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Big fight with DH

meyemn28meyemn28
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I told him I was going to get my car washed today.  It hasn't been washed in nearly a year ( I know, horrible) and I just drove it on a long trip on the freeway and it is full of dead bugs in front.  There is a place here that will wash everything inside and out, polish, shampoo the interior, everything for $30.  Prior to us getting married I would take my car there every few months.  I thought it was worth the price to not have to buy all the car cleaning products myself and spend the time.

Well DH freaked out saying that it's a waste of money and I should wait until winter and then go out and clean it myself.  I explained that the car needs to be cleaned now, I'm not going to take DD out in winter while I wash the car and we both freeze, and I don't have the time to spend wasing the car to save just a few $ after the cost of buying all the products.  He went off saying that since I SAH now I should have the time to wash the car myself and I can use the same products we use in the house.

I'm so frustrated with him yelling and scrutinizing every dollar.  He goes to a bar and has drinks with his family one day a week, plays poker a few times a month, took a trip to Vegas a few months ago (he did win it, but he still spent money), the other night ordered pizza even though we had perfectly good food at home that I offered to make.  I never go out or do much of anything.  Is it crazy to want to catch a break by getting the car washed rather than spend a day trying to do it myself while juggling taking care of our DD?

 

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  • ~Soleil~~Soleil~
    Have you mentioned this to him? It will probably start another fight but maybe he'll get the idea. Or you can ask him to do it for you and maybe he'll suggest the car wash place! GL!
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  • ExpectingAngelExpectingAngel
    This may sound harsh but IMO it sounds like you're supposed to save $ b/c you don't work, while he can still spend b/c he does work. That $hit wouldn't fly here. I'd be really mad too.
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  • Bernadette5Bernadette5

    I don't think it's a big deal considering you haven't washed the car in over a year! Besides who washes their car themselves in the winter? It's freezing outside! Washing a car is a lot of work! I hate doing it myself.

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  • b.heatherb.heather member
    I'd suggest doing a household budget as well. I love Dave Ramsey's "total money makeover" book, which outlines how to do a budget together (together being the operative word). It may be that once he sees on paper how much his activities are costing that it changes his perspective a bit. I know my DH almost always underestimates how much he spends when he is out with his friends - it is just easy to lose track.
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