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I'm really intrigued by the number of ladies who seem to receive little to no baby help from their SO.  It sucks! 

With the poll, I'm not referring to who takes care of LO during the day if your a SAHM--I'm talking about the part of the day when both of you are home or during the weekends.

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  • ForForeverForForever
    I'm also surprised by how some guys do nothing or next to nothing. Coming here helps remind me how good I've got it.
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  • rebus82rebus82
    DH does most everything in regards to DS on the weekends and at night before bed specifically because I am a SAHM and watch him during the day and overnight every night during the week. Over the course of the week I'm still doing more of the work, but it's split about as evenly as possibly with DH going to work.
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  • kittykatloverkittykatlover
    i ebf, so there is not much dh can do to help with feedings. he's a great diaper changer though!
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  • zoieglowzoieglow member
    I wouldn't say that I'm "stuck" doing the bulk of the work. I do it because I'm on maternity leave and he works so that's the way it is for now. And it will probably be that way afterward too because I enjoy doing it. BUT I ask for DH's help a lot and he always does it happily - whether I need a nap, a night out with friends, or help getting things done.
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  • grinsandgigglesgrinsandgiggles member

    DH does part of the duties, however, he works a lot (then comes home and has to sleep).  I don't mind. :)

    ETA:  Just read the above part - sorry, I don't always read the above part with polls.

    When he's home and awake, he does most of the work...but that's because that's his only time with him otherwise it would be 50/50.

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  • mickey84mickey84 member

    imagerebus82:
    DH does most everything in regards to DS on the weekends and at night before bed specifically because I am a SAHM and watch him during the day and overnight every night during the week. Over the course of the week I'm still doing more of the work, but it's split about as evenly as possibly with DH going to work.

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  • mrsjazzsingermrsjazzsinger
    DH works a 12 hour (counting commuting time) night shift 4 days a week, and then sleeps during the day. He gets about 3-4 hours out of the day on those days to spend with DD and I and he is super helpful then. Weekends are closer to 50/50 because he stays on his up all night/sleep during the day schedule and he can take care of DD's middle of the night wake ups and I get to sleep for 8-9 straight hours :)
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  • kklickkakklickka member
    DH helps me as much as he can, but he works and goes to school so between those and studying, he doesn't have a lot of time.  He does make sure that I get to sleep in at least once a week, which is nice.  He pitches in as much as possible, but it's still not a lot.
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  • Suparstarz714Suparstarz714 member
    I think it is my own fault that I get no help with baby... i started out not wanting him to help... and now that I want it he doesn't know how to do things the way I want... I do have to say he does most of the cleaning for me and that helps. 
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  • Nurse_NikkiNurse_Nikki

    Im really lucky, DH helps with everything.

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  • mariannerulesmariannerules
    DH and I are still so new to this parenting thing, but he is really great already.  I really lucked out!  If he could he would totally be a stay at home dad.
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  • borc0080borc0080
    I wish there was an option in between "50/50" and "I do the bulk of the work."  I voted 50/50 because it's the closest, but I'd say I do more of the baby care than DH.  However, I'm perfectly satisfied with the amount of time he spends caring for DD, particularly because he's been willing to take an overnight feeding since the beginning. 
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  • jolis_petits_bijouxjolis_petits_bijoux
    I SAH.  It's about 50/50 when DH is home.
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  • katie_cjkatie_cj member

    My FI is great with Jacob.  I EBF, but there's a lot of things that he does with Jacob, bathtime, diaper changes, tummy time, playtime, the list goes on and on.  I adore watching my two men cuddle each other, it makes my heart melt.

    That being said, the only thing FI wasn't stellar about was getting up at night for any reason, which isn't such a big deal now that Jacob STTN.  It's not that he didn't want to, but it was quite the hassle just waking him up and getting him functionning.But we do split the week-end.  We both get  a day to sleep in.  On his day, I nurse, but then I go right back to bed, FI does all the burping/changing.

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  • madonnadouwannamadonnadouwanna
    We're pretty close to the 50/50, but I think by default most women take the majority of the baby responsibilties.  DH is great about weekends getting up early with her so I can sleep and I watch her while he takes his own nap (which he loves to do on weekends).  I can't complain because if I ever needed more help, DH is ready to provide.  I couldn't imagine doing this without his help!
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