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i wish..

AutumnBride102007AutumnBride102007 member
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that our society would stop making men think that they sperm count is a reflection of their man-hood!! FFS, it's nothing that 98% of men could control! It does not mean their peeps are small..it does not mean they have less testostrone... it means nothing other than their count is low!

It breaks my heart to hear that men won't go for a s/a. I know there are many reasons, each unique to the man who has them..but i'm sure the fear of feeling like "less of a man" is amoung them...and that is not fair because its not true.

Vent over...carry on.

10-8-12: Grant is born!! Now a family of 5! 2-3-12: Totally unexpected BFP!! 12-10-10: Vera and Nora are born! *Beta#1(13dpFET):262*~ *Beta#2(20dpFET)4,835 TWINS!!!!!*~*Beta#3(@6wks)11,032 TRIPLETS!!!!! Baby A h/b: 109. Baby B h/b 112. Baby C h/b *praying* 4-6-10: FET (2 ET)....BFP 1-15-10: IVF (2 ET)..... BFN (1-28) 1-12-10: ER! 21 eggs! 10 to keep, 11 to donate :) 8-11-09: IUI #4 (FSH hCG) BFP .... 9-08: C/P 6-19-09: IUI #3 (FSH hCG) BFN 5-28-09: IUI #2 redo (FSH hCG) BFN 5-08-09: HSG: All clear! 4-21-09: IUI #2 canceled (clomid reaction) 4-1-09: IUI #1 (natural) BFN 9/08: S/A less than 5mil (10% mobile) -varicoseal surgery to fix...results worth it! 5/06: Endometriosis surgery 9/07: off of BCP A rejection is Gods protection. A dissapointment is His reappointment
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  • epiraniepirani
    I agree...I think DH is afraid he will be less of a man if his men aren't the SUPER SPERM he claims them to be!
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  • Abc15379Abc15379 member
    Um...where did this come from? lol.
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  • AutumnBride102007AutumnBride102007 member

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    Um...where did this come from? lol.

    lol... just a vent. I've been noticing that many women's husbands are holding out on having a S/A  and i know that when my DH found out his results he was embarrased...but a woman could have pcos/endo/etc and not feel pressure on her "woman-hood"... so it just makes me mad. lol

    10-8-12: Grant is born!! Now a family of 5! 2-3-12: Totally unexpected BFP!! 12-10-10: Vera and Nora are born! *Beta#1(13dpFET):262*~ *Beta#2(20dpFET)4,835 TWINS!!!!!*~*Beta#3(@6wks)11,032 TRIPLETS!!!!! Baby A h/b: 109. Baby B h/b 112. Baby C h/b *praying* 4-6-10: FET (2 ET)....BFP 1-15-10: IVF (2 ET)..... BFN (1-28) 1-12-10: ER! 21 eggs! 10 to keep, 11 to donate :) 8-11-09: IUI #4 (FSH hCG) BFP .... 9-08: C/P 6-19-09: IUI #3 (FSH hCG) BFN 5-28-09: IUI #2 redo (FSH hCG) BFN 5-08-09: HSG: All clear! 4-21-09: IUI #2 canceled (clomid reaction) 4-1-09: IUI #1 (natural) BFN 9/08: S/A less than 5mil (10% mobile) -varicoseal surgery to fix...results worth it! 5/06: Endometriosis surgery 9/07: off of BCP A rejection is Gods protection. A dissapointment is His reappointment
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  • Abc15379Abc15379 member
    Hmm. What makes you think women with IF/PCOS/Endo etc. don't feel pressure on their 'womanhood'? Maybe you don't, but plenty do. I know at times I felt 'defective' and can totally understand why a man with a low count may feel that way too. I don't really think it's society, but the fact that it is hard to find out there is something medically wrong with you that you can't control. Especially when that thing is preventing you from giving your partner the baby he/she so desperately wants. Just my opinion.
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  • AutumnBride102007AutumnBride102007 member
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    I don't think it's society as much as it is the man himself. Mine had absolutely no issues going in as he knew it had absolutely nothing to do with his manhood.

     

    that's great for you dh... if only every man thought that way.

    10-8-12: Grant is born!! Now a family of 5! 2-3-12: Totally unexpected BFP!! 12-10-10: Vera and Nora are born! *Beta#1(13dpFET):262*~ *Beta#2(20dpFET)4,835 TWINS!!!!!*~*Beta#3(@6wks)11,032 TRIPLETS!!!!! Baby A h/b: 109. Baby B h/b 112. Baby C h/b *praying* 4-6-10: FET (2 ET)....BFP 1-15-10: IVF (2 ET)..... BFN (1-28) 1-12-10: ER! 21 eggs! 10 to keep, 11 to donate :) 8-11-09: IUI #4 (FSH hCG) BFP .... 9-08: C/P 6-19-09: IUI #3 (FSH hCG) BFN 5-28-09: IUI #2 redo (FSH hCG) BFN 5-08-09: HSG: All clear! 4-21-09: IUI #2 canceled (clomid reaction) 4-1-09: IUI #1 (natural) BFN 9/08: S/A less than 5mil (10% mobile) -varicoseal surgery to fix...results worth it! 5/06: Endometriosis surgery 9/07: off of BCP A rejection is Gods protection. A dissapointment is His reappointment
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    I don't think it's society as much as it is the man himself. Mine had absolutely no issues going in as he knew it had absolutely nothing to do with his manhood.

