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**roxyttandme**

picaronapicarona
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How are you doing tonight?  I've been thinking about you a lot.  You had such a unique and difficult situation, and I'm not a prayer person but I send you positive vibes all the time.  I hope you're getting the support you need here.  I know no one else has gone through what you have, but we're still here to give a shoulder and an ear when you need one. 

I just don't want you to feel like you're reaching out and no one is reaching back.

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    Wow... I don't know what to say. The support I have gotten on thebump has been amazing. So many people such as yourself have reached out to me. It is something I never expected- but, I am so grateful. I don't know what I would do without the bump and you ladies. Of course, DH and I are a united force, but I don't always want to cry to him. When I do, it just makes him cry and it rips me up to see him in pain.

    I know we all of suffered a tramendous loss and some of us numerous losses. All our stories are different with a similar heartache. You are right in that I haven't yet found anyone that was put in a position to feel like they had no choice but to terminate. It has been so very tough to terminate our baby. I wouldn't even know where to begin to express what it was like to sign a consent form for a dr. to end our child's life. We just love her so much. My body, heart and mind aches for her constantly. I know we all can relate.

    Thanks again for the kind words and for thinking of me. I can't tell you how much it means to me. 

    Thank you, 

    Elizabeth

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    This board is amazing, isn't it?  I'm glad you're finding the support you need here, especially when others IRL (I'm looking at YOU, mil) are not so supportive.

    I just can't imagine what that was like.  I know you love Haleigh enormously because the decision you made was an incredible act of love and the biggest gift you could have given her.  It's not the same situation, but my sister and her H had to make the decision to remove their baby from life support after 3 days. It was 15+ years ago but it is still the hardest thing she's ever done.  I know the pain both of you feel is indescribable, but you both did the best thing you could do for your babies.

    I'm the same way with my H, I hate to cry in front of him because I know it hurts him.  But then I hold it in and cry at a completely inappropriate time like rush hour traffic, and that's no better (I'm sure my fellow commuters would agree Stick out tongue) It's a hard role, to be strong with each other and comfort each other, but to grieve yourself at the same time.

    Anyway, this is turning into a novel.  I'm thinking of you and I hope every day gets a little bit better for you, one day at a time.

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