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Holidays - who's family?

sangrealsangreal
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Let me just start by saying my husband passed away in January, but I am very close with his family, and always have been. This Thanksgiving will be the first with a grandchild (for both families).

My parents live 3 hrs from his, so holiday-hopping is not an option. I'd much rather spend it with my own family, but I know his parents may be disappointed. December holidays are not a problem because his family is Jewish and my family is not. Thanksgiving is the big "divided" holiday.

Ay ideas what I should do?  

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  • Temp159135562506975Temp159135562506975 member

    I am so sorry about your husband.  This must be a bitter sweet time for you.

    I would spend the time during the holidays that you celebrate with your family- and visit his family at other times... I know personally being away from my family during holidays is not easy.... You need their support right now. As long as you are visiting your DH's family fairly often I'm sure they won't get upset and will understand.

    If they are jewish - could you go visit them during the jewish holidays? not just in dec, but other months?

    I would stay with your family on T-giving... esp because it will be the first real holiday you spend with your baby.

    (((HUGS)))

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  • mavilabridemavilabride member

    I'm very sorry on the loss of your husband and wish you and DD peace and lots of love.

    As for your question, you really need to start them on a rotating schedule starting now.  It really is the easiest way to deal with the holiday situation.  This year I would do Thanksgiving at your family's house and then promise to be with DH's family for New Years.  Next year switch.

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  • jessica fayjessica fay member

    im lurking here but i had to reply..

    im so sorry for your loss i couldnt imagine what your going through, with that said i think that thanksgiving should be your in laws holiday and christmas you families..and to celebrate thanksgiving with your family maybe the day before or after..im sure your family would understand...GL i hope things work out for you

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  • michele75michele75
    I am so sorry for your loss.  Any chance that you could host Thanksgiving at your house?  You could have family bring all the food but just have your house be the location.  This way you could invite both sides of the family to spend time with you and your daughter.    If that's not an option, I would probably spend time with my family and then visit his the day before or the day after.  I think they will be grateful for all the visits that you will be doing thru out the year.
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  • katlizabethkatlizabeth member

    I'm so sorry to hear about your husband.  Could you spend Thanksgiving with your family and then visit your in-laws later that weekend?  Possibly when family is still around?  

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