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HELP! Going to see the witch (aka MIL)

summerbee1summerbee1 member
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So DH wants to have dinner with his mom after my appt with the OB tonight because we will be close to her house. I HATE HER now, after she told me that I would never be able to have kids because I obsess too much. She also told me she has been "through so much worse" than me (background: she had 3 ELECTIVE abortions because she and FIL couldn't seem to figure out BC, they also have 3 sons).

I have already said no to these family meals once or twice, provoking a big fight with DH, so I just said yes. What do I do now? I don't think I can face her without either pouting and refusing to talk the whole night, or picking a BIG A$$ fight. I still get light headed (which is what happens when I'm really mad) when I think about what she said to me. She never apologized and told DH I should apologize to her. And she says she didn't say those things to me. Help....

What would you do?

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Re: HELP! Going to see the witch (aka MIL)

  • heathergirl67heathergirl67 member
    Does your DH sympathize with you?  Or does he side with his mom?  Can he talk to her for you?
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  • summerbee1summerbee1 member
    He wasn't there when she said it to me and now that she denies it, he won't take sides...
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  • heathergirl67heathergirl67 member

    Maybe he could talk to her and ask her to not talk about anything baby/pregnancy related.  Explain that you're not happy with her (or just feeling super sensitive if you don't want to start something that way).  Have him ask her to do it for him, out of her love for her son, so that he can relax and enjoy himself.

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  • Becka1208Becka1208 member

    Kill her with kindess. That will get to her pretty quick.

    And maybe be buzzed too. That usually helps me out. jk don't do that. GL to you though! 

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  • happyhooplahappyhoopla member
    Kick her in her lady junk from under the table. Big Smile Sorry, no real advice, but I do hope that it will go smoothly.
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  • lil_rhodylil_rhody member
    I would stay close to your DH and make sure he stands up for you.
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