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What a weird feeling dropping your baby off w/ a stranger

SeaSoulSeaSoul member
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Thankfully, our childcare saga has ended.  We found a great SAHM with a 7.5-month-old daughter who's taking on 2 other kids (the 2nd has yet to be placed) in her home.  It's all legal and on the up-and-up.  She has a background in childcare, super nice, excellent references, very professional, green home with HEPA air filtration system, and THE RIGHT PRICE.  We get a very good vibe from her and her hubby.

So, today was Cal's first day w/ her...I went home for lunch as usual and dropped him off on my way back to work.  I feel really good about this, but still...I just dropped him off at a virtual stranger's house.  But, surprisingly, I am less affected than I was the first day I dropped him off at our friend's house (who cared for him over the summer)...probably b/c that was the first time anyone other than us and my parents had cared for him. 

Anyway, I'm glad that whole saga's over.  I still wish *I* were the one spending afternoons with him, but this is a good alternative.

Childhood cancer (DH) + chemo + radiation = 0 sperm.
LO #1 - 1 unmedicated/self-monitored IUI w/ donor sperm.
LO #2 - 1 m/c, 2 BFNs, 4th IUI worked (unmedicated/self-monitored with new donor sperm).
Life is beautiful!

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Re: What a weird feeling dropping your baby off w/ a stranger

  • dana316dana316 member

    That sounds like a great arrangement for Cal...but hard for Cal's Mommy.  I'm not even a Mommy yet and I'm already dreading having to drop Caroline off somewhere because of work. 

    But how great that he will have kids his age to play with!

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  • JGirl2005JGirl2005 member
    it's hard, but you took the first step and it was a must do in your situation.  I hope you get used to it and I'm sure he doesn't entirely notice yet.
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  • LucyPevensieLucyPevensie member
    I think this is great, I am SO SO happy you guys have found something that works.  And does this arrangement still allow DH to work fewer hours?
    Wheee!
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  • SeaSoulSeaSoul member

    imageLucyPevensie:
    I think this is great, I am SO SO happy you guys have found something that works.  And does this arrangement still allow DH to work fewer hours?

    Yes!!  Although, he's unhappy in his position and looking for a new job so chances are, if he gets one, it will be full time (not a lot of PT options).  So, that would suck from a childcare standpoint (having Cal in daycare FT), but perhaps worth it for DH to be happy.

    Childhood cancer (DH) + chemo + radiation = 0 sperm.
    LO #1 - 1 unmedicated/self-monitored IUI w/ donor sperm.
    LO #2 - 1 m/c, 2 BFNs, 4th IUI worked (unmedicated/self-monitored with new donor sperm).
    Life is beautiful!

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