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Anyone else....

AmbeeroseAmbeerose member
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been in a similar situation? I finally graduated college in May (with a degree in Elem. Education) and told DH I wasn't sure if I would be ready to start teaching this year b/c of DS. I would have had to submit applications by May-June for interviews to begin teaching. I wasn't ready to leave DS by that time so I didn't apply. DH is "mad" (I think the verb is mad but not sure) because I am not teaching. I will be starting to substitute teach a couple days a wk soon but that is not good enough for him. He is "mad" b/c he thinks I am wasting my college degree. (I will be applying to teach next school yr.) The problem is he acted like he was agreeing with the decision one week and then the next week he was really rude/aggravated with me about this topic....any advice?? TIA
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  • axr8111axr8111 member
    Did you give him any clue that you might be feeling this way before it came time to make the decision? Maybe he's just shocked by it especially since he probably sees how much time and money you put into school. Do you want to work or are you just going to do it because he is so upset? If you want to get back to work, you can start looking, in a few months, for maternity leave type work, or half year work starting in 2010. My friend did that. Now if you really think that you want to be a SAHM, then you need to look at your finances, make a budget and a plan along with reasons for staying at home and then bring this information to DH. Include what you will actually make after daycare and taxes so that he can see how much your family will have to sacrifice for you to stay home. It might be surprising to both of you when you really look at all the costs of working (daycare, gas, time, etc.) Good luck and wish you well.?
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    Right now you are teaching the most important student you will ever have - your son. You can think of yourself as a homeschool teacher, and I'm sure you're putting your degree to good use everyday. If you want concrete evidence to show DH, get a cheapo teacher's planner and create lesson plans for developmentally appropriate lessons. You can also get books or take classes on (baby) sign language and, more controversially, Your Baby Can Read!, both of which will provide more material for your lesson plans. D

    Examples from Gymboree's Baby Play:

    Facial Expressions (5-10min) 
      gaze into DS's eyes while singing and saying his name - Listening
      smile, open and close mouth, raise eyebrows, etc. - visual development
      repeat

    Line Art (5-10min)
      hang small pictures, rattles, bows, toys, etc. from clips on a line across crib; move toys gently while describing each - spatial awareness, object naming

    Play Time, Work Time (30 min, or until your back gives)
       place DS in front carrier/wrap/sling, then describe what you're doing, either through conversation or singing, while going about household chores - social development

    You could even categorize activities into math (count the number of clothes being put in the dryer), social studies (looking at pictures of people in DS's world), Science (water play during bath time), Art (Line Art above), Music (everytime you sing or listen to music w/ DS), PE (swimming, you manipulating limbs during Wheels on the Bus), Reading (any and every book you two gaze at during the day), you get the idea. Don't forget to include lunch, recess, and of course, nap times!

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