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Do you make enough time for your husband?

jodylynnjodylynn member
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Honestly? Or do you have such full days that you feel like there is never enough time and all the priorities are everything else?  After the last few days I have decided I need to reprioritize some things in my life.  A friend of mine once said that you should actually love your spouse more than your child and I gasped..huh?? ... well it all trickles down and indeed I do now believe. Thank you!!  Yes I'm feeling thankful tonight :)
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  • julienandyjulienandy
    Sadly, No...I have been thinking lately I need to work on it.
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  • myrallmyrall member

    Actually, yes. That man is spoiled rotten and knows it. :) But it goes both ways. I think we've hit a very happy medium in our relationship and the give and take is just right. But it takes work - and we're both committed to that.

     

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  • donna&eddonna&ed
    It's hard but we make it a priority. DH and I made a pact that we will always be the priority. If we demonstrate that then it'll trickle down to the kids.
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  • soon2b3soon2b3

    No definitely not.  My girlfriend and I were just talking about this yesterday.  They made a pact that after the kids were put to bed that they would do something together at least 3 nights a week...whether it was watch tv together sitting next to each other cuddling, doing it, straightening together, playing games together, whatever. 

    My DH and I pretty much spend at least an hour together everyday...but I don't think that's enough time. We also try to do date night at least 1 a month...but we've never made it more than 2 nights a month.  The little things seem to be what matters...kissing goodbye every morning...kissing hello when we get home from work.

    I also think that there are phases/cycles of time...right now, with young children, they need a lot of attention and time.  As married adults we know that we may have to turn our focus to them for a short time (yes, 2-3 years is pretty short in the grand scheme of things) and then as they get older there will be more time to refocus on the adults again.  I don't mean that you shouldn't do ANYTHING with each other...but I think it's just a phase of life too. 

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  • tracigatortracigator member
    We definitely try to make each other a priority.  We spend time together every night, whether it be watching tv together or cuddling or talking before bed.  Do I think it's enough?  Nope but with a 19 month old and 1 on the way, we realize that it's not going to be enough time for a while.  So, we take what we can get.  We actually do really love spending time together so we try and enjoy what time we do have.  It's hard though because we don't have a babysitter so the only time we go out on dates are when my parents are in town. 
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  • Kristin125Kristin125
    Nope.  I told DH last night that we need a regularly scheduled date night.  Scheduled = having a babysitter every other Friday or something like that.
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  • amanda_holbird@hotmail.comamanda_holbird@hotmail.com
    As a mom of two small kids, who works full time, and has a husband who travels, neither of us make time for each other.  We were just talking about this very thing on Saturday.  We have noticed that are marriage is hurting and that we need to make time for each other stat.  I'm hoping that when he gets back for the trip he just left on, we can make time for each other.
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  • Mrs MannersMrs Manners member

    No...I don't. It broke my heart about two weeks ago when he told us he wanted us to be more like my parents (who have always made each other a priority and as kids we loved it and loved that their relationship was so secure - it really does trickle down). Since then I've made a big effort to do more things with/for him like cook for him, eat together, have sex, get special treats for him, etc. And although I didn't do it for that reason...he's being GREAT to me in return. Saturday and Sunday he got up at 7am with Sean so that I could sleep in...without me asking :)

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  • kepkep member
    Your friend is wise. It is so true--from the moment they are born, we are raising our children to leave our homes, leaving us with our husbands. It is so important to keep the home fires burning. Definitely it is a challenge, though! Jody, where are your love dares? ;o) What is that saying ... the most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother. So true--and it works both ways. Thanks for this reminder.
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  • slwprincessslwprincess member
    Ummm no.  And DH has actually said the whole "you should put your spouse first" thing and I didn't get it.  I actually thought, OMG, NO WAY.  Your child HAS to come first.  But after reading these responses I think I get it.  The whole trickle down thing makes sense to me.  Obviously our child demands more attention, and neglecting him is not an option.  But that just makes the little time that we have alone that much more precious.  I will work on this.  I am actually realizing how smart my DH is ;-)

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  • Queenie11078Queenie11078 member
    I try..but sadly, I think I could spend more time with him. My mom always said, dirty dishes and chores can wait, but moments with someone you love can't. :)
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  • kepkep member
    You know, I have always heard the book "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" is wonderful! Anyone read it?
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