TTC After a Loss

Lets make a TTCAL list...

Things we all worry about.. Go!

  1. weather we're ever going to get our sticky forever baby.
  2. If we'll ever get to be blissfully pregnant and not worry about every twinge
  3. once we get our BFP, will we ever be able to go to the bathroom without checking to see blood.

what do you want to add?

Re: Lets make a TTCAL list...

  • ~ whether or not my hubs will have sex with me enough to get pg.

     

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  • If i'll ever be happy for another pregnant woman again
  • #3 is my biggest concern.  And being pregnant you're in the bathroom so often!
  • if people will really understand what it means and how hurtful it is to not go full term
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  • ~ will we have to adopt
  • You guys are nailing all my feelings that I have been having lately. Sad
  • imagemindyschaller:
    If i'll ever be happy for another pregnant woman again

    This for sure.

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  • imagemindyschaller:
    If i'll ever be happy for another pregnant woman again

    This is so right on.

    ~ If I can ever get over the bitterness that this process has given me.

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  • Oh, I have a few more

    ~ If I'll be pushed into a C-section because of the Lovenox and having to be induced.

    ~ If I'll ever be able to have the big family I'd always dreamed of.

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  • -If I'll actually have more than one kid. But hey, beggers can't be choosers, right?

    -If I'll carry to full term.

    -If I end up with having to have my last ovary and ute taken out at such an early age.

    -To adopt.

    -That my DH gives up on this before I'm ready to. 

  • Will my youngest who wants to be a big brother so badly have his chance.
    Marie, wife to Ron, mom to DS
  • Worrying about exactly when I'm O'ing....if I'm O'ing. Ugh.

    And worrying about POAS'ing. Everytime I take a HPT and it's neg, digging it out of the trash every few hours to see if a faint line shows up!

    02/08 BFP resulted in m/c 4/10/08 (11 weeks)
    10/08 Clomid Cycle #1 = m/c 11/7/08 (6 weeks)
    03/09 Clomid Cycle #2 = BFN
    3 rounds of Femara + Ovidrel + IUI =BFN
    10/18/09 2nd Break Cycle (post HSG) before IVF #1 = BFP!

    ? The world thought I had it all, but I was waiting for you. ?
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  • If I am lucky enough to be pregnant again, will I be able to bond with the baby the way I did with my first? I was blissfully unaware of what could go wrong then, and I felt so connected to my LO. Will I be able to put myself in that position again, for fear of how much it hurt to lose the baby?
  • imageKelly0615:

    Worrying about exactly when I'm O'ing....if I'm O'ing. Ugh.

    And worrying about POAS'ing. Everytime I take a HPT and it's neg, digging it out of the trash every few hours to see if a faint line shows up!

    Oh, thank God other people do that too. I thought I was nuts.

  • imageambrandau2:
    imageKelly0615:

    Worrying about exactly when I'm O'ing....if I'm O'ing. Ugh.

    And worrying about POAS'ing. Everytime I take a HPT and it's neg, digging it out of the trash every few hours to see if a faint line shows up!

    Oh, thank God other people do that too. I thought I was nuts.

     This!

  • will my body ever be "normal"?

    when I finally do get my forever baby, will it be healthy after all the things I've done to get pg in the first place?

    If I have to adopt or use a surrogate, will I be able to bond with the child in the same way?

    Will I ever get excited over a BFP again?

  • imagemindyschaller:

    will my body ever be "normal"?

    when I finally do get my forever baby, will it be healthy after all the things I've done to get pg in the first place?

    If I have to adopt or use a surrogate, will I be able to bond with the child in the same way?

    Will I ever get excited over a BFP again?

    This

    5/17/09 incomplete m/c at 7 w 4 d. D&C 5/21/09 BFP #2- 8/9/09 Beta #1: 65 Beta #2: 30. CP 8/16 4 w 2 d BFP #3- 9/9/09 Please let the third time be the charm! First u/s 7w2d hb 150 bpm. Go baby! EDD 5/23/10 DD born 6/3/10 6 lbs, 14 oz; 20 1/2 inches Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker BFP 11/4/2011 11 DPO. 1st u/s 12/7/11 Strong heartbeat, baby measuring two days ahead. Pregnancy Ticker
  • imageambrandau2:
    imageKelly0615:

    Worrying about exactly when I'm O'ing....if I'm O'ing. Ugh.

    And worrying about POAS'ing. Everytime I take a HPT and it's neg, digging it out of the trash every few hours to see if a faint line shows up!

    Oh, thank God other people do that too. I thought I was nuts.

    Yep. Which is exactly why DH scolds me when I test early. He will never understand...

    02/08 BFP resulted in m/c 4/10/08 (11 weeks)
    10/08 Clomid Cycle #1 = m/c 11/7/08 (6 weeks)
    03/09 Clomid Cycle #2 = BFN
    3 rounds of Femara + Ovidrel + IUI =BFN
    10/18/09 2nd Break Cycle (post HSG) before IVF #1 = BFP!

    ? The world thought I had it all, but I was waiting for you. ?
    Lilypie First Birthday tickers
    Labor Buddy to Megjr8
  • if and when we do get pregnant again... Am I going to be a complete mess everytime we go in for an u/s and double and triple check for the hb. Ugh... I'm gonna have to take DH with me everytime I go, there's no way I could go alone again.
  • Am I running out of time on my biological clock?

  • if i'll carry to full term

    if I will ever get to start or have a family  Crying DH will not adopt or do any treatments

  • imageJenPVH:

    Am I running out of time on my biological clock?

    THIS....... this is actually the reason we started trying... cause I had a breakdown thinking I'm never going to have kids
  • when to give up trying conventionally and move onto to other things ~~ IVF, adoption?

    Dh will start to feel like sex is a chore.

    If I"ll ever want to tell anyone I've got a BFP until there is a baby to take home. 

    The fine line between taking care of myself, trying to lose weight and just being healthy with a hopeful, healthy PG around the corner. 

  • Will sex ever just be sex for me again, and not another TTC tactic?
  • What if, God forbid, it turns out I can't have children? Will I ever be able to make peace with that and be happy with my life?

    What if it turns out there is something biologically wrong with me? Am I keeping DH from being the father he should be?

    Adding to that: Will he resent me, if that is the case? Would I resent him, if he was the one with the issue?

  • still the guilt for me, even though I know it's irrational and unhealthy and not at all correct - "What did I do wrong??"
    7 June 2009 - natural miscarriage at 10 weeks
    6 Sept 2009 - natural miscarriage at 9 weeks Lilypie Pregnancy tickers
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  • Will I ever be able to see a woman at the stage of pregnancy I should be, or a child that is the same age as mine should be, and be happy for them, without thinking about the what ifs?

     Once I do have my sticky baby (or babies), will I still feel the losses as acutely as I do now?

     

    What if I don't? 

    7 June 2009 - natural miscarriage at 10 weeks
    6 Sept 2009 - natural miscarriage at 9 weeks Lilypie Pregnancy tickers
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  • Will i ever get to hear the words "its a boy or  its a girl"?

    Will i ever get to hear that first beautiful cry?

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  • imageambrandau2:
    If I am lucky enough to be pregnant again, will I be able to bond with the baby the way I did with my first? I was blissfully unaware of what could go wrong then, and I felt so connected to my LO. Will I be able to put myself in that position again, for fear of how much it hurt to lose the baby?

    This. And everything else you all have said. Especially the part about other people not understanding what it is like to go through a pregnancy loss....

  • This one sounds horrible but I've always wanted a girl and...If I do have a family one day will my dead baby be the only girl I ever get??
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