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2nd Trimester
Baby Shower-Anyone Else Prob. Not Having One?
I see all these posts about planning and guest lists for baby showers. Is there anyone else on here that probably will NOT be having one?
I got pregnant unexpectedly and to my knowledge no one has plans or even cares to throw me a shower. It isn't so much about the presents, though those would be appreciated, it is more about the atmosphere you have at a baby shower. You know, a bunch of women together celebrating the life of a new baby, I always loved attending them and it makes me sad that I won't have one where the overwhelming joy I feel is directed at myself and not someone else.
Yes, I am whining, but it is what it is.
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Re: Baby Shower-Anyone Else Prob. Not Having One?
That sucks that you're sad about not getting one. I'm completely the opposite.
I'm not having one, but only after insisting that my mother cancel plans to throw 2 for me (different "audiences" require different showers lol). If people are going to buy me stuff, they are going to buy it regardless. The only purpose of me having those showers anyway was to get my friends and family together so I could see them before the baby is born. So technically I wasn't even having a "shower" in the first place. It would have been 2 get togethers since I was going to be specifically asking people NOT to bring gifts.
I think showers are stupid anyway, not the mentality or purpose just what typically goes on during them. I don't like being the center of attention, I don't like gifts (though I'm always grateful), and I think all the fussing and games are lame as hell. All I care about is seeing my family and friends before I can't travel anymore.
I would be extremely surprised if I had a shower. I would absolutely love one, but am by no means expecting it. I also don't really want one for the gifts, but more for the celebration of life that my husband and I have created. I think the games and the excitement of showers are so much fun. (I'm a big time holiday person, so if there's a celebration to be had - I'm all there)
This is the first grandchild on both sides, and also the first great-granddaughter on both sides. My mom is a very very very excited grandma and has been showering us with gifts since about week 15 - so like I said - gifts would not be the reason I want one!
My friend said she wanted to throw one the day I told her I was pregnant but she's a full time working mom of a 5 year old with a life of her own so I don't want to push her to do something she doesn't have time for. Plus the only people who would be going is my mom, MIL, and my friend. So I just don't feel a need for one. I don't have many friends...actually I only have her, and I don't have any friends at work. So It's not necessary. I only really made a registry as a wish list for myself lol. My MIL is notorious for not buying of any registry.
Plus I don't really like having people buy stuff for me. I hated my bridal shower, being the center of the whole room. And having act so happy to get gifts that I had wanted anyways and knew someone was going to get for me.
Also my parents and Inlaws live 3 hours away so timing sucks.
I probably won't get one.
It kind of makes me sad, too. Especially since on one of the last posts of this someone made the point that if your friends/family aren't throwing you one, it's because they don't like you enough to bother. It's been bugging me since I read that.
The majority of my family isn't even in the country, and the one girlfriend I have who asked if I was having one can't afford to throw one, so I guess I'm out of luck. Oh well. We had a family-only wedding, and my family only complained later that they weren't invited to my bachelorette party. I was practically in tears every time someone harassed me about that, because I had to explain that no one bothered to throw one, or even ask me if there was one. Ah well.
totally agree. Would much rather have a family BBQ with everyone and not make it "Baby, Baby, Baby"
*IF* I have a shower, it will be a "surprise" shower from the wives of the people my husband works with(he is in the marine corps) and might be combined with the other wife who is almost exactly a month behind me in pregnancy, even more so because we are both having boys. Makes me a feel a little less special... and on top of that, I feel even more jipped because I never had a bridal shower because my husband and I got married on very, VERY short noticed(well, according to the IL's, but that's only because my parents were less likely to freak out about us getting a court house marriage and are very understanding and give amazing advice LOL)
but oh well, family is still spoiling the little ko-bear rotten and he isn't even born yet!
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I agree as well...I am having a shower but it's centered around the Seahawks game and the only shower game that will be played will be 'who can dink beer out of a baby bottle fastest!'. (Not me of course, but you get the idea!) I think the idea of a "meet the baby" party would be a good one for you. I hadn't heard about these untill i started posting on 'the bump'.
I kind of hope someone will step forward. I love baby showers, as big a dork as it makes me, I like the stupid games and the pink or blue cakes, I think it is fun and such an awesome way to celebrate the life you created with friends and family. It isn't that I don't have good friends who love me, or family that is supportive, just that I don't think any of them would be willing, and at 21 weeks nobody has offered anything yet.
Nice to know I am not alone though. I understand different people not wanting one too. I have always been most comfortable on the stage (In high school I always had a lead roll in the musicals and tried out for every solo or duet available in choir) so I don't have an issue being center of attention.
This is exactly how I feel. I'm not a fan of showers at all -- attending them or having them. I didn't have a wedding shower and I don't plan on having a baby shower. My friends keep nagging me about this because they really want to throw me one, but I refuse. I hate the idea of having a party (even if I'm not the one throwing it) where people are expected to bring gifts. If people want to buy me gifts, they can, but I'm not going to basically ask people to give me gifts by having a shower. Plus, as others have said, I also hate being the center of attention and can't stand those stupid shower games.
I am having a baby shower and my mother is throwing it because I did not have a wedding shower due to my friends fighting over planning it after me gathering people's addresses and them making me do a bridal registry. when they never threw me one and each blamed each other my mother promised that she would have my baby shower when I decided to get pregnant to avoid non-family members not fulfilling their promises. There and I was very upset about not having a wedding shower especially since I had a destination wedding and was never able to celebrate with many my marriage. Plus since I didn't have a shower or a "real" wedding according to many I did not receive any gifts which pissed me off since I always give others very generous gifts.
A friend from work has no one who cares enough to throw her a shower so she is throwing her own which I see nothing wrong with or have your husband and family plan a little something..
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