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"Your baby is going to be so spoiled" - Vent

Lolita0626Lolita0626
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My parents had a BBQ yesterday and my aunt ended up going over. ALL DAY she kept saying my LO was going to be so spoiled and take advantage of me and DH because we "carry him too much". Then she proceeded to tell me he probably isn't gaining enough weight if I just bf him, that I should give him formula too because bm isn't enough. Ugh, people can be so annoying sometimes.
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  • jlfs97jlfs97
    WOW I feel for you! I have an aunt like that too. as much as you want it to go in one ear and out the other, its sooo hard to do sometimes!  PS. I EBF my DD and she has already gained a solid 4 lbs in less than 6 weeks...SO poop on her....LOL :)
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  • katypressonkatypresson
    How freakin rude!!! Sounds like my family! Not looking forward to the holidays...GRRR! Angry
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  • BigIsland07BigIsland07 member
    Tell her to shut her face. lol. No seriously, next time tell her that you, your husband and your pediatrician know what's best for your baby and that you'd appreciate her support, not her criticism.
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  • NDwife07NDwife07

    Don't we all have someone like that in our lives?

    Ugh. As someone who is pretty AP-oriented, I deal with these comments a lot.

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  • Lolita0626Lolita0626
    imageNDwife07:

    Don't we all have someone like that in our lives?

    Ugh. As someone who is pretty AP-oriented, I deal with these comments a lot.

    Same here. A lot of my family members have a problem with me practicing AP. IMO, as long as my baby is healthy and happy they should just let it be. Too bad it never works out that way haha. 

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  • t&dmt&dm member

    Ugh!  I hate when people say things like that and here is something my mom used to say to me:

    "You can spoil vegetables, you can spoil fruit but you cannot spoil a child."

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  • t&dmt&dm member
    imaget&dm:

    Ugh!  I hate when people say things like that and here is something my mom used to say to me:

    "You can spoil vegetables, you can spoil fruit but you cannot spoil a child."

    I use this saying all of the time!

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  • Mrslove78Mrslove78 member

    imagekatypresson:
    How freakin rude!!! Sounds like my family! Not looking forward to the holidays...GRRR! Angry

    OMG, don't make me think about that...  I'm never any fun, but NOW eeeekk...

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  • Mrslove78Mrslove78 member

    imagekatypresson:
    How freakin rude!!! Sounds like my family! Not looking forward to the holidays...GRRR! Angry

    OMG, don't make me think about that...  I'm never any fun, but NOW eeeekk...

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  • webMistress0609webMistress0609 member
    I love the whole "you have to give them formula, bm isn't enough" thing. My grandma said that to me too. One, my son has gone from 6 lbs at birth to 14.4 pounds at 3 months. Two, what did people do before formula was invented? Ugh.
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  • Lolita0626Lolita0626
    I think there is a big difference between holding a child and giving them a lot of attention vs. spoiling them with material things (when they are older, I mean). WDYT? I feel that giving your child attention and playing with them, holding them and tending to them when they cry will probably eventually lead to a well adjusted child. It puzzles me how many of my family members think these are bad things to do.
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  • t&dmt&dm member

    imagevjrun21:
    I think there is a big difference between holding a child and giving them a lot of attention vs. spoiling them with material things (when they are older, I mean). WDYT? I feel that giving your child attention and playing with them, holding them and tending to them when they cry will probably eventually lead to a well adjusted child. It puzzles me how many of my family members think these are bad things to do.

    Exactly, this is what I meant in my PP.  Can't spoil a child with too much love and attention, esp a baby

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  • monicalynn1979monicalynn1979 member

    How annoying!

     My FIL told DH and I that we were spoiling DD by giving her a bath in a baby bath tub rather than just a sink.  Uh, really??? Tongue Tied

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  • borc0080borc0080
    In my childbirth class, they told us that it's impossible to spoil a baby in their first year of life.  Do I run and pick DD up within 5 seconds of her every cry?  Not a chance.  But DH and I make sure she is clean, feed her whenever she wants to eat, and spend lots of time snuggling with her. 
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