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3rd Trimester
Kelly4476
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My only bit of advice....
Kelly4476
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If your little one can do without it....you are better off not swaddling your baby. I am trying to break my DD of her swaddle one arm at a time and I am failing miserably. It is VERY hard to break, atleast in most babies. Also, my pedi said that it is better anyway to never swaddle b/c babies can become overheated and it increases your SIDS risk. HTH!
P.S.- I am secretly super jealous that you all have these pretty bellies and get to go through the whole process of labor. I loved every minute of it.
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Re: My only bit of advice....
I'm with you.
I hate to diagree but I loved swaddling my first baby. We didn't stop until my daughter was at least 3 months old and then slowly did the one arm at a time. The best book I got after having my little one was "Happiest baby on the Block" it's all about swaddling. I recieved it from a friend with triplets.
Just my opinion...I think until they are at least 3 months old babies have trouble settling themselves down without it. I'm also surprised that your doctor said to never swaddle since that's how the nurses bring them to you the minute they are born in the hospital.
I think your pedi needs to look in medical journals more
I'm surprised you're trying to break her of this so early.
Thanks for the unsolicited advice, though.
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Seriously? I didn't think any of the responses were all that bitchy or crabby. Perhaps you need a good swaddle to help you calm down?
Pot, meet kettle.
You are the one that sounds like they know it all and you have been a mother, for what, 5 minutes?!
Most babies break themselves of the swaddling, not the other way around.
I swaddled my son for five months. He loved it and I wasn't willing to give up my sleep. He was only swaddled in the Miracle Blanket at night. He also didn't roll until very late. I dressed him lightly so overheating wasn't an issue. The only reason I broke him (which wasn't an issue for us as we did it one arm at a time for a few days and then the other and so on as did a lot of my friends without issues - sure some babies have issues. Your baby is also extremely young and likely still experiencing the Moro reflex which swaddling helps with) was because my husband and I were going diving in Cozumel for a few days and didn't want my mil to have to deal with swaddling. It's a comfort for them. I couldn't imagine not swaddling if it makes your baby comfortable and secure.
Every parent has their ways of doing things though.
Why in the world would you want to "break your LO of the habit"? That makes no sense.
This combined with your arched eyebrow in your sig pic are cracking me up!
Actually I said "if your baby can do without" and "in most babies" so I never acted like what I do at my house is the rule. And FYI, I am trying to de-swaddle her b/c she tends to pull the fabric over her face in the middle of the night, but you never asked did you? You just assumed I was a bad mom for trying to take her swaddle so early......dont worry my child is fine
THIS. Exactly.
And you didnt volunteer that info either, we are not mind readers here. I stand by what I said, your pedi needs to learn a little bit more about swaddling.
Are you serious?! Is this MUD?? No one was crabby or bitchy. Well, except for you now...
Um wow really? I think you are the only one acting that way on this thread. Go back to your own board thanks.
We LOVED the Miracle Blanket and will DEF be using it again this time!! I agree, dress them appropriately for the weather and to be swaddled, and yes, for the first 3 months at least, the MORO reflex can keep them from sleeping well.
for this post.
Wow, I can't believe how mean you're all being to the original poster - new moms give advice on here all the time, and I for one appreciate it! I won't always take it, but I'll definitely take it into consideration.
And someone started the rudeness by calling it "unsolicited advice." That was bitchy. She was just trying to help. Sheesh.
Thank you. I was orginally just trying to tell you all something that I wish someone had told me. And just like you said, you dont always have to take the advice. But once someone basically questioned my parenting....well that just brought out the mama bear in me.
It is going to be hard to have open arms for some of these girls on 0-6.....they wont always be on third trimester forever
This exactly. Different things work for different people, and advice from someone who already has an outside baby is valuable. Take it or leave it, but why be rude to her for offering her experience?
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I appreciate that women come back over her to give advice as to what is working for them, but I also find these posts to be a bit dangerous because some first time moms may follow the advice and find it's wrong. My DD hate the swaddle and would bust out of it so it didn't work for us. For other moms I know, the swaddle saved their lives and made sleep possible.
I guess it's a 'take it or leave it' thing but let's remember that every baby is different and while you may think breaking a swaddle is hard, it may be easy for someone else.
Ours is 100% for swaddling as long as possible! Our DS slept so much better being swaddled...once he was too big to swaddle, he didn't have a problem without it...maybe it depends on the baby? I'm going to swaddle this one as long as possible as well
Sorry if you took my comment the wrong way kelly4476. I asked all sorts of questions with my first baby. I'll do the same again with my second. With my second one on the way I realize that he may or may not be the same. I do agree that every baby is diffferent and you should just use your motherly instincts. For my first the swaddling was great. It may not work for the second.
So to make myself clear, I do not really think swaddling is the only way but I didn't get and negative comments about it from my pedi and was surprised that yours was so against it.
I don't like to reply to a lot of the message boards for the exact response that you post seemed to cause. I believe these message boards should be used to help each other and if people are using them to call people names and be rude they shouldn't respond at all. We are mothers and soon to be mothers and should act as such.
Actually, from what I've found, many pedis don't recommend it after that initial time in the hospital where the baby isn't monitored. However, it seems to be a pretty extreme view, saying 'never' swaddle a baby. Here's what Dr. Sears has to say (for those who don't know, Dr. Sears has a very moderate view on most things to do with child-rearing... I
him sooo much!!)
If you swaddle your baby, swaddle her safely. Experiment with different ways of wrapping your baby at bedtime. In the first couple months, some babies like to "sleep tight," securely swaddled in cotton baby blankets. After the first few months, some infants like to "sleep loose," and settle better in loose coverings that allow them more freedom of movement. Both experience and research have shown that swaddled newborns sleep longer, especially newborns that startle themselves by their random, jerky movements. Swaddling contains these babies. But the recent publicity about overwrapping and overheating increasing the risk of SIDS may scare some parents away from the time-honored custom of swaddling. If your baby seems more comfortable and sleeps better swaddled, then swaddle without worry. Recent studies have shown that safe swaddling does not overheat babies.
If you swaddle, be sure to place your baby to sleep on his side or back, and leave his head uncovered. If you swaddle your baby "burrito-style" (tucking each arm in the blanket and folding arms across the baby's chest) be sure not to place your baby prone, since he will not have the use of his arms to help him adjust the position of his face against the mattress. After the first month or two, many babies settle better in loose, sacque-like sleepwear that allows them freedom of movement.
https://www.askdrsears.com/html/10/t102100.asp
That said, I'll try swaddling again... DD1 hated it and slept much better out of it. But I do see the merit in it, so we'll be trying again!