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Wow..I kind of feel like a failure :(

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DH's best friend is a single guy who has a 17 yr old daughter. Well tonight he was babysitting his daughter's 4 month old baby and he came over here to visit. I was taking care of the baby and it was all going well - he was playing in our Jumperoo and having a good time. Then he started crying. H's bff said he's probably hungry but he didn't have any bottles or formula. Well we have some formula samples, the same kind he eats, and some bottles. So I run in the kitchen and fix him a bottle. I've never fixed a bottle before so I was kind of clumsy. Well he would not take it! He started screaming and wouldn't eat and he just kept getting more and more mad. So friend and baby left. I FEEL SO BAD. I'm a woman, I'm pregnant, and if my child hadn't died, he'd be the same age as this baby. Why was I unable to care for him?! I could cry... :(
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Re: Wow..I kind of feel like a failure :(

  • JEOZJEOZ
    Aww I'm so sorry.   I would be crying, too!  I'm sure it had nothing to do with you or the formula you made!
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  • KateAndMarkKateAndMark
    Oh hun there are a million reason that baby didn't take the bottle. It's nothing you did. He could have been really tired or just had had enough. Don't let it get to you. Your going to be a wonderful Mom.
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  • ibisibis member
    Aww... I'm sorry. Sometimes babies just get upset like that. Moms feel that way with their own babies at times! And it's a lot harder when you don't know him, his routines and schedules and all that. It's not your fault.
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  • VanessaRae9608VanessaRae9608
    I hope you feel better soon. It is DEFINITELY not your fault - babies are SO picky with everything around feeding...
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  • MBZMBZ
    Don't be so hard on yourself! I think DH's BFF was more of a "failure" for coming over without any bottles or food for the baby!  It could have been so many things, he was prob just used to whatever kind of bottle and yours was different. You will be FINE! Smile
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  • Tonya_GTonya_G member
    Babies are suuuppper picky. If the bottle isn't the same type he usually uses, that could be the culprit. They're the same way with sippy cups and silverware once they get older. There could have been numerous other reasons why he wouldn't calm down- overstimulation, he got himself to worked up to eat, who knows! You'll be fine when it's your own baby, because you'll know them- you'll know what every cry means, the best ways to soothe them, their little idiosyncracies! 
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  • garcia15garcia15

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    Don't be so hard on yourself! I think DH's BFF was more of a "failure" for coming over without any bottles or food for the baby!? It could have been so many things, he was prob just used to whatever kind of bottle and yours was different. You will be FINE! Smile

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  • mrsandrews07mrsandrews07
    Its not your fault the baby was upset! Its our motherly instinct that wants to help him and make him stro crying. Shame on his parents for not being prepared with food! Thats terrible. Nothing you did!
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