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so what did LO #1 do while you gave birth to #2?

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I don't have this quite figured out yet. We are beyond attached, as in have no childcare other than daycare so we can work. we don't have a babysitter, he doesn't and never has stayed with siblings. My parents are elderly/moderately handicapped and I wouldn't leave a dead frog in the care of my IL's.

None of our siblings are an option to watch him nor would I want them to be.

 

What oh what did your first child do while the second was being born? I don't know if I'll be a VBAC or another C section at this point and Im' trying to mentally prepare for both scenarios and don't know where to begin

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Re: so what did LO #1 do while you gave birth to #2?

  • HarrietNJMommyHarrietNJMommy

    When I gave birth to DD#2, DD#1 was at our house with my parents - it was only about 3 hours total (I had a scheduled c-section, DD#2 was breech, as was DD#1).

    When I gave birth to DS, DD#1 and DD#2 were at home, and a friend of mine came over for a couple of hours. DS was a scheduled c/s as well, because I had 2 prior c/s's.

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  • PeskyPesky member
    My ILs were staying with us and cared for DD while I was at the hospital.  My neighbor was in a similar predicament as you and had her other neighbor (we were new to the neighborhoold then) watch her DS when she went to the hospital.  Her DS was familiar with that neighbor and was very excited to go over there.


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  • ldcoffelldcoffel member
    Could you hire one of the daycare teachers to take some of the evening shifts so your DH can be with you?
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  • Jerseygirl16Jerseygirl16

    Well, when #2 was born we still lived in the same state as family and DD #1 stayed with my SIL.  I was induced so we knew that day at the OB office we would be having her and we had time to go home and get Paige ready and then drop her off. 

    This time we are in another state about 2 hours from family.  MIL is retiring in December and will be the one to stay with the girls but I'm nervous that we won't have enough time to get her out here.  It's my third child and you never know how fast they will come.  I already asked about an induction at 39 weeks and they said no.  My big fear is that she won't have time to get to us and DH will miss the delivery (and I'll be alone).  It stinks.  :(

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  • mlf625mlf625

    My mom will be staying with DS. ?But your case sounds a little more difficult! ?Could you ask some of your favorite daycare teachers if they'd be interested in babysitting if the baby comes after daycare hours? ?My cousin worked in daycares for a long time and was always sitting for her daycare kids on nights and weekends.

    Otherwise, do you have an active local board? ?Mine is a great source for recs like these. ?Neighbors who have sitters or nannies??

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  • johnsoarjohnsoar member
    DD was camping down the street from the hospital with MIL and FIL.  They kept her until we left the hospital and visited daily.
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  • sunreisunrei

    We are thinking about this one too but haven't made any concrete plans yet. It's only us two and the LO in our state so I'm thinking either my mom or grandmother or DH's mom will have to come down a week or two before due date to be here whenever baby decides to come. Things could change and it may have to be a scheduled birth.

    Push comes to shove we could ask our neighbor to come over with our son while we are at the hospital and then my DH can bring him by later to meet his little brother or sister.

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  • MrsPreKMrsPreK
    I went into labor 4 weeks early unexpectedly but luckily my mom only lives 20 minutes away so I called her and she came and stayed with DS. Then, my in-laws drove 3 hours to be with us and they stayed with him overnight in our home.
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  • finallyamommyfinallyamommy
    We are in the same predicament, family-wise and I just realized that I HAVE to find a couple of good options for babysitters.  I posted on craigslist, interviewed a few people and am using two now just so we have options.  It was important to me that whoever cares for him during that time have a good established relationship and I couldn't see a way around it except to get started now--I'm 15 weeks and delivered at 35 weeks last time. 
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  • scherzascherza

    MIL came over and stayed with DD when we went to the hospital, then DD's daycare teacher (we have a daycare at school, so she was on summer vacation like I was) came over for a few hours so MIL could come to the hospital and see her new grandson.  My mom came in town a couple of hours after DS was born, and she stayed with me at night so DH could go home and be with DD.  Mom, MIL, and DH took turns taking care of DD till DH brought her to the hospital to bring her brother home.

    One of my friends is having her second in February and she is panicked that he'll come early like her first, so a couple of us are "on call" for her to come and sit with or pick up her oldest so she and her DH can go to the hospital.

    Are you in a church group or a mom's group or anything like that?  Knowing your situation, I bet there would be plenty of people who'd be willing to pitch in and give you a hand!

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  • shouldbeworkinshouldbeworkin
    I had a repeat c-sec and sent #1 to daycare FT for the first 2 weeks.  DH would go home every night to put him to bed.  We had one of our parents pick him up from school, bring him to the hospital to visit and then take him home for dinner.  He did amazingly well, better than I expected.  I just did my best to keep his days as normal as possible and I think that helped a lot.  He really wasn't phased by me being gone or by his sister coming home.
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  • Nicole&MikeNicole&Mike

    Well I am kind of in the same situation my family is two hours away so I am just keeping my fingers crossed that they will get here in time. 

     

    But I used to work at a daycare and we used to have families hiring teachers all the time on off hours.  So if you have a teacher you child or you like I would talk to them if they wanted to be 'on-call' for you.  Trust me they make crap money I am sure you can rind someone. 

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  • jlw2505jlw2505 member
    I had a planned c-section so it was really easy for me to plan.  But, I ended up with pre=term labor at 36 weeks and a weekend trip to the hospital.  My FIL came over and watched my DD and we were ready for my sister to take her for the night but decided to have DH come home since nothing was going to happen.  My sister did watch her the next day when DH came to bring me home for bed rest.  My mom flew in from OOT and stayed with us until DD#2 was 1 1/2 weeks old.  We did send DD#1 to daycare everyday though which was a great.  The day I had my 2nd DD, my parents dropped her off at daycare on the way to the hospital and my DH picked her up at the end of the day.  He brought her to the hospital the next afternoon (I was not up to seeing her that 1st day) and she kept up her normal routine which I think really helped her adjust as she did great.
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