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TTC After a Loss
OB appt update (long)
So he walks in and says "YOUR PREGNANT!" DH and I look at him like are you FVCKING CRAZY? 
His excitement dropped quickly after we gave him the "are you effing with me?" look. He said ya as long as they double within 72 hours you are fine and to have hope. Im still not convinced. He couldn't give me a striaght answer as to why they are so low, I thing my tons of second guessing questions made him second guess himself. Don't get me wrong I love my OB and he is a wonderful Doc but I want to know now before its too late and I end up losing a tube or something. He then said well we will see what they betas say on Tues and if they still go up then we should be able to do a U/S in two weeks. I went in wanting a straight answer, is an EP? Is it viable? What the hell is it??
All I got was I have to wait. So Im trying my best to be patient. DH is now on cloud 9 since the doc said everything looks good. BUT IT DOESNT TO ME! Now if something goes wrong AGAIN I have to console not only me but DH cause he gets his hopes so high up there, its like a crash and burn when we lose it. Ugh why I can't I be a normal PG woman where everything is hearts and flowers and babies? I honestly wish I didn't know anything about betas, or numbers, or doubling and I could be that naive girl I once was with my first PG, just happy. Now Im a wreck. Thanks once again for letting me vent.
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Re: OB appt update (long)
I think it is very safe to be guarded at this point. With my 2nd pregnancy, the betas doubled slowly at first then they skyrocketed. We thought we were in the clear - that is until I had a beta of 40,000 with an empty uterus. I ended up having a blighted ovum. Long story short - it can either be viable or not. Slowly rising betas are more consistent with impending loss or ectopic, but that is not 100%. And likewise, appropriately doubling betas doesn't guarantee you anything.
For that reason, I do not and will not emphasize betas to my pregnant patients.
I have my fingers crossed for you! I hope beyond anything that this is your sticky little one. Hang in there.
They are all 48 hours apart, so I guess if you take every other one out, they kinda do double... but Im still not convinced. Im so impatient but I guess I have to wait it out. He said they should be around 400 on Mon (get results Tues). So then I asked and if they're not? He said lets just see what the results are Tues, I will be calling you. Damnit, where the eff is his crystal ball?
Not my RE is out of state at a conference until the 24th, thats why I saw my OB in the first place. Stupid conference.
Thanks for the advice, I think I will do that.
Thank you for your story, although it didn't end well for you and Im sorry for your loss, it does help me deal better with this whole situation. Its nice to have advice from a pro, thank you.
I am really hoping for a positive outcome for you. Like DCA said, high rising betas don't necessarily guarantee anything either.
I'll be looking for your post on Tues. Good Luck, Break a Leg, all those good things!
Oh, Gomez! I'm so sorry you're still waiting. It seems like you've been waiting for weeks now.
How far along are you? 5 weeks?
I really hope that your OB is right, and that all is fine. I'm rooting for you, DH and LO.
Ya according to my LMP I would be 6wks, but I implanted super late so really like 5 1/2 wks.
Ya he said its too early to even see anything, I gues your betas have to be at least 1500 to see a sac. Since Im so far away from it thats why he wants to wait two weeks, I should be at those #'s by then. If I keep rising like I am.
Summer 2011