I don't post here much, but...

VAannie · September 2009

I just looked at a friend's album on Facebook of her newborn baby girl and teared up when I saw the pictures of her rocking her baby in a chair in their hospital room.

My son is now almost five months old and he's seriously the most awesome baby and he's been perfect since he came home after his week-long NICU stay. But I still feel so upset when I think about his early (and surprise) arrival, his NICU stay, being discharged without him, etc. etc. When am I going to "get over it?"

SBMBride406 · September 2009

Well, there's no simple answer for that. I did feel some closure once we got past his 1st birthday, but I still get very emotional when I see a show/movie and a baby is born and handed to their mother. Oh, I really want that experience more than anything.

There is a grieving process involved for us who have been through this. What you are feeling is normal and healthy and I imagine that it will sting a bit less as time goes on.

danlexi04 · September 2009

I just started lurking here and have posted once or twice. My boys have been home from the NICU for almost 3 weeks (I still have to change my ticker) and I can honestly say I'm not over it yet either. At times I feel like I was cheated of those first couple of weeks of their lives. They were born at 33w2d and spent 5 days on cpap so they couldn't be held that much. I hated leaving them to go home and sleep at night and the feeling of guilt that I couldn't keep them in longer will probably never go away. But I now have 2 healthy baby boys that are asleep in their crib and although I'm not "over it" I'm feeling pretty good.

southphilly · September 2009

I mean this in the nicest way possible:

focus on what you have, not what you missed. my lo is 2 mo and I can count on one hand the number of times I've held him. when I feel sorry for myself, I remember my hospital roommate who lost her baby at 26 weeks. every baby is a miracle.

BrainySmurfette · September 2009

You probably won't get over it. I haven't--I just don't get upset as frequently. If I go full term this time, and have a perfect birth--maybe. I still wish I had a memory of my daughter being born, and I'm never getting it. I do think it is important to let your feeling out (in an appropriate place). The crying episodes release some of the bottled up emotions--which can fester if not dealt with.

Susan_KW · September 2009

In all honesty I don't know if I'll ever really get over it. But, about the time of DD's adjusted 1 year birthday I started to really believe in my heart that she was going to be all right. That realization really helped me to come to terms with DD's birth and first couple of months of life in the hospital/home needing special care.

1SwtWld · September 2009

My baby was never in the NICU, but she has hip dysplasia and has been in a full body harness since she was 2 weeks old. She's now 10 weeks. I'm so distraught over things like not being able to rub her back, legs and feet like everyone else. I am so jealous of everyone else who can hold their baby up so they can "stand" on mom's legs. And basically,everything else I can't do with Gianna. It sucks. Especially when strangers say,"what's wrong with her legs?" I know they're trying to be nice and are curious but I am so offended by that. I am so miserable with her like this. I hope that I can one day get over this, but I don't know. I just know that once she is out of the harness, I will be so grateful and will cherish every moment I can stroke her back and snuggle with her like everyone else can with their LOs.

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