Why is it a crime to start now?!?!?!

Battlebaby09 · September 2009

I don't understand why my husband thinks it is such a crime to start rearranging furniture and rooms to prepare for a nursery. What is ya'lls advice and when did you start building a nursery? maybe its the hormones, but I just wanna smack him and cry at the same time!

Worcbride · September 2009

we didn't start until after the big u/s--around wk 20

AriLiB · September 2009

it's ok! i had DH help me clear our little room out at 6 weeks pregnant! I was just so excited! it's been painted and we just ordered our crib yesterday! (target has some great deals right now.) have fun!

jacodi · September 2009

I started cleaning things out of the spare room (aka nursery) last week - still not done. I'll putter around in there for a couple more weeks before I'll enlist DH's help to move/paint/etc.

EmmieB · September 2009

We're not doing a nursery. Bunny will sleep in our room for the first several months (night feedings, SIDS) and our changing station is in the spare bathroom (CD, EC) and so only the closet is being used.

We are setting up a play area, which we did a few weeks ago.

( https://embritadesign.blogspot.com/2009/08/dining-room-play-area.html )

My advice is to come up with a triage list - first you need to clean out the room. Then you need to decide what goes in and where. Present this to your husband along with the (very rational) explanation that the next 30-odd weeks are going to fly by and in about 15 weeks you're not going to be able to do a whole lot of heavy lifting/exertion. And that's if you don't get put on bed rest.

Just remember - your baby only needs a car seat, some clothes, diapers, blankets, food, and a safe place to sleep for the first few weeks. Everything else is nice, but fluff.

jenn&Dave2005 · September 2009

I cleaned the closet out a few weeks ago, but DH doesn't want to get rid of the furniture thats in there until after Christmas! I'm due in Feb! I laughed and said we'll see. I figure I'll give him a month and then we'll do it

MLMDDL02 · September 2009

We live in a 2 bedroom house and my DH goes to class 3 nights a week...so it is hard to find time to do any big projects because when he isent working or in class he has homework/studying to do. He had off class this past week so we started getting the furniture out of the babys room (it was a guest room)...my DH also had most of his clothes in that bedroom so we spent a good amount of time going through clothes/closets rearranging. Anyway...the reason we started already is because he wont have a week off again until Christmas....and there is no way i'm waiting that long. At least this way the room is mostly emptied (except a few small things I need to figure out what to do with) and all that will need done is painting. I dont think you are starting too early at all...I'm not a procrastinator and want to be able to begin painting as soon as we find out the sex!

Battlebaby09 · September 2009

Thank you very much for your advice so far! I'm just frustrated because we have a lot of people coming to "help" when the baby gets here and our apartment is already so small. I feel trapped just thinking about it. Emmie B your probably right about the approach part. He was more accepting of the drawings I made of my ideas (even thought they weren't to scale). Maybe some more of you brilliant pregnant ladies have more ideas on how to tame our husbands or significant other into being more helpful.

BinksMomma3016 · September 2009

I did it around how far along you are. Our office was in the spare bedroom. So we had to get rid of our second little living room upstairs, bring the office stuff in there and clean out the spare room of all DH's video games and junk. LOL After 20 weeks we picked our patternsand paint, etc. I think the nursey was done by 27 weeks. Now Im on bedrest and I am glad I did all this stuff early. I have everything bought and ready except my hospital bag isnt quite packed and I havent laundered the clothes or sterilized bottles and its KILLING me that I cant get up and do it but at the same time Im soo tired I dont want to

Do everything while you can, you never know what is going to happen, Im telling ya

Battlebaby09 · September 2009

(even though*)

fabulistbride · September 2009

I thought that around now I'd start doing things but we just heard two weeks ago that a position is opening up in DH's company and he's interviewing at the end of the month. This would mean a move from VA to Louisiana this fall. So... at this point I have no clue where we'll be bringing LO home to!

vegemom302 · September 2009

We haven't even started. Our nursery is still a perfect guest room. We have bought the crib and the bedding and stuff like that but everything is still in boxes in the garage. Dh both need to feel "the pressure" to ever get anything done. It'll get done one day!

