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Don't know what to do...grandfather passed today

EclypzeEclypze member
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I found out after work that my grandfather passed away.  Mom was nice enough to wait until i was out of work to tell me the news.

I live in FL, they're in NY.  We already bought tickets to fly up in December to have Ally meet the family.   I have surgery next Friday for gallstones, and pre-registration on Monday.

Tickets are about 400+ for one person round trip.

I wasn't super close with that side of the family when i got older, but he's my grandpa.  I've been stressing about this all day :(   Part of me wants to say here because i know financially we don't have the money.  The other part wants to go and be with the family for this.

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  • AprilsiesAprilsies
    Oh I'm so sorry for your loss.... would you be able to change tickets and go up earlier?
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  • Mando91Mando91
    I'm sorry for your loss. That's a tough decision. I hope you find peace with what ever you decide.
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  • QuazelQuazel member
    First, I am so sorry for your loss.  Second, go be with your family.  Third, I had my gallbladder out in May, it was really only one day of discomfort for me, no big deal at all.  GL!
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  • Kari MerksKari Merks member
    I'm sorry for your loss.  Thoughts and prayers are with you.
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  • Temp856430000003146Temp856430000003146

    Oh man, that's tough. I'm sorry :(

    My grandpa passed away Thursday and the funeral is tomorrow. So, I understand how you're feeling.

    I don't know what your finances are, but if it were me, I would go be with my family right now.
     

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  • adamwifeadamwife

    I'm so sorry for your loss.  :(

    I don't know what you should do - only you can decide.  I would probably go.

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  • Temp856430000003146Temp856430000003146
    Another thought: Isn't there some sort of flight discount if you're flying because a family member died?
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  • Sunny1inTucsonSunny1inTucson

    I'm very sorry for your loss. Can your mom or someone in the family split the cost of the ticket with you so you'd only have to pay $200??

    Also - some airlines (not all) offer a bereavement discount akin to 5%-ish. You have to call directly to book and give them basic info (name of funeral home, phone number, etc.).

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  • EclypzeEclypze member

    imageAprilsies:
    Oh I'm so sorry for your loss.... would you be able to change tickets and go up earlier?

    I'm sure we could, but either way Southwest would charge us the difference of the ticket price from what we paid for it to what it is now...whichis MUCH more expensive then shopping with another airline (literallly 1/2 the price).

    I was talking to my mom about it, and she had said i should stay here, she knows the situation and she's sure the family will completely understand.

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  • laurenbuglaurenbug

    First off, I'm so sorry you lost your grandfather.

    I believe some airlines offer discounts to family if a loved one has passed away or is in the hospital.  You may want to check that out.  I think that family would understand, though, if you can't make it.  Just decide what works best for you and your family.  Hugs.

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  • EclypzeEclypze member
    imageSunny1inTucson:

    I'm very sorry for your loss. Can your mom or someone in the family split the cost of the ticket with you so you'd only have to pay $200??

    Also - some airlines (not all) offer a bereavement discount akin to 5%-ish. You have to call directly to book and give them basic info (name of funeral home, phone number, etc.).

    mom would do it in a heartbeat, but they had just gotten the news that they're foreclosing on their house because they couldn't afford to pay the mortgage.  :(

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  • erbearerbear member
    I'd go. I missed my grandpa's funeral when I was in college (I had a game) and I've regretted it ever since. I'm really sorry about your grandpa :(
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  • Sunny1inTucsonSunny1inTucson
    aw, I'm really sorry about your parents too. If you can do it even though things will be tight, I'd still go.
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  • lawry13lawry13 member

    I'm so sorry for your loss.  I missed my paternal grandfather's funeral when I was in college and I have always regretted it.  In December my grandmother passed away while visiting us from NY.  Going back to NY for the funeral was the greatest thing I could have done.  Being with family after a loss is very comforting and the family enjoyed meeting DD (she was 3 1/2 weeks old).  The bereavement fare was more expensive and the worst flights available than the flights we could book online.

     

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