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Stupid comment from FIL - long vent

Mariposa24Mariposa24
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I don't post here that often but I'm so angry and I need outside opinions.  This weekend we were at my IL's house (they live in MD and we live in CT).  My FIL had been making snarky remarks to me about DS throughout the weekend... it seemed as if he was trying to push my buttons a bit.  Saturday night, after he'd had a couple of cocktails, he asked me if I had considered any names for baby #2.  I told him that we had not and we wouldn't tell anyone the name until we were 100%.  He looked at me and said, "I hope you come up with something better than Brice because that is a fu%king stupid name."  I said nothing and let it go b/c he had been drinking... I was too tired to argue.

The next day when we were driving home, DH called FIL to ask him the names of some family members so we could consider them for middle names.  Again FIL makes a comment (sober this time) saying, "oh, so this time you're actually going to name a kid after someone, unlike Brice who is named for nobody?"  I stopped him and said that Brice's middle name, Samuel, is my grandfather's name and that Brice's hebrew name is after 2 members of DH's family.

I'm still irate over these comments.  DS is 9 months old... its not like we're going to change his name (plus, we love his name).  What do I do?  Call FIL out on this?  I'm sick of having DH do dirty work for me. Ignore it?

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  • JanimalJanimal member

    Ignore it.  He sucks and nothing good can come of it.

    I'm all for dealing with conflict directly but this would just stir up a sh!t pot of drama in your family you don't need.

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  • lzbflogrllzbflogrl
    wow!  he has some nerve.
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  • Jackswife123Jackswife123
    I`d let your DH handle it.  It's his father. He needs to tell him that if he's got nothing nice to say than to just shut up.  
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  • me&mymonkeyme&mymonkey
    Well don't name #2 after FIL, that's for sure.  Sounds like he is a real sweetheart.  I would ask your DH to talk to his father and tell him that comments like that are unacceptable.  While your ds does not understand what your fil is saying now, what happens if he overhears a remark like that in the future?  If your fil can't comply with this request, whether he's been drinking or not, then I would limit the amount of time you spend with him. 
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  • EastCoastBrideEastCoastBride member

    Having an FIL who is BIG on naming after family members, we kind of had to deal w/ this too.  But he wasn't nearly as rude as your FIL about it.

    All we said was that DS's middle name and last name are family names.  His first name is simply a name that we liked.  Period.  We didn't feel a need to name him ENTIRELY after relatives.

    I think your DH needs to say this to his fatehr - and more firmly than we needed to say it.

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  • pixiedustiepixiedustie

    imageJackswife123:
    I`d let your DH handle it.  It's his father. He needs to tell him that if he's got nothing nice to say than to just shut up.  

    Yup have your DH handle it, assuming he realizes how ridiculous and rude his Dad is being.  Does he just sit idly by as your FIL makes these comments?

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  • kada626kada626 member

    I would let your DH handle it unless he is talking directly to you again. If he is talking to you, then let him have it!

    He is being completey rude!

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  • Mariposa24Mariposa24

    Thanks ladies.  I'm going to discuss this further with DH tonight.  DH has frequently stood up to his dad on issues (the drinking, finances, other assorted crap) and while he acknowledges that what his dad said was wrong, he's also becoming exhausted of having these conversations.

    The weekend on the whole was a total bust because of other odd behavior from FIL and MIL.  This is just kind of the tip of the iceberg. 

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  • Lulu0802Lulu0802 member

    That's awful!  What a jerk.  I agree with everyone else... have your DH talk to him.  Unless of course he says something directly to you again... then all bets are off.

    Oh... and personally, I like the name Rockstar for #2.  It's so unique.  ;)

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