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I dont understand this either...
Along with not understanding why some women have a c-section or being induced for no medical reason I dont understand the not wanting to try and breastfeed...
I know this is a big deal and a lot of women are one way or the other but the ones that really eeerk me are the mothers who just dont try to nurse because they get the formula for free...
I totally understand if you can't nurse or work full time or just medically cant do it...its the ones that can that just dont try for the main reason "I dont want to ruin my boobs"
Maybe cause im soooo for breastfeeding I have a bad look on those who can and don't try...I am very small and have small breasts and I nursed for 2 years...haha just because they are small does not mean you dont have enough..just heard this excuse from a 16 year old...
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Re: I dont understand this either...
All the girls on 16 and pregnant didnt want to breastfeed because they're boobs would get saggy.... Im not going to lie, Im afraid of this, but DH promsied if they got saggy he would pin the back up for me with thumb tacks (sounds promising, right?)
I want to BF strickly for the reason that is cheap. Not free since you have to buy other stuff for it, but as close to free as you get with babies.
-m/c at 11w2d due to partial molar 2008 -m/c #2 2009
Beautiful daughter born February 2011
**Ultimate TTCALer 2009**
Not to start something, but I don't plan on breastfeeding. It's a personal choice, and I'm fine with it. Neither I nor my sibs were breastfed, and I think we turned out okay.
I don't care what people do, one way or the other, but I do get a little annoyed when people make women feel like they are bad mothers if they don't choose to breastfeed. (I'm speaking in generalities, and not to you personally).
Yup I was a little worried but my boobs are nicer now then they were before I nursed haha...to the girls who always say they dont want to because it will ruin their boobs I usually say...oh my dear your boobs will be fine its your vag that wont be the same hahaha
Not sure I agree with you on this one. Breastfeeding is not for everyone and is definitely a very personal decision. Some people just don't feel comfortable nursing their baby. I tried it, did it for 2 weeks and that was all I could handle. It just wasn't for me. I would stress out so much that it affected my milk supply.
If anything, you can say that I'm just as bad as those who don't wanna mess up their boobs b/c I was gung ho on bfing to lose weight quicker.
Oh totally understand...you can tell the difference from the women who thought it out and made the choice for them and what will work from them compaired to the "girls" who just say ummm no gross dont want to... ya know?
I am one for breastfeeding. I do not shun mothers who dont want to or dont try... its when they start bashing mothers WHO DO breastfeed that bothers me. Like NIP... dont look KWIM? I used a hooter hider (best invention ever) and it got stolen.. so if i get another BFP...ill be making my own to use.
but back on the subject... it is a personal choice.
oh and BTW... my boobs dont sag one bit and I nursed for 11 months.
it is a personal choice. i know women who were abused sexually and don't want to BF. i can understand that. personally i think that breast is best. i do not want to feed my baby chemicals that have been sitting on a shelf in some warehouse for god knows how long.
for those that aren't going to BF, may i ask why? not to attack you, just to understand some of the reasons why women feel that way.
I totally do. And let's face it, any decision based strictly on vanity when it comes to your child is probably not a sound one.
But you tried! thats the whole point..if its not for you then its not...it hurts sooo bad and if I didnt have a midwife there to hold my hand practically through the first 6 months I wouldnt have kept doing it...The real point I was trying to make is thinking it through and trying if you can...who knows my next one might not like my boob and just refuse haha and ill be fine with that..
I have had a really long history of severe anemia, so all the extra iron I take would find its way into the milk. The dr. told me if I really want to BF, we can experiment, but honestly, I just want to go the organic formula route and spare us all the headache. That is the main reason.
Also...okay, I am 5'3 and have a really small frame. And I am a natural DDD cup. I just don't think my back (which already hurts, and will most likely not enjoy pregnancy) can take the extra boob weight. That's selfish, I know, but maybe those of you who suffer from similar endowment disproportion understand what I'm saying.
I am going to try to BF. I believe God made women to have breasts so they could BF. Formula was only made less than 100 years ago so baby orphans could be fed.
On the note of saggy boobs lol.. its the pregnancy its self that causes them to sag and genetics. My IRL friend did not BF at all and she ended up with saggy boobs anyways.
that is interesting. and i have not heard of organic formula, do you have any more info on that? like the name or ingredients?
I hate it when someone refers to a product that Ive never heard of. Because then I want/need it. What is a hooter hider? I feel like I may need that.
