Were you on the fence about staying on Team Green?

aegrimm · September 2009

How did you decide one way or the other? I've been Team Hell-Yes-I-Want-To-Know for the longest time, but suddenly I don't know if I WANT to know anymore. I've read a lot of posts about women wanting to hear their DH whisper to them "It's a _____" in the delivery room and I'm thinking more and more that I want it to be a surprise.

But, I'm torn. Because I really am curious to know. Just thought I'd ask for what pushed you off the fence one way or the other?

BTW, I DID find out with DS.

Jen&Louie · September 2009

I was all for staying Team Green but, was also okay with finding out. I ended up asking DH to make the call on whether we would find out or not. Clearly, he couldn't wait!

Pumpkin62307 · September 2009

I wasn't really on the fence, I always wanted to know. My DH did too, but then at about 10 weeks he turned on me and decided he didn't anymore. I was looking at it from purely an economical stand point, since I am having a shower I thought that having others buying the gender specific things for me, would be cheaper than us doing later. And I didn't want to be stuck with all green and yellow stuff, and a neutral nursery.

That said, I had so much fun baby shopping on vacation this weekend, and I was really glad I knew I was shopping for a boy. I don't think it would have been nearly as much fun if I didn't know.

getnmarried910 · September 2009

We chose to stay team green this time because we already have one of each, mostly the right seasons for clothes, and we knew with each of them (but were on team smug!). We thought it'd be fun to go one time without knowing, and the thought of DH telling me what the baby is after delivery makes my heart melt.

Lizzerd13 · September 2009

We are Team Green and have been right from the beginning. I love it and as every day goes by I am looking forward to LO's arrival so that we can find out. It's been nice not spending a lot of money on girl or boy things just because so we only buy those special things that we find that we know no one else will buy. GO TEAM GREEN!

Jerseygirl16 · September 2009

I was never on the fence but DH was. I have always been in the "wants to know" camp. With our first we did not find out but DH and I had a deal that since we were waiting like he wanted for our first child when we had our second we could find out. Our first was a girl and we found out at delivery. Honestly, after labor and delivery I could care less when he told me she was a girl and just wanted to hold her and see her. The gender seemed sort of beside the point and not as exciting as it would have been if we found out without all the other "distractions" going on. With #2 we found out she was a girl and I LOVED knowing. I felt so much more bonded with her from that point on and loved that I could start calling her by her name right away.

This time we were unsure what to do. I wanted to know again and DH didn't. But, we both really felt like it was a boy and by the time of the ultrasound the curiosity was killing him and he gave in. He couldn't be there so the tech wrote it down for us and we opened it together at home. That moment was so much more special and memorable than it ever could have been at birth. And now I love knowing that I've got a little boy and being able to call him by his name: Aidan James.

stace42 · September 2009

We decided to be on Team Green as soon as we got our BFP. I have always thought that the moment in the delivery room when my FI tells me the sex of our baby will be such a special moment between the two of us. It is hard sometimes not to know but we figure it is one of the last true surprises left in life and it will be so worth it. I am hoping it might also give me some extra motivation to push that baby out!

Meli0604 · September 2009

Lizzerd13:
We are Team Green and have been right from the beginning. I love it and as every day goes by I am looking forward to LO's arrival so that we can find out. It's been nice not spending a lot of money on girl or boy things just because so we only buy those special things that we find that we know no one else will buy. GO TEAM GREEN!

This! I am so excited to hear my fiance tell me "it's a ____" after all that pain and pushing lol. That's what I've always wanted Honestly I'd rather spend the money on gender specific clothes after the baby is born and let everyone else buy all the expensive stuff (crib, PnP, car seat, stroller, etc).

mommys.gummy.bear · September 2009

i was on team green for awhile and then finally decided it was best that we find out. i wanted to be able to address our LO by his name as well as make nursery plans. i'm not a fan of gender neutral either.

homebird · September 2009

I said for years that I would want to know the gender and then ... I don't know what happened, I just switched.

