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I'm losing my fcuking mind.

My newborn will not sleep at night.  She either cries and cries and cries all night long or has her eyes WIDE OPEN and wants to be held constantly.  I haven't slept in three days.  My two year old cries if you so much as hint at saying "no" to one of his requests.  Then, his loud crying wakes DD up.   I can't wait for DD to be over this newborn period.  I'm losing my mind.

Re: I'm losing my fcuking mind.

  • I could have written this.  I was just talking to my SIL about the fact that DS was up 5 times last night and DD was up 2X.  I am so tired, I can't function.  I need to go to Target to get diapers and brocolli, but I am afraid to drive.  I am not pleasant to be around and I am going nuts.  DS will be 6 month old on Saturday and I am going to Ferber him this weekend.  I will hate it, he will hate it, but I need to be a person again.
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  • ((hugs)) hang in there!

    are you open to cosleeping?  that might help.  I do it b/c I'm too lazy and tired to be up all damn night. 

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  • (((((((((hugs)))))))))))).  I am sorry. 
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    Have DH stay up with her tonight and get some sleep. You need it. Don't ask him to stay up.. tell him! If you need to.. have a heart to heart about it. Sometimes if I ask, DH thinks that the problem is not as serious as it really is. That's why I said tell him. Hang in there.?

  • I'm so sorry  :(  It's so hard. I don't have that particular problem, but my dd was waking every hour and I was not coping well. All I can say, is as they get older, they do sleep longer stretches, so hang in there. Now, if I'm lucky I get (1) 3.5 hour stretch and then another 1.5-2 hour stretch. And I know what you mean re: the toddler- my 3 year old has been screaming at me on and off ALL.DAY.LONG
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  • ::Hugs::  You'll blink and be planning your newborn's first birthday party.  It is truly all encompassing when you're dealing with a newborn and new sibling, but the time passes so quickly.  Hang in there, and start recruiting help whenever you can!
  • Find a way to take a nap if you can.  The stuff that needs to be done will still be there later.  DS didn't sttn until 16months.  Trust me, you need a break and a nap.  See if DH can help a bit so you can regroup.  My house looked like sh*t but my kids were tended to.  Hang in there!
  • That's the worst. ?Take your DD outside in the morning, lunch, and evening times. ?it is supposed to help them adjust to being awake during the day. ?At night, go into survival mode and do whatever you gotta do to get some rest. ?Will she co sleep? ?Swaddled? ?
  • We swaddle her, but she hates it.  I'm a little scared to cosleep because I did that with DS and he fell out of the bed twice.
  • I'm really sorry. can you pick up/put down? sometimes i had to do it a LOT in one night but once he sort of knew I was going to comfort him, he was good. I didn't have to do any major CIO until about 7mo. Also, what about reflux or other medical issues? Can you prop her up or keep her elevated after a feeding (or meds)?

    as for the 2 yr old -- honestly, it sucks but I've learned early to let him cry or go into time out --- we might have a bad phase for a week or more. but in the long run, you have a lot more happiness and good behavior. I know that is VERY hard to do when you have a newborn and you are tired as hell...hang in there.

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    I'm really sorry. can you pick up/put down? sometimes i had to do it a LOT in one night but once he sort of knew I was going to comfort him, he was good. I didn't have to do any major CIO until about 7mo. Also, what about reflux or other medical issues? Can you prop her up or keep her elevated after a feeding (or meds)?

    as for the 2 yr old -- honestly, it sucks but I've learned early to let him cry or go into time out --- we might have a bad phase for a week or more. but in the long run, you have a lot more happiness and good behavior. I know that is VERY hard to do when you have a newborn and you are tired as hell...hang in there.

    Her kid is 2 WEEKS old.

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    imagevccake:

    I'm really sorry. can you pick up/put down? sometimes i had to do it a LOT in one night but once he sort of knew I was going to comfort him, he was good. I didn't have to do any major CIO until about 7mo. Also, what about reflux or other medical issues? Can you prop her up or keep her elevated after a feeding (or meds)?

    as for the 2 yr old -- honestly, it sucks but I've learned early to let him cry or go into time out --- we might have a bad phase for a week or more. but in the long run, you have a lot more happiness and good behavior. I know that is VERY hard to do when you have a newborn and you are tired as hell...hang in there.

    Her kid is 2 WEEKS old.

    ok. thanks for letting me know. I did pu/pd super early and it worked for me (e.g. comforted DS and well as the bonus of comforting me not to have a crying baby), but of course, different things work for different babies/families.

  • IKWYM, but just hang on because it won't last forever.  I know it feels like forever when you're in the thick of it, but as you well know, they grow up fast and she'll be sleeping through the night before too long.  Do you have anyone to give you a break when needed...you know, so you can lie down and nap some?  I feel for ya!  I really do!
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