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Torn...

laurel_howethlaurel_howeth
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I have always thought and knew I was ok with an epidural... never thought other wise. But I was just watching a natural birth and thought... "I can do that". I am not trying to decide. I just don't want to say I will then flake out. I will feel like a failure. Any suggestions or advice?

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  • Autumn_bride2bAutumn_bride2b member
    Go with the flow and see what happens. DOes your hospital have an anesthesiologist on staff 24/7?
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  • CTri17CTri17 member

    if you want to have a natural birth, you really need to do your reading and decide that you can do it and find how you will deal with your pain (music, massage, etc)

    I'm planning on going natural (also planning a home birth) but if I go to the hospital I know there are somethings I DO NOT WANT unless ABSOLUTELY necessary because they will make your pain worse thus necessitating (typically) an  epidural. among other interventions.

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  • CalifloridaCaliflorida member
    i think it's great you are informed on all your options.  your labor will be very unique to you. so take each step (or contraction) as it comes and be open to making decisions as you go along.
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  • ShannonleaShannonlea member
    I havent given birth before but my best advice is to go into the birthing process with an open mind.  If you want to try natural, go for it.  But also dont feel like a failure if you use meds.  And in the end, your baby will make up the birth plan for you. (not in position or low fluid so you need a c-section, etc) 
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  • laurel_howethlaurel_howeth

    imageAutumn_bride2b:
    Go with the flow and see what happens. DOes your hospital have an anesthesiologist on staff 24/7?

     

    Yeah they do. I just don't want to feel like a failure if I decide to go with natural and then need meds.

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  • MrsRebeccaMrsRebecca member
    I am just going to go with it and see what happens. I am 99.9% sure I'll go for the epidural though.
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  • LuckyBride06LuckyBride06 member

    imageMrsRebecca:
    I am just going to go with it and see what happens. I am 99.9% sure I'll go for the epidural though.

    Me too. When I was visiting my SIL in the hospital, I heard a girl in the next room giving birth w/o drugs and this poor girl sounded like she was dying. That kinda scared me. I'm okay with getting an epi. I'm going to go with the flow and see how I feel.

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  • cabinwifecabinwife
    I'm in the "see how it goes" camp too.  I'd prefer to do it naturally if I can, but at the end of the day all I really want is to get the baby out safely, and I don't think there's anything that would make me feel guilty as long as that was the outcome. 
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  • meandtwomeandtwo
    I went natural with my first and will do the same with this one. I will say it's all in how you take pain. Every woman is different. I had screamers next door to me when I was having my first and felt that is was over kill, but hey I take pain pretty good. I would say just try it out first and if it gets to be to much take the shot.
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  • rubbaduckrubbaduck

    I'm just starting to seriously think about it as well. I had a conversation with one of the guys at work today who described how his wife went through an all natural labor twice with his kids. He said his wife took the pain really well with the first (which took 25 hours), and the second was really difficult and painful (2 hours). But he said both of his kids came out very alert when they were born.

    I have mixed feelings, and need to do some research and talk to my OB. But a big part of me wants the bragging rights to say that I did it and I didn't wimp out and mess with drugs. Then again, millions of women use drugs and have perfectly healthy babies - so why put yourself through that?

    Big decision....the first of many on this roller coaster we are all on.

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