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Have tried everything- at my wits end

cedenscedens member
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WHY WON'T SHE SLEEP FOR ME?!?!?!?!

i am so beyond tired - got an hours worth of sleep last night and can't nap during the day for some reason (just can't fall asleep) and LO is up after 1 the past few days! she used to STTN 11pm-6am and now this!  i just dont get why she is fighting sleep- she is miserable- she never gets to REM it seems- and she is fussing with her eyes closed and if i move her, she cries or whines (she is currently making noises and trying to go to sleep- eyes open, eyes closed, eyes open, eyes closed!)

i just dont know what to do- i have tried swaddling, music, vibration, rocking,  holding, sitting her up, laying her down, laying her on my chest, laying her on my chest while rocking, lights off, etc....

have no clue what's going on- she will prob fall asleep in about an hour from now - she has also been doing this for naps!

HELP!

ETA: she has been fed and she has been changed

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Re: Have tried everything- at my wits end

  • vicnikvicnik

    Relax, it's okay, it'll get better.  One thing I've learned with my girls is that I get all flustered and frustrated when something likes this happens only to find out that there is a reason why they're doing what they're doing.  That's the best way I can explain it.  They can't communicate to us what's wrong, but they're not doing it on purpose.  There is a reason, we just need to use our mommy brains/instincts to figure it out.  Sometimes the girls were coming down with a little cold, had a tummy ache, were constipated, had a diaper rash, a low grade temp, were just plain over heated (too much layering), had an allergic reaction to something, etc, etc.  Sometimes once I figured out what was going on after the fact, I felt guilty.  But....we're only human and they don't come with a hand book.

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  • coconuthoneycoconuthoney

    I don't have any advice for you but I wanted to reassure you that it will get better.

    I went through the same thing as you at around that same age. It could be just a phase and hopefully it will pass soon. I remember taking forever to get DS to sleep and he would wake up ten minutes later. I was in tears and felt like a lousy mom. Eventually he got better about sleeping (about 2 weeks later) and I re-introduced the swaddle. Between the two of us we got through it. Hang in there!

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  • cedenscedens member

    thanks girls

    really i have no idea what's up with her- i feel awful i can't help her- she just had a pain crying fit and i just don't know how to relieve it for her Sad

    makes me so upset and i feel like i don't even know my own child! and it makes me sad bc dh hasn't had this happen to him yet so i feel like she is rejecting me in a way

    i am sure this is a phase- (i hope!)- she was doing well for her age for a while and threw this curve ball at me- she likes to keep me on my toes!

    she is still in and out of sleep at this point but i got her to calm down from that pain cry thank goodness (love the glider!)

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  • annibesannibes member
    We are going through the same thing here. He slept from 9p-6a on Monday night and has barely cat napped since. If he's awake, which is most of the time it seems, DH or I have to be holding him or right next to him. He went from sleeping in his crib to insisting on being right next to me.
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  • nova@spamcop.netnova@spamcop.net

    I hope she finally fell asleep for you last night.  I'm sorry.  I think we've all been there at some point.  DS does the same thing sometimes.  He'll fuss and cry and whine with his eyes closed.  He's so tired, but he fights sleep, and it's so frustrating for us.

    For DS, a lot of the time when he wouldn't sleep, or especially if he was frantic and screaming instead of sleeping, it would be because he was hungry.  My little guy gets frantic when he gets hungry.  Sometimes, just an ounce or two will calm him down and get him to sleep.  I try to make it the last resort though, because I worry about over feeding him.

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  • grinsandgigglesgrinsandgiggles member
    6 week growth spurt most likely.  She'll be back to her old self shortly.
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  • cedenscedens member

    i woke up about an hour ago (7am) and we were both knocked out on the couch (her laying on my chest must have worked last night)- i think the last time i looked at the clock it was almost 4am- she was sooo fussy last night and was crying on and off til then- glider didn't even work (she was wide eyed!)- she looks exhausted- i got up to gently put her in the bassinet next to our bed and i layed down and she started crying! Crying

    so up i went and fed her and now after holding her for 15 min and she won't go back to sleep, i put her in the boppy- i hope she falls asleep! we both need some rest

    thanks for the support! just hope this gets better

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