Emotional reasons: I think that finding out the gender at an ultrasound is just as much of an exciting suprise as it is when you find out in the delivery room. For me, it is about the build up of anticipation. You know those cheesy moments on movies/birthing shows when the mom has been pushing for hours, and finally the baby is born? The doctor holds it up and proclaims "It's a ____ !" and everyone cries?

Well, those moments always make me weepy. I decided that I really wanted to have that moment.

Practical reasons: We plan on purchasing all gender-neutral items anyway. We'd like to have one or two more children, and I don't see the point in buying things for one gender or the other, even clothes. We'll buy a few onesies, some baby legs, hats and booties that will work for either gender. After the baby is born, you can go to town with the gender specific stuff. In fact, I've heard people will bring clothes to the hospital as gifts and you'll have more than you'll ever really need.

Other reasons: I already have to wait 20 weeks to find out, what's 20 weeks more?

JaredandKatie · September 2009

I was just like you! I NEVER thought that I'd be on team green. I usually hate surprises. I have to say though that it is SO much fun not knowing. At my 20 week u/s I almost asked DH if we could find out but I'm glad we didn't. As for planning...alot of people bring baby clothes to the hospital as gifts. My good friend was team green and she just reached the point where she's had to start spending money on clothes for her baby who is almost 9 months old! Also, if you plan on having more kids in the future, it's best to go gender neutral for baby stuff so you can use it again if the babies are different genders. I say don't find out--you can always change your mind!

mejumpmore1 · September 2009

I never didn't want to know. I am such an impatient person and knew that it would be keeping me up at night wondering whether I was carrying a boy or a girl. (I already have a hard enough time sleeping and don't need any additional things to keep my mind racing) Besides, now I don't have to settle for all things green and yellow and get BLUE!!!

liljooly · September 2009

I was in the delivery room for my sister's delivery and the doctor announced the sex of the baby... which is exciting... but I guess you can't know if DH whispering "It's a ____" will happen. We will be finding out at 20 wks with our LO, but I will probably be Team Green for the second one.

Basically what pushed me off the fence was thinking I could bond more with the baby knowing it's sex - and name.

bostonbeans · September 2009

homebird:

I said for years that I would want to know the gender and then ... I don't know what happened, I just switched.

Emotional reasons: I think that finding out the gender at an ultrasound is just as much of an exciting suprise as it is when you find out in the delivery room. For me, it is about the build up of anticipation. You know those cheesy moments on movies/birthing shows when the mom has been pushing for hours, and finally the baby is born? The doctor holds it up and proclaims "It's a ____ !" and everyone cries?

Well, those moments always make me weepy. I decided that I really wanted to have that moment.

Practical reasons: We plan on purchasing all gender-neutral items anyway. We'd like to have one or two more children, and I don't see the point in buying things for one gender or the other, even clothes. We'll buy a few onesies, some baby legs, hats and booties that will work for either gender. After the baby is born, you can go to town with the gender specific stuff. In fact, I've heard people will bring clothes to the hospital as gifts and you'll have more than you'll ever really need.

Other reasons: I already have to wait 20 weeks to find out, what's 20 weeks more?

THIS!!!! All of it!

kdiaisfly · September 2009

I would love to be on team green but I am just too anxious and I really want a boy so if I find out that I'm not having one that will give me time to emotionally prepare for it. It would be amazing to not know but the suspense would kill me! Maybe I'll be able to do it with my second baby though.

amberelisabeth07 · September 2009

I am to a very impatient person and I have always wanted to know. We actually find out in the morning. I think the big u/s will be just as special finding out as finding out after labor. I think it depends on the person and if there is away for me to know i am def. taking it. Way to go Team Green!! I wish I had patience.

Jolaine83 · September 2009

I love the idea of being on team green, but I'm such a planner...I don't think I would make it.

I have that fear of finding out that I prefer a certain gender (which I don't know right now if I do - I've gone back and forth) and I want to have time to get excited and plan for the child we will have.

And I think it sounds like so much more fun to refer to baby as a name rather than baby.

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