symptoms one day and none the next, all I can say about that is enjoy the days you feel human! The worry never stops. Now that dd is here I have a whle new set of worries Tongue Tied You can post "I'm scared posts" when ever you feel like it, that's what we are here for!

duke'sgirl · September 2009

No, you won't. I mean, if you're anything like me, you won't. I still hold my breath before each u/s and each time the doc goes to put the doppler on my belly. (Even when I have just felt him move...) It's weird, but I don't think I'll relax until he's in my arms (and then I'll have a billion other things to not be relaxed about!)

Good luck tomorrow. I'm praying for you and those babies!!

ETA: This post sounded kind of "Debbie Downer." I wasn't trying to be that way. Just trying to say that after all we've gone through, it's perfectly normal to be scared (and you're allowed to be scared x3!). Hang in there, mama!!

krissyh21 · September 2009

It got easier for me in the second tri once I started to feel him moving in there, of course then I have times when he isn't moving and I freak for a little bit too... So I guess your answer is no, you will always worry!

I remember in the 1st tri there were so many things I did that I thought I would jinx it all away. Day dream, buy a book, onsie, discuss names, hope... But you can't jinx it away! (((hugs)))

GreenEyedGal · September 2009

I don't know if you'll ever relax. Even at 35+ weeks with a singelton I still worry everyday. It sucks, I wish I could be more laid back but it's so hard to do that when you've gone above and beyond to get to this point. Let me just say that your symptoms might dissapear. If they do, don't freak out! I remember coming on here and asking if the soreness of my bb's going away was normal and it is!

MayDayGirl · September 2009

Truth? No you probably won't. You might feel less paranoid after a while, but most likely you won't.... because... well that's pregnancy and you have it x 3!

I'm sorry (((HUGS))))I wish I could just zip you up to 35 weeks!

Is your u/s tomorrow?

ETA: ps don't apologize for being scared!

*jenjen* · September 2009

Unfortunately, I dont think the scary-ness ever really goes away...but I know you'll have a great u/s tomorrow. GOOD LUCK!!

epphd · September 2009

Hang in there!! I found it much easier after 10-12 weeks, one I could use my doppler. Granted... you're going to have a LOT going on in there to monitor with the doppler, but it might still make the wait between u/s less torturous. Hang in there - you have no reason to be concerned so try to just assume it is all going to plan (easier said than done, of course!)

HarleyQ8 · September 2009

You are not a drama queen! Dont worry about posting when you are worried and need reassurance. I think all of us SAIF ladies have had to go through it. I can tell you that at first I worried all day about "what if" something happened to the baby.....now I only get those thoughts every few days and usually it is only when I get close to u/s day...nevermind that I completely stop breathing in the dr's office as I wait to hear the hearbeat.

I think it does get better though. I am sure a multiple pregnancy brings a lot more worries but I think you and the babies will be fine. We are all here for you!

mel72 · September 2009

It's so hard not to worry. My best advice is one day, one week, one u/s at a time.

mrsolsenk12 · September 2009

I NEVER relaxed before an u/s. I kept telling myself that I would relax after the 1st tri, then after 20 weeks, then when I got into the 3rd tri and it never happened. After the baby (or babies in your case) are born the worries still continue. It is just part of being a mom.

Cheshirita · September 2009

You're not being a drama queen and as all the other pps have said it's totally normal and all u/s appts will make you at least a little nervous and sometimes put you into high anxiety. I agree that it's best to take every day, week, and u/s as they come and try and enjoy it.

armywife76 · September 2009

I know what you mean. I go for long stretches of time and forget I'm even pg. Then I have to compulsively press on my bbs to make still they're still sore! You are not being a DQ, think that's just part of it, especially after having gone through IF. Hang in there and GL at your next u/s.

Radler · September 2009

I remember that feeling at the RE ultrasounds.

For me, the fear of bad news only got better after my big ultrasound. And even now, I feel best after an OB appointment--it's like I get to hit "reset" on all the worries.

Hang in there. I've got a good feeling about these three!!

Believer09 · September 2009

I think it's totally and completely normal. I'm such a freakazoid that I was already scared when my RE took the wand thingy out of me. I was already scared because I knew I had to wait 2 weeks until the next u/s! I really only enjoyed the moment in the moment--know what I mean? As soon as it was over, I was already worried that would be the last time I saw my baby...

I've only got 1 baby---and I know I probably won't EVER relax. I wish someone could beam me into the 30th week.

JM1977 · September 2009

Just wanted to say I'll be thinking of you this afternoon. It seems like what you're experiencing is totally normal. Hang in there!!

BeccaLandes · September 2009

I always get really scared before my ultrasound. I am convinced they will find something wrong. But every time, things are fine. I am pretty sure things are also fine with you-- and you would know if it was otherwise.

From what I understand, this doesn't go away. But at least we have each other for support as we constantly worry!

MaybeBabyTime · September 2009

I know you are scared and nervous especially because you are carrying multiples...but all I can say is that I was/am the same way with a singleton. I will never ever forget my 2nd u/s at 8 wks. It was transvag and as soon as I laid on the table, I cried. The u/s tech didnt know what was wrong and I just told her I was petrified to see what was on the screen ( heartbeat vs. no heartbeat). She was wonderful and let DH come in early (usually they do the measurements first before letting DHs come in) and told me right away she saw a heart flickering away.

I feel your worries and I know they must be escalated with mutliples. Hugs to you....you aren't alone.

weemodin · September 2009

I was scared every.single.time I had an ultrasound. We had a pretty bad subchorionic bleed in the first tri, and from then on, I was convinced that when we went in for an u/s we would get bad news...

I think it's harder when you're having multiples because the fact is that things do go wrong more often. But, that said, the odds are still on your side that everything is going to be just fine!

Hang in there.

sasa625 · September 2009

I was terrified before every u/s and doctor's appointment, and my pregnancy was by no means high risk. I think part of it is that I felt like the pregnancy was such a miracle that I couldn't imagine it going so smoothly. DH was always sooo excited before our appointments (especially when we were having an u/s), but I couldn't get excited because I was convinced something would be wrong. I don't have much advice for you, other than to say do your best to focus on the excitement of being pregnant and how wonderful it will feel to see your babies. And just know that what you're feeling is normal!! As my doctor told me, you are a mommy now... you are in for a lifetime of worrying from now on

Temp159135562506975 · September 2009

I remember when i got Dr. Luke's book i was afraid to start reading it- for the same reason... but I'm glad i started reading it sooner than later b/c there is a lot to know (and do) to keep your babies safe- and that book is great for it.

you'll worry your whole pg, probably... and then sadly, the worry gets worse when the baby is out- but different. You learn to deal with it. For me- lots of prayer

sassybride05 · September 2009

Hey! I could have written this post. I feel exactly the same way you do and my next ultrasound isn't until next Tuesday. I'm totally psyching myself out that something is wrong. My bb's aren't as sore but I feel sick almost all day...so I guess that is good. I don't really have a reason to think something is wrong but like you I just can't stop worrying! We are only a few days apart!

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