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My irrational pregnancy fear

goldenleavesgoldenleaves member
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I am terrified of preterm labor. My mom had my twin sister and I at 34 weeks. Our older sister was born at 33 or 34 weeks (5 hours from first contraction until birth). My aunt (moms sister) had one of her babies at 32 weeks, the other at 34 weeks. There hasn't been a baby in my family born weighing over 4 lbs 12 oz pretty much ever.

My mom's water broke when she was around 26 weeks, was on bedrest.

I am absolutely terrified of having this baby early. What if I have PTL and brush it off thinking it's too early? What if my labor is too quick to stop? Uuugh, I know I will drive myself crazy worrying about it, but I am so freaked out about it.

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  • misswhit85misswhit85
    I'm really afraid of that too. They say to contact your dr if you are having more than 4 contractions per hour, are bleeding, have a change in vaginal discharge, or have abdominal bleeding.
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  • WorcbrideWorcbride member
    twins generally come early so I wouldnt count that one.  As for the others, there's been a lot of advances in OB care since those individuals gave birth to their kids.  Talk to your OB about your family history and see what the opinion is on your risk factors.
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  • bakermommy10bakermommy10
    I think it's a common fear, you only want the best for your baby and that is understandable!  We toured the maternity floor at the hospital tonight and we visited the NICU.  There were photos of children that they delivered there and their birth weights.  I must have looked terrified because my DH took one look at me and said "are you alright?".  It freaked me out a little, not going to lie.
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  • rebecca_crossrebecca_cross

    I am sure you have addressed this with your doctors, so they will be watching you.  My best advice would be, learn the signs of PTL and watch for them, you know your family has a history of it and it is probably safe to assume you could end up delivering early.  At the first sign of labor do not blow it off, watch for it and if you even suspect call your doctor.  Better to irritate you doctor with too many calls than to ignore a sign that something could be wrong.  

    In the same token, breath a little easier knowing that your doctor knows about your family history and will probably watching for it too so you are sure to be doubly watched :)  I will keep you in my T&Ps though! 

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  • angie212angie212 member
    I am sorry you are so worried about this!  It is scary to think of having an early baby.  I have a good friend who was worried about the same thing, because of her mom & sister's histories; she just had her baby, and he was only 4 days early.  Hopefully you will break the trend in your family.
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  • goldenleavesgoldenleaves member
    imagerebecca_cross:

    I am sure you have addressed this with your doctors, so they will be watching you.  My best advice would be, learn the signs of PTL and watch for them, you know your family has a history of it and it is probably safe to assume you could end up delivering early.  At the first sign of labor do not blow it off, watch for it and if you even suspect call your doctor.  Better to irritate you doctor with too many calls than to ignore a sign that something could be wrong.  

    In the same token, breath a little easier knowing that your doctor knows about your family history and will probably watching for it too so you are sure to be doubly watched :)  I will keep you in my T&Ps though! 

    At my "intake appointment" when they took all of my history, I don't remember them asking about this at all. Should I bring it up at my appointment on Friday? Or will she think I'm nuts.

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  • WorcbrideWorcbride member
    bring it up
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  • goldenleavesgoldenleaves member
    And it irks me because now its "normal" in my family to have early babies. Everyone keeps saying "Maybe you'll get a Thanksgiving baby instead of a Christmas baby!" like it's a good thing to have your baby 4+ weeks early.
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  • WorcbrideWorcbride member

    imagegoldenleaves:
    And it irks me because now its "normal" in my family to have early babies. Everyone keeps saying "Maybe you'll get a Thanksgiving baby instead of a Christmas baby!" like it's a good thing to have your baby 4+ weeks early.

    I think they're saying that cuz their babies were ok so they assume the same for you (and of course your baby will be ok Smile )

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  • goldenleavesgoldenleaves member
    Good point, all of the babies spent a minimal amount of time in the NICU for being so tiny Smile My mom still brags that I was the favorite baby in th NICU. I weighed 2lbs 12oz and was breathing room air right away, so they all got to hold me. Apparently I was cuddled 24/7
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  • WorcbrideWorcbride member

    imagegoldenleaves:
    Good point, all of the babies spent a minimal amount of time in the NICU for being so tiny Smile My mom still brags that I was the favorite baby in th NICU. I weighed 2lbs 12oz and was breathing room air right away, so they all got to hold me. Apparently I was cuddled 24/7

    wow!  I had a friend who was 3lbs (he's now 6'5") but you take the cake for the tiniest!!  That's amazing!  You obviously come from some strong genes!

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  • goldenleavesgoldenleaves member

    I was in the NICU for 5 weeks, pretty good for how mini I was. I couldn't fit into preemie clothes, so my sister had to give up her Cabbage Patch Doll clothes! LOL!

    I'm a worrier by nature, so I don't want to freak myself out. But I think I would feel better if I at least spoke with my OB about it and she can reassure me that this baby will be just fine

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  • Chari44Chari44

    Just do your best to take care of your self during the pregnancy. Worrying won't make things better, only worse. So expect miracles and for everything to come out great! Don't look back, only look forward. Focus on the positive and that what will happen for you! 

     

    God bless you both!!  

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  • jenay6jenay6

    I would definitely talk to your OB about your fears. I'm sure the OB hears stuff like this all the time. I know I've talked to my OB about everything that scares me or worries me even the slightest. She always laughs and tells me I have nothing to worry about. She did tell me though that she likes the women who ask her about everything they are scared about or wondering about. She says it is better to be certain nothing is wrong or to watch for something you are worried about.

    I also talked to my OB about PTL (there's no history of it in my family, it just scares me) she reassured me everything looks good so far and she gave me a list of all the symptoms and things to watch for. She also told me to call if I even think for a second that something is wrong. Just talk to your OB and I'm sure they will be willing to help calm your fears and discuss the issue with you. GL!

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