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Why do so many people feel...
the need to find out the sex? I don't think there's anything wrong with finding out. Just wondering because we're going to wait.
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Re: Why do so many people feel...
our reasoning is two-fold:
1) if we can avoid the ridiculous fights we are having over what to name a boy, we'd be thrilled (already agree on girls name)
2) I have to wait long enough to meet LO! and I am VERRYYYYYY impatient
Because you can now and we are a society that insists upon immediate gratification.
I say to each their own - if you don't want to, that's fine, but don't knock the people that to.
I feel like having our first child is unknown territory, to begin with. The more I am able to find out in advance, the better I feel I can plan for this new adventure.
I took us a long time to get pregnant, I want to know.
Also, we have a very small living space right now, want to get the bare minimums of everything.
I wanted to know whether to shop pink or blue.. and I refused to have a gender neutral nursery. I'm spoiled like that.
Definitely this. I like to be prepared for things. And the bedding I have picked out is either for a boy or girl, not both!
(read it. you know you want to.)
anderson . september 2008
vivian . february 2010
mabel . august 2012
This is our first, so I want to make sure I'm as prepared as possible. I want to open up cute little dresses or overalls at my shower, since this is the only child I'll get shower for. Now that we've made this decision, we simply CANNOT wait for the big ultrasound in 3 weeks. We've decided that if we have a second one, we'll wait to find out.
I want to find out because I feel I can better bond with the baby by knowing his/her name. But how funny, because I feel EVERYONE is telling us we should be surprised!
we want ot know so we can...
1. decide on a name & stop calling the baby "it", "little guckian", etc.
2. plan & prepare the nursery
3. make a registry that isn't all neutral colors
4. have a shower that is gender themed
5. we just wanna know cuz we're so excited!!!
on the day i found out i was pregnant, my husband was already bouncing off the walls about finding out the sex ahead of time. he is the type that can't handle waiting for a surprise- it is the same for his birthday and christmas.
I have to admit the excitement and anticipation has more than rubbed off on me. We just both are really curious and want to know as much as we can about our baby as soon as possible. thanks to the marvels of modern science, we can, so we will.
Because I've had enough "surprises" - like "surprise! You're infertile."
Surprises are overrated - I spent 4 years trying to get pregnant and I want to know everything about this kid NOW
I am a runner, knitter, scientist, DE-IVF veteran, and stage III colon cancer survivor.
I'm super curious! I didn't want to wait 5 more months, wanted to bond with my baby, didn't want to keep saying "it", wanted to pick out a name, buy gender specific clothes... the list goes one! Overall it's just a personal decision, everyone will have slightly different reasons for finding out or not finding out.
Because we want to know! no real earth shattering or show stopping reason obviously, but simply because we can find out so we want to!
This is the closest to my feelings than any of the others mentioned.
I'm not really a planner and I love gender neutral stuff. The nursery would look exactly the same for either sex (beach theme, turquoise and green and orange, etc.). So "planning" is not really an issue for me.
But I know that I am going to be so overwhelmed by everything on delivery day and so overcome with emotion meeting the LO. No matter how many books I read, every second of the process is going to be a surprise. To me, it's not taking away from the day, but adding a little bit of comfort to the situation by knowing the gender already.
Also, the day we found out was one of the best and happiest of my life. DH and I were both crying freaks in the u/s room. And we both feel so much more connected to this little boy than we did before we knew.
Baby Boy #1 born 1/15/2010
Babies #2 & #3 arriving Spring 2014 (EDD June 18)
Becuase DH and I equally hate surprises!
We even tell each other what's inside the wrapped xmas presents 3 weeks before Christmas so there's NO way we could hold out for that long.
I also know what my anniversary gift is and thats 2 weeks away! haha
We chose to find out because regardless of whether it was a few weeks ago or 19 weeks in the future, it was a surprise! We just chose to find out the surprise earlier, rather than later. There will be so much excitement when he actually is born that we don't feel that we need to find out the sex at that time as well. The biggest deal for us is just getting to meet him. It is neat to think of him as a "him", and not an "it". Plus, it is nice to be able to register for items that are not as gender neutral.?
Even though we chose to find out, I completely see the excitement and wonderful aspects to keeping it a surprise! I'm sure it will be a very exciting moment to hear those words "It's a..."?
Our family blog
We chose to be surprised with DS #1. I will say that when he was born, my midwife holding him up for us to see and both DH and I exclaiming "It's a boy?!" was probably the most wonderfully thrilling moment I could have ever imagined.
This time around we felt compelled to find out. I'm not one of those people that claims to be a big "planner," but now that I'm already a parent/mother, I do feel more comfortable being mentally and emotionally prepared for things. For a moment we considered not finding out again, but we found out that we're having twins at our big u/s (at 18 weeks). We decided we DEFINITELY wanted to know then. And we're thrilled to know now that we're having a girl and a boy.
We plan to find out b/c the suspense is too great. We are doing gender neutral gear and nursery just b/c I find the colors more calming and less kiddie.
I also want to be able to call him/her by their name and start to see them as more of a person.
And I hate surprises and I am nosey :-) LOL