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money matters (slight vent)

1momma1momma member
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I cant understand why first off my MIL is calling and asking for money help, to help her with car insurance, and phone bills, and stuff that she should be able to manage on her own after over 20 years of getting by on her own. She hasnt lost her job, FIL hasnt either, so I dont understand where it is all goingn that they cant pay their bills. I am 20 years younger than her, living on one income and getting by, with just me and DH without having to support everyone else. UGH.
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  • avblissavbliss member
    Don't you hate it when you're the responsible one with money??? DH and I are big Dave Ramsey fans and are constantly advising both our parents since they spend money likes it's never ending, and neither have good retirement funds. I would buy her Total Money Makeover By Dave Ramsey and say you won't lend her a sent till they read that book and start working on the baby steps!
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  • JenniferJaneCJenniferJaneC member
    Same here.  My mom retired too early and doesn't have money to spend on things she likes.  She gets downright angry at me if we can't come see her once a week to treat her to dinner, and anytime she needs cash for something - dog needs a haircut, she's short on rent money, etc., she calls me.  We're on one income too, so it isn't like we have a money tree in the back yard.
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  • Jen&LouieJen&Louie member
    If they are both working, I don't see why this is an issue. They are adults too and need to figure out a way to manage their own money without coming to you.  As hard as it may be, I'd draw a hard line and say no to handouts or loans. 
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  • Anna&MattAnna&Matt member

    imageJen&Louie:
    If they are both working, I don't see why this is an issue. They are adults too and need to figure out a way to manage their own money without coming to you.  As hard as it may be, I'd draw a hard line and say no to handouts or loans. 

    this, exactly. unless it was a one time deal because of an unforeseen expense but it doesn't sound like that's the case at all.

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  • oohgrrl11oohgrrl11

    I wanted to reply to this post earlier but got called away.

    I can totally sympathize with you! My in-laws had the nerve to ask us to co-sign for their bankrupcy payments! They know DH is layed off and my hours have been cut back in addition to expecting our first child. Not to mention this is MIL's 3rd bancrupcy! I told them I was not comfortable doing that. A couple months later they asked us to borrow them $1,000 to buy a car because their truck was repo'd. NO NO and more NO. When BIL's first child was born they didn't even get them a gift and Christmas was 3 weeks later and they didn't get the baby or any of us anything then either. My mom is also horrible with managing her money. She asks to borrow $50 here and there, which I do but it is a little sickening that our parents are not in positions to help us if we ever need help. It just seems like the roles are reversed.

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