-m/c at 11w2d due to partial molar 2008 -m/c #2 2009
Beautiful daughter born February 2011
**Ultimate TTCALer 2009**
I have a friend who did not even try because she had a breast reduction. The Dr. said it was possible she would be able to, but at the end of her pregnancy she was so stressed and overwhelmed by it she decided not to. She said she just felt so much better about everything once the baby was born and was glad she didn't have to worry about it with so much other things to worry about. She also said she did feel like she had fought hard to get her reduction through insurance and she didn't want to "ruin it". I get that I guess. She was happy, baby was happy and fed...that's what matters.
It's not for everyone, but I also think a lot more women would be successful at breastfeeding if we had more access to Lactation Consultants after birth. It can be hard and confusing and a lot of women give up because there isn't anyone there to coach them. I had to pay for mine...$100!
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We supplemented with Organic Formula by Earth's Best. (Had to supplement when I was pg. and m/c because it killed my supply). Similac also makes an Organic Formula but Dr's are critical of it because it is sweetened with cane sugar instead of Lactose (which is what makes breastmilk sweet).
My SILs both use Similac Organic - it does have cane sugar, which is something you have to decide if you are okay with. If you google it, there are several brands of organic formula out there. I haven't gotten to the point where I've picked the brand I want to use. I was going to talk to a pediatrician about it when we got closer, but we haven't been there yet, obviously.
It is really hard to do, I was suprised I survived being so young when I nursed DD but I managed and I'm a big wimp. There were lots of tears the first two weeks.
And the good news....my bb's are just fine and have been since I bf'd. Now they are getting saggy because of my age...and gravity. It's inevitable, they go down and then they stay down.
cool, that is really good to know. i will google and see what other info i can get. nice to know all the options in case a client asks me about it.
oh and totally agree with you about the lactation counselors. there should be one on every corner and they should be free to the public. i would like to see hospitals and ins companies pay their salary.
i am a certified lactation counselor so if anyone needs help i will not charge too much!
Our hospital had an LC, which was great...but my milk hadn't even come in by the time I went home and that's when you really need the guidance!
Yes we need this help!! I swear the pain of nursing the first two weeks was worse the childbirth! I cried sooo much and my back was killing me..but really once I got through that and made it past 6 months (meeting with my midwife and other moms nursing weekly) then it was sooo easy and soooo much easier then other moms I saw having to prepare the bottles and measure everything..plus at night she just slept next to me and would find my boob and eat then go back to sleep hahaha very cute and sweet..
I agree with everyone on here...its a very personal choice...but what was so hard was getting bad looks in public and I wasnt even showing any skin! That is the bad thing I think...we should support women who do nurse and understand those who don't ( well I will only understand those who put thought into it..) sorry its just how I am
If I had to formula feed I'm all about organic only - Earth's Best, Baby's Only .. there's a few brands out there.
Natural miscarriage - April 2009 ~ We love you, 'Blueberry'
Lydia, born July 12, 2010
Labor buddy to Kelly0615
I'm all for breastingfeeding, bf my second son for 14 months, but just as I'm not for extended bf, (you know when your kids can eat solids and live off that and milk), many people are not for bf period.
Everyone has the right to that decision.
I don't want to bring conflict to this board, but I think this post sucks. Mind your own business. You can judge other people for all of the above, but if someone judged you for extended nursing or NIP, you'd freak out.
I was an exclusive bf, and TBH the only other thing I bought was breast pads for when I left the house.
I was 18 when I had ds, I tried to bf....but I had problems with milk production and had to start supplementing with formula. I lasted 6 weeks, and it was tramatic for me.....so painful at times & very frustrating. But I think if I had a lactation consultant to guide me, it would have been much different. All I had was someone at the hospital who thrust the baby at my boobs and said get him hooked up.....I had no clue what i was doing! Thank goodness I had a little help at home since my mom nursed all 3 of us kids.
I think next time, I will do research & get more info to help make it a smooth process. (I was really scared of giving birth and thought if I didn't do anything to get ready, I could delay it and wouldn't have to think about it...yeah, right!)
^This this this! 3 of my friends didn't BF (not even attempt) and they complain about their saggy boobs just as much as I complain about mine (I BF for 3 months).
I don't care what people do as long as they feed their child. I just don't like the whole "I don't want to ruin my breasts" myth because it's not accurate.
I was in the same situation with my first, 18, wanted to bf so bad, but ds wasn't gaining weight and the doctor wanted me to supplement with formula. I only lasted 4 weeks cause with all the supplementing (first week 3 feedings, next week 4 feedings) I just wasn't producing enough.
When ds 2 was born, it was so natural, we had no problems, besides the fact he couldn't get enough.