     

    DH is ready to go in the next couple weeks, OBGYN just ordered it. Not scared about his manhood at all. Though, I could see why some guys would take it as a blow...


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  • AutumnBride102007AutumnBride102007 member

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    Hmm. What makes you think women with IF/PCOS/Endo etc. don't feel pressure on their 'womanhood'? Maybe you don't, but plenty do. I know at times I felt 'defective' and can totally understand why a man with a low count may feel that way too. I don't really think it's society, but the fact that it is hard to find out there is something medically wrong with you that you can't control. Especially when that thing is preventing you from giving your partner the baby he/she so desperately wants. Just my opinion.

    ohh no..i def think that both men and women can feel "defective".. and that is completely reasonable and acceptable. Even after my CP I feel 'defective' and upset with my body (even though i know it is nothing i could have controlled)

    What i'm saying is that there is some sort of double standard for men and women when it comes to IF, thats all.

    10-8-12: Grant is born!! Now a family of 5! 2-3-12: Totally unexpected BFP!! 12-10-10: Vera and Nora are born! *Beta#1(13dpFET):262*~ *Beta#2(20dpFET)4,835 TWINS!!!!!*~*Beta#3(@6wks)11,032 TRIPLETS!!!!! Baby A h/b: 109. Baby B h/b 112. Baby C h/b *praying* 4-6-10: FET (2 ET)....BFP 1-15-10: IVF (2 ET)..... BFN (1-28) 1-12-10: ER! 21 eggs! 10 to keep, 11 to donate :) 8-11-09: IUI #4 (FSH hCG) BFP .... 9-08: C/P 6-19-09: IUI #3 (FSH hCG) BFN 5-28-09: IUI #2 redo (FSH hCG) BFN 5-08-09: HSG: All clear! 4-21-09: IUI #2 canceled (clomid reaction) 4-1-09: IUI #1 (natural) BFN 9/08: S/A less than 5mil (10% mobile) -varicoseal surgery to fix...results worth it! 5/06: Endometriosis surgery 9/07: off of BCP A rejection is Gods protection. A dissapointment is His reappointment
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    OK ladies my DH wont go! I am not sure what he thinks about it. I at times feel defective, but I never feel less of a woman. It's more upsetting that DH won't go for the SA. In all reality I'd rather know if DH has issues also, combined with my issues then I would decide to stop trying and look into adoption. 
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  • sazzettesazzette
    My DH has had 4 SA done and he didnt have any issues with it. I don't think it bothers him. He knew he had to get them done to rule out problems and get things done. Im very thankful that he was so open minded about it.
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  • XXXXX222XXXXX222 member

    MH didn't voice any objection to having his SAs.  And actually, sometimes I do feel like less of a woman because of my inability to get pregnant so far.

    I'm religious, but you know what bothers me about the Bible?  I'm sure it was just a reflection of how society thought then.  Every time a couple could not have a kid, it was the woman that was labeled as "barren" and it was acceptable for the man to go find another woman to bare him a child. 

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    OK ladies my DH wont go! I am not sure what he thinks about it. I at times feel defective, but I never feel less of a woman. It's more upsetting that DH won't go for the SA. In all reality I'd rather know if DH has issues also, combined with my issues then I would decide to stop trying and look into adoption. 

    Mari, I would think since you have gotten KU several times that your husband does have Super Sperm!   Sorry to hear he won't ease your mind though.


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    imagemari2003:
    OK ladies my DH wont go! I am not sure what he thinks about it. I at times feel defective, but I never feel less of a woman. It's more upsetting that DH won't go for the SA. In all reality I'd rather know if DH has issues also, combined with my issues then I would decide to stop trying and look into adoption. 

    Mari, I would think since you have gotten KU several times that your husband does have Super Sperm!   Sorry to hear he won't ease your mind though.

    Just because she's gotten pregnant doesn't mean there's nothing wrong with his sperm. 

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    imagemari2003:
    OK ladies my DH wont go! I am not sure what he thinks about it. I at times feel defective, but I never feel less of a woman. It's more upsetting that DH won't go for the SA. In all reality I'd rather know if DH has issues also, combined with my issues then I would decide to stop trying and look into adoption. 

    Mari, I would think since you have gotten KU several times that your husband does have Super Sperm!   Sorry to hear he won't ease your mind though.

    Just because she's gotten pregnant doesn't mean there's nothing wrong with his sperm. 

    Thanks Sulfa I was going to say that. It could be a genetic defect on his part or maybe even chromosome issue. I still would like to know! 

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