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For those with 2 or more LOs...

BearkatLouBearkatLou member
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What were some things that you found important (like BF vs FF, milestones, etc) with your first parenting experience that now, you feel isn't that big of a deal.

I'm just wondering if we will all still be freaking out about the same stuff with our next LOs.

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Re: For those with 2 or more LOs...

  • joseysbridejoseysbride member

    Everything!  LOL!

    Seriously, I think that after having one child I am just, in general, a much more "go with the flow" type of person.  I think the first time around it is so easy to get wrapped up in things, especially during those sleep deprived months of the first year, that you forget to stop and remember that your baby is a human not a robot and sometimes you won't be able to predict their every move.

    The one thing that I am still a stickler on is sleep, though.  If either one of my kids needs a nap or it's bedtime, I will not compromise that.  It is just torture on everyone when you have a child who is overly tired, imo.

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  • kiki-Wkiki-W

    with chase i am not stressed at all. i was so worried i would do something wrong, or that sophia was supposed to be on a sched, or have a routine i stressed myself out.

    eventually i learned to listen to my baby and do what they needed. not worry so much about what she was supposed to be doing.

    i feed chase when he is hungry, let him nap where ever, whenever.. i just let him be a baby and don't try to make so many rules. 

    I let him show me what to do .. now i can't believe how easy a baby is.... too bad i didn't think so when i only had 1!

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  • PeskyPesky member

    Definitely the BF vs. FF.  I still had some guilt when I weaned DS earlier than anticipated but not as much knowing how well DD did and how much better I felt after I had weaned.  The fussy periods -- you know it will pass so tend to be a little more tolerant and less freaking out.  Constipation -- you realize it occasionally happens and just monitor for when some intervention might be needed.  The occasional temp -- again you monitor but don't freak out until it's warranted.  The order of introducing foods and when.

    There are still a lot of the same frustrations and anxieties but I just find this time around I'm a lot more relaxed and calmer because I know how it all turns out. 

    ETA:  Oh and like pp, I'm still a stickler for some things like any set nap times, feedings etc.  Push it and you know meltdown is ahead.  And I'm also more ready to listen to my gut.  If I think my kid is sick, I'm usually right.


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  • cmyers6278cmyers6278 member
    Ditto PP. Way more relaxed about everything, especially milestones.
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  • madhatter2003madhatter2003

    I'm much more laid back. I realized than 99.9% of what I worried about with DD really doesn't matter in the big picture....kids will do their own thing on their own time schedule for milestones, and just because your kid may be not doing what you want does not mean you are a bad parent (ie tantrums WILL HAPPEN TO YOU TOO!). 

    I am trying to enjoy the day to day things more. Time really does go so incredibly fast, and I want to remember the little moments more this time around. I don't care that much that he's not sleeping all night since I know one day he will, and those late night cuddles will end, etc.

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  • IselaCidIselaCid member
    I may be more laid back, but the things that were important to me are still important to me, things like BFing, co-sleeping, wearing etc etc.  I am enjoying the day to day more and not so worried or bothered about the little things that worried me before.  Waking up in the middle of the night just isn't as big of a deal when you know how quickly the time will go.
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