I'm going to go lurk on boards that I have nothing in common with...

MrsARC1105 · September 2009

like blended families or adoption.

Seriously, why do people lurk here if they dont have multiples...cue the circus music, right?

laceymb · September 2009

Why just lurk when you can give unsolicited advice?

MrsARC1105 · September 2009

on things I know nothing about!

I am as anti CIO as you can find but I realize that my POV is a minority in the multiples community because when you have two screaming/crying babies, you have to do what will keep you sane.

mrscalkins · September 2009

MrsLee04:
MrsARC1105:
on things I know nothing about!
I am as anti CIO as you can find but I realize that my POV is a minority in the multiples community because when you have two screaming/crying babies, you have to do what will keep you sane.
Ditto. I'm not "pro-CIO" but I think to criticize someone in the trenches is just wrong. Because when someone is struggling, yeah, make 'em feel worse. That helps!!!!
..

Yep, nothing like kicking someone when they're obviously down. I'd love to stay and chat longer, but the Superior Singleton Mommies board is needing me.

thiswillbe · September 2009

MrsLee04:
***runs to post on LGBT Parenting....***

You are welcome there any time!! Wink

Temp159135562506975 · September 2009

seriously - WTF??? lurk all you want- but to actually comment and think you know better, when you have no idea what it's like to have multiples, let alone a toddler + newborn twins - where do we find these people???

leslie13510 · September 2009

Oh for the love... talk about drama. If this is about me suggesting that letting a 2 MONTH old scream alone in his crib for over 30 MINUTES is unfair to the child (unless it's necessary which yes, sometimes it is when you have 3 kids), get over it. Yes it's frustrating being a multiples mommy, and the kids have to cry for a while sometimes, and it's hard, and sometimes you just have to let them cry so you can calm down and breathe. Take your breaks when you need them for 10-15 minutes, go outside and yell at the top of your lungs, and then go pick up your screaming kid. Plus I wasn't mean to her, I offered suggestions to try and help, and saying that I was "kicking someone while they're down" or whatever is more dramatic than anything I said about it.

Clearly this is not the board for me, if THAT was considered rude, because I will never be the type to say, "oh you poor poor thing, of COURSE it's ok to let your teeny tiny baby scream for over half an hour just because you're frustrated and tired and need a break."

I sincerely wish you all the best with your present and future babies, but I will not be coming back to this board to offer my experience and advice in the future.

mrscalkins · September 2009

leslie13510:
Oh for the love... talk about drama. If this is about me suggesting that letting a 2 MONTH old scream alone in his crib for over 30 MINUTES is unfair to the child (unless it's necessary which yes, sometimes it is when you have 3 kids), get over it. Yes it's frustrating being a multiples mommy, and the kids have to cry for a while sometimes, and it's hard, and sometimes you just have to let them cry so you can calm down and breathe. Take your breaks when you need them for 10-15 minutes, go outside and yell at the top of your lungs, and then go pick up your screaming kid. Plus I wasn't mean to her, I offered suggestions to try and help, and saying that I was "kicking someone while they're down" or whatever is more dramatic than anything I said about it.
Clearly this is not the board for me, if THAT was considered rude, because I will never be the type to say, "oh you poor poor thing, of COURSE it's ok to let your teeny tiny baby scream for over half an hour just because you're frustrated and tired and need a break."
I sincerely wish you all the best with your present and future babies, but I will not be coming back to this board to offer my experience and advice in the future.

Take the stick out of your ass. She is referring to the SINGLETON mom, not you. And FFS, clearly that OP is ready to go over the edge, you could tone down your criticism a little bit. No one has an issue with you disagreeing about CIO at that age. They have an issue with you being an asshat to her. There's a better way to offer constructive advice, you chose to be a biitch about it.

not_finished · September 2009

I totally agree! Raising twins is the hardest thing that I have ever done, and I have has some low pionts along the way. While I don't let mine CIO, I also have a ton of support, both from my DH and my older 2 kids. Less judging and more advice would be much more supportive.

macchiatto · September 2009

I agree with less judging and more helpful advice! And agreed, we don't need advice from know-it-all singleton moms who just have no idea.

macchiatto · September 2009

leslie13510:
Oh for the love... talk about drama. If this is about me suggesting that letting a 2 MONTH old scream alone in his crib for over 30 MINUTES is unfair to the child (unless it's necessary which yes, sometimes it is when you have 3 kids), get over it. Yes it's frustrating being a multiples mommy, and the kids have to cry for a while sometimes, and it's hard, and sometimes you just have to let them cry so you can calm down and breathe. Take your breaks when you need them for 10-15 minutes, go outside and yell at the top of your lungs, and then go pick up your screaming kid. Plus I wasn't mean to her, I offered suggestions to try and help, and saying that I was "kicking someone while they're down" or whatever is more dramatic than anything I said about it.

Clearly this is not the board for me, if THAT was considered rude, because I will never be the type to say, "oh you poor poor thing, of COURSE it's ok to let your teeny tiny baby scream for over half an hour just because you're frustrated and tired and need a break."

I sincerely wish you all the best with your present and future babies, but I will not be coming back to this board to offer my experience and advice in the future.

I thought you said you were leaving, but you keep coming back ...

MrsARC1105 · September 2009

Dear Lurkers, I dont care if you babysat OR NANNIED the freakin Gosselins or had a Grandma who had 5 sets of triplets, that doesnt mean you know what it is like to the mommy to multiples.

lutzcowgirlie · September 2009

MrsARC1105:

Dear Lurkers, I dont care if you babysat the freakin Gosselins or had a Grandma who had 5 sets of triplets, that doesnt mean you know what it is like to the mommy to multiples.

Oh god, it hurts. That is beautiful stuff.

JosFinnMom · September 2009

I missed whatever started this post, but I lurk here. Strictly for the only reason that you all are AMAZING and put my days into perspective. I'm a SAHM of two girls, but the days get rough and it's inspiring here.

MrsARC1105 · September 2009

I know there are many "normal" people who lurk here, so please dont feel insulted JosFinnMom. I think my annoyance was directly more at a particular poster rather than lurkers in general.

Caneib22 · September 2009

Hello ladies,

Ok im guilty...I'm a lurker. But I do not give out advice especially in a situation I know nothing about. But I do like to see the experiances that different moms are going through. I understand completly about the know it alls.

mrskimmieD · September 2009

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macchiatto · September 2009

mrskimmieD:
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What on earth was that supposed to be? LOL

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