kciriello · September 2009

About a week ago or so, I started talking about how I thought we might want to start buying a few things (i.e. our stroller we wanted was on sale) and maybe even start thinking about the nursery. I got major push-back! He was saying that it was way too early. I asked him to talk about it and listened, and he basically came to his own conclusion that it really wasn't that early. I explained that the books I've read recommend getting stuff done in 2nd tri because you feel sick in 1st tri and exhausted in 3rd tri. I've read that this is the "energy trimester," so I told DH that we would be smart to strike while the iron's hot!

CariD25 · September 2009

My DH was the same way, not at all excited to set up the nursery. We moved the office stuff out and the baby stuff in this weekend and afterwards I found out he was hesitant because the new nursery was his former 'man cave'. Is it possible your DH just doesn't want to move/relocate the current room?

jdouglas84 · September 2009

I'm 27 weeks and we are still clearing out our other bedroom to work on the nursery....

mbgreenwalt · September 2009

We started preparing the nursery 2 weeks ago. DH is on unemployment and is bored out of his mind so he wants to get going on stuff. We spent a whole weekend cleaning out the room for the nursery. We still have some stuff to get rid of, but plan to get painting and set-up started in 2 weeks after the big ultrasound. I think everyone has different plans and schedules. I personally don't want to be huge trying to paint and set up furniture.

laureneyoung@hotmail.com · September 2009

we started at 20 weeks

Kiki-licioius · September 2009

Our room is almost set up only because it was a matter of moving DD into the queen bed and Moto Moto getting the convertible crib.

I'd much rather do it when I have the energy than to wait and be tired and feel rushed. Although Moto Moto will sleep in the room with us for the night during the day most things will be done in the nursery.

mrs_sherod · September 2009

It's not a crime to start early. We are just about finished, but we started about 3 weeks ago. I think it would be best to have it complete before the 3rd trimester.

goteamgo · September 2009

The room that will be baby's was pretty much done before we even conceived. But, it doesn't scream baby, so I guess that's why that worked. We're just waiting on a crib we're borrowing, and it is otherwise complete! I added a few extra touches in the past couple of months.

I'm a planner. It would piss me off to be held back! Luckily, I married a fellow planner.

Mrs_D_in_KY · September 2009

Our nursery has been complete since I was about 14 weeks PG.

After I had my 12 week appointment, and my bleeding issues had subsided, DH went on a painting-cleaning-baby spree. The crib is set up, we bought our neutral bedding because it was being discontinued and we have rugs down. It's kind of nice, because now I can focus on cleaning out other areas of the house before I get too large to amble around.

rubbaduck · September 2009

DH is loving the baby room stuff. He's all about it. I'm sure after we figure out the sex and my mom buys us the furniture (so glad she's springing for it!!!), he'll be getting it ready. He already made a cute little lamp for the baby's room. I love it!!!

MrsRebecca · September 2009

We started around the same time. We had a lot of crap to clear out of the baby's room so I knew the earlier we started the less stressful it would be.

I wasn't planning on painting, wallpapering or anything like that though. The walls were a mint green w/cream faux and I was planning on leaving them that way.

cabinwife · September 2009

We started last week. We have a lot to do--clear out the studio apartment over our garage to use as a guest room (it's just serving as storage space right now), move furniture from the current guest room over there to make room for baby furniture, clear out/organize closets, steam clean the carpet, and of course accumulate furniture, baby gear, etc. I got the closets done today and we've bought a few of the bigger things (glider, changing table, big area rug), which are just sitting amongst the guest room furniture in there for now.

My goal is to have the studio apartment turned into the guest room and the major pieces of the nursery in place by mid-November. People look at me like I'm nuts when I say that, because I won't even be 25 weeks at that point, but the holidays creep up fast and I'll be in my third trimester before it's even Christmas. So I don't want to have to worry about any remotely big projects during the crazy holiday season and/or when I'm far enough along to be uncomfortable.

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