How soon for a sibling?

auburnbride07 · September 2009

My DH and I have been going back and forth debating how long we should wait between my DS and another child. My son is 13 months old, and the light of our lives, so it isn't a matter of whether or not to have another one, but when. We are debating whether to start TTC now, and then see what happens, or waiting another year, when DS is a little older. ?We would like to have a "summer baby" as I am a teacher, and wouldn't have to take as much time off, so that is another thing, do we TTC now, and time it right or wait another year.?Anyone in a similar situation, and what are your pros and cons?

Mrs.BLG · September 2009

DS will be 1 on Friday. I don't want my kids any closer than 2 1/2 years apart. I would love to TTC this time next year, but it won't be possible (due to finances and job situations).

I think it depends on how well you handled your 1st born. I had a hard time the 1st three months. After that, it got a little better. Now, DS goes non-stop. He is so tiring. I am just not ready to go through having another newborn right now or anytime within the next year.

On the other hand, it would be nice to be able to have them closer together just to get the baby stage over and done with (so that we can travel easier and do things as a family, KWIM?).

Also, DH is no where near ready for another baby!

SuperCuteBenz · September 2009

We will start TTC'ing this coming week. We are more than ready for a second child. However, at this point we don't plan on having more than 2 (though we would like 4), so we would like to have them no more than 3 years apart. I would have like to have 2 under 2, but we didn't want to have another baby before being married.

tmp-336341562506044 · September 2009

We want our kids to be 3 years apart. We actually plan on TTC in September of next year, so it will be a little more than 3 years.

juietbride · September 2009

DH has been ready to TTC #2 before DS was one year old. I on the other hand haven't been all that interested until My neurologist started encouraging me again in January. We have been TTC #2 since mid January. We know we want a second sibling for DS, had we started having children earlier I would have considered having our children 4-5 years apart but due to waiting as long as we did I am now starting to lean more in DH's preference of 2-3yrs apart.

radylady · September 2009

Work is putting a crimp in my family planning. The earliest we could reasonably TTC would be winter 2011. I'd like them to be no more than 3 years apart (meaning TTC no later than early fall 2010), but it doesn't look like that will happen unless I'm willing to make some poor career choices.

I know that there is no real way around this, biology being what it is, but sometimes it's frustrating that I'm always the one who has to take the professional hit for our family's sake. We have the same job, but I'm pretty sure I'm the only one thinking about consequences of timing, etc.

The only real pro to TTC when I'd like to would be a good age gap. The cons would be professional, and a mile long.

slwprincess · September 2009

I'm leaning towards 3 years apart. My niece is almost 3 and I've had a few recent "trial runs" with her and DS and I have to say, it went better than I expected. She is at a good age where she can follow instructions and even help out. Not that she doesn't still have her moments, but overall, she's at a great age. What sealed the deal was when we were walking through the airport and I asked her to hold the side of the stroller as I was pushing DS. She never let go the whole time! I turned to my husband and said... "yep- 3 years apart it is."

PhilsWife07 · September 2009

We are thinking of beginning to TTC in March of next year. I'd like our kids to be close in age.

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