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Upset w/ DH and he just does not get why...

honeybeezhoneybeez
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He'll make plans w/o checking to see if I have anything going on. If I want to pick up hours at work I have to practically beg him to be home to watch the kids or if I just want to get out. His friend asked him to go to a Cubs game and he told him yes w/o even saying "let me check to see if my wife has anything going on". Today I told him that I wanted to go out this afternoon and he said "Okay so take the kids with you". He does not get why I've been a nagging b!tch the last few days and that I'll continue to be this way until he gets it together. He expects too much from me, but I'm supposed to just bend over and take it. I'm resenting him to the point of no return.
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Re: Upset w/ DH and he just does not get why...

  • exhausted_brideexhausted_bride

    Yes, I would be upset, too. It's his responsiblilty as well as yours. It's not right to just dump everything onto you. I'm sorry :(

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  • naturelle25naturelle25 member
    I totally hear ya on that. DH does something similar which is really aggravating. It's hard to describe but basically I feel like whenever I go to do something (workout, grocery shopping, etc.) by myself I feel rushed b/c he just just "waiting" for me to get back. I can never relax b/c he is always trying to rush me along so he can get back to whatever he is doing. I do have to be fair though...he is ALWAYS working on his business (just started his own photography company) which is so much work. It still doesnt take away from the fact that I need time to myself though!
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  • ShellyburgerShellyburger

    DH was like that for a few weeks.  Then I started "dumping the kiddo" with him and leaving.  I would hand him the baby and say, "Okay Im off.  BYE!"  After doing it 2 or 3 times he got the hint. 

    Alone time or time with friends is important but he should allow you that courtesy as well. 

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  • Temp552270562505132Temp552270562505132

    so he gets a break from the kids but you never do?

    NICE

    tell him flat out- its not fair that you get to do whatever the f*ck you want and i am always stuck figuring things out because you dont feel like staying with the kids EVER.  i'd just one day- wait untill he gets home, and peace out for a few hours regardless of whether or not he has plans- that will teach him to make plans without checking with you first to make sure you had nothing going on.

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  • EastCoastBrideEastCoastBride member
    I'd ask him "Why do you think I had a child w/ you?".  Who knows what he'll say, but you say "I had a child WITH you in order to raise it WITH you.  I didn't do this to do it on my own w/ you around to help out/take over whenever YOU felt like it.  That isn't what being a parent is.".
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  • grettazgrettaz member

    imageEastCoastBride:
    I'd ask him "Why do you think I had a child w/ you?".  Who knows what he'll say, but you say "I had a child WITH you in order to raise it WITH you.  I didn't do this to do it on my own w/ you around to help out/take over whenever YOU felt like it.  That isn't what being a parent is.".

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