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Strange request from Vendor

Darinsgirl0818Darinsgirl0818 member
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Hello,
I am assisting my mother in planning my baby shower. We found a location we love but the owner says he needs to know in advance who is eating what. He wants us to send rsvp cards with the invitation asking what they would like for lunch and have them send them back - like a wedding!
I have been to lots of showers and have never seen this. I think it's strange! I didn't even do this for our wedding and now we are going to do it for a baby shower?!

I figured I would consult you experts to see your thoughts and any advice on this.

TIA!

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  • EastCoastBrideEastCoastBride member
    Strange, and I think I'd look for another locations personally.  That's a bit overboard for a baby shower.
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  • HerHighnessHerHighness member

    Sounds too weddingy to me. Do they only offer sit down meals? Maybe a buffet style would be a better option

    or to choose one thing for everyone and not give the option. I have been to a few showers like this. Maybe a nice salad with chicken or something (where vegetarians have the option to go without the meat)

    Personally I wouldnt send lunch option cards with a shower invite. 

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  • 4realyo4realyo
    Maybe just pick one meal and dont give the option. I have been to "sit-down" type baby shower & honestly, thought it was super nice. I think we were given 2 choices at the table though vs telling them ahead of time. I dont see what the big deal is to put it on the rsvp card.
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  • WestiesAreTheBestiesWestiesAreTheBesties
    It sounds liek it will be expensive! Can he just compromise and have a bunch of the options ready to go or have a limited menu?

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  • nickiclnickicl member

    Is your location a country club?  Why in the world are you having such a fancy catered meal if you don't want to do RSVPs? 

    Here's how all the average people around here do it:

    Have the shower at someone's home or some very casual location

    Buy food from Costco or some casual restaurant such as sandwhich shop or BBQ


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  • tak2002tak2002

    I have heard of this. It's not a big deal I don't think!If you want a sit-down meal it's no big deal!!

    On the invitation, or an enclosed paper, just write the options and ask people when they RSVP (by phone or email) to include their preference. Then you don't need paper RSVP's.

     

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  • hopefulmomhopefulmom member

    You think it is strange...really?  It sounds like it is a catered plated meal.  You might like to find out what choices there are (maybe chicken and vegetarian) and just put that on the invite itself.  Then when they RSVP by phone or email they can give their preference.  I can see a vendor not wanting to have 50 plates of chicken salad ready when 15 of the people would prefer vegetarian.  All that food would go to waste.

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  • XOXOJamiXOXOJami
    The upside to this, although I've never been to a baby shower like this (but it makes complete sense), you may get more RSVP's and a more accurate count of who is coming. Because they will have to correspond to you as to what they want to eat, they may be more apt to call and e-mail for their RSVP's. I wouldn't go as far as putting in an actual RSVP card, but mentioning it right about or with the RSVP info should suffice.
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  • jj_sbridejj_sbride

    I don't get why this is strange.

    I have been in the restaurant/catering business for 15 years and ANYTHING over 15-20 at a restaurant usually always requires a limited menu or for the kitchen to have a pre-set menu like they are asking for you to provide.

    Even at a hole in the wall restaurant they would require some sort of paired down menu to help the kitchen with prep and time.

    Imagine 20 ladies going into a restaurant as one group, every lady  ordering something different on the menu.
    A good manager is not gonna let that happen. If he can prepare his staff ahead of time hes going to do that.
    If you were to randomly walk into a restaurant with 20 that's different. They would probably split the group in to 2 ten tops, with different servers and slightly different serve times.

    He wants to ensure timeliness of service and quality of food.

    If its too much for you then go somewhere else.

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  • june909june909 member

    imageEastCoastBride:
    Strange, and I think I'd look for another locations personally.  That's a bit overboard for a baby shower.

     

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  • sjpsjp member
    imagejj_sbride:

    I don't get why this is strange.

    I have been in the restaurant/catering business for 15 years and ANYTHING over 15-20 at a restaurant usually always requires a limited menu or for the kitchen to have a pre-set menu like they are asking for you to provide.

    Even at a hole in the wall restaurant they would require some sort of paired down menu to help the kitchen with prep and time.

    Imagine 20 ladies going into a restaurant as one group, every lady  ordering something different on the menu.
    A good manager is not gonna let that happen. If he can prepare his staff ahead of time hes going to do that.
    If you were to randomly walk into a restaurant with 20 that's different. They would probably split the group in to 2 ten tops, with different servers and slightly different serve times.

    He wants to ensure timeliness of service and quality of food.

    If its too much for you then go somewhere else.

     

     

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    at mine we just limited it to vegetarian or not  . . .

     

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