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mishquiche
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What cheers you up?
mishquiche
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Between SIL's news yesterday, my BFN and some raging PMS, I am feeling really down and depressed. I can't remember the last time I felt this bad. I know it will pass, but in the meantime...what do you do when you are feeling down?
And please, don't suggest food! I am a huge emotional eater and already did enough damage on the food front last night.
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Re: What cheers you up?
Misha - I was TOTALLY in your shoes last summer! BFN after BFN and then friends/family getting BFP's on their FIRST TRY in between. There were times that I would just come home and cry in DH's arms.
Here is what we did to keep us from getting depressed/hibernating in our own misery -we planned weekend trips with friends and LET GO. Seriously, we would go places with friends (without kids), drink as much as we wanted, eat anything we wanted and spent money on US. Looking back, I am so glad we did that, because those days are OVER for us now....and I don't miss it one bit, but I'm happy we had that opportunity to do it, get it out of our systems and at the same time, kept our mind off of not being pregnant.
Usually I have to have a good pity party before I can cheer up. I will listen to either some sappy love songs and sulk (by myself) or something with heavy Cello in it (like Cello's Song). I turn the bass way up and lay on the floor and feel the music vibrate through my body.
When I am done with my pity party I go for a walk by myself. It usually clears my head, and I focus on how each step I take is a new one past whatever I am feeling blue about.
Then I am on to some sort of romantic comedy while doing something crafty.
After all three things, it seems like my spirit is refreshed.
I know dwelling with a pity party is far from the norm, but I think we have (as a society) spend so much time focusing on success and happiness and living the dream that we forget the benefit of grieving, and that it is up to you to determine if something has enough value to grieve for it, not someone else telling you if it is worthy.
I'm sorry you're feeling so down, M.
What usually cheers me up is sweet glorious uninterrupted sleep. Also, a night out with friends (sans-hubs) always works wonders for me. I just did this last weekend and feel SO refreshed. I actually made it my resolution to do it more often.
Hugs girl!
Oh misha... I remember where you are right now... one day while we were house hunting, I ran in to get us both a cup of coffee and the guy in front of me was bouncing his 5 or 6 month old on his hip... I couldn't do it and I left the shop in tears and busted out sobbing "HE WOULDN'T STOP BOUNCING THE BABY......" Tony still teases me, but it wasn't funny at the time.... and here we are 2 years later with crazy 14 month old twins! after a year of trying, wonky sperm a couple rounds of clomid and 1 IUI!
I say go pamper yourself... a massage does wonders for me... and I schedule a 90 minute deep tissue.... sigh..... mani/pedi ....
when we were trying I did accupuncture, and I dont know if it helped or not, but it was uber relaxing... and taking 30 minutes to myself in the middle of the week was fabulous!!
1. Cuddle with my cats.
2. Watch Grey's Anatomy or House on DVD. Those are the shows that just suck me in, so I completely forget about my own issues and focus on the fictional issues.
3. Read. I have my "comfort books" that I read when I'm down because I know they'll cheer me up.
I'm sorry you're feeling down, Misha. ::hugs::
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You don't understand the appeal of Benedict Cumberbatch / think he's fug / don't know who he is? WATCH SHERLOCK. Until you do, your negative opinion of him will not be taken seriously.
a really good cry, a long hot shower, and then making plans for something great - a fancy dinner out, a vacation, etc... plan for your life - don't put it on hold.
Oh and the pp mentioned acupuncture - I loved acupuncture. But if that's not your cup of tea, a nice massage or pedicure or something pampering.
And dont' dismiss the power of a good chick flick and glass of wine.
So sorry you have to go through this too! DH and I tried for almost a year to get pregnant and there were definitely times I had emotional breakdowns. I found the best thing was to have my pity party, then talk it over with a friend. I especially found encouragement when I met Laura, a fellow bumpie, who also tried for almost a year. Ashley introduced us at Olive Garden, and it really, really helped meeting someone who went through something similar!
As far as other ways to cheer up, I find some good old booty music can usually do the trick! Baby Got Back and Low are pretty much my all time favs to dance around and make an arse of myself. Can't help but smile then
My go-to when I'm feeling down is to go for a nice long walk (especially on a nice day like this) with my ipod. I turn on whatever music fits the weather (this time of year it would be Sarah Brightman's Eden and John Mayer's Continum) and makes me happy and just walk. The fresh air and good feeling music calms me down and clears my head.
If that doesn't work I go shopping. There is nothing like a cute outfit to make me feel better. I always say, if you look good you feel good.
A good ol' comedy fest. Rent:
Or whatever makes you laugh and then kick back and let the comedy over take you. Laughter works wonders for me!! And stoopid comedy is the best for heartache!
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I like to find a waterfront park and stare at the water, alone, for a while. I think about what's bugging me, but then it also seems to help clear my mind, too. I would also probably rent a stack of movies and watch like 3 in a night. They have to be drama or comedy, though. Like a few pp's have said, I'd want something that draws me in (but also doesn't hit too close to home).
Still sending hugs your way! I hope you can move on soon.
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well I WAS going to say dressing up and going to an expensive dinner..
but other than that, decorating makes me very happy,seeing a movie,being with family and my besties, taking a nap
, having a beauty day, getting a massage
This was me two summers ago...my younger siblings got knocked up sans stable relationship, and I had just had my miscarriage. I gained 20 pounds, so I hear you on the food front.
As far as that goes, I vented and cried as much as I wanted too...I didn't do the whole stiff upper lip thing at home, only when I was out with other people.
You know what makes me happy though is volunteering. There's something about helping other people that makes me my stuff feel smaller. OH, and I highly recommend massage or any spa treatments you want to treat yourself to...relaxing like that is great for the state of mind.
Now, stand alone happy would have to be anything that made me feel like a celebrity. That's part of the reason why we do big birthdays every three years. It's also something to plan, which makes me ultra-happy, and gives me something to look forward to in the year (besides the holidays of course because frankly those can be a headache sometimes).
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