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About being thankful - my thoughts

goldenjesgoldenjes member
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I think it's normal for people to feel a little disappointment that they didn't get their 'preferred' gender.  Then they get over it and love their LO as-is and couldn't imagine that child being anything different as they grow up.

It's also normal to complain about aches & pains during pregnancy.  Just because you're blessed with this doesn't mean every day is rosy.  Think of your "ideal" job - if you got it, would every day be perfect?

Every person faces their own challenges.  Some face infertility, while some women get pregnant easily but do it solo.  Some lose a spouse, but have many children, while some couples with a fantastic marriage have no children.  Others still face health, emotional, or financial problems that are never discussed in a forum like this.

My point is - we can all look at someone's situation as "easier" or that they have been blessed something or someone while we are left wanting.  I try to tread lightly with others because I don't know their story, or what challenges they face in their seemingly-perfect lives.

I may wish for something different at times, but at the end of the day I look around and thank God for all I do have in my life.

 

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  • JinglesChicJinglesChic member
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  • Mrs.Keith2BMrs.Keith2B member
    Yes VERY well said.
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  • CKLee1107CKLee1107

    Very nicely put.  Thank you.

    While I agree with both sides of the argument to an extent I firmly stand with you that each person has their own struggles and cannot and should not be judged/flamed by those who are outside of those struggles.  (So long as they aren't hurting anyone/anything....kids resented for their gender--parents suck!  parent's being a little sad for not getting a boy/girl this time but loving their baby with everything they have--flame free from me!)

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  • pdxjennpdxjenn member
    Agreed! You saved me the effort of typing exactly this.
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  • jkfranklinjkfranklin member
    It took me a long time to concieve and I used to get very upset with people who would complain about being pregnant.  Now that I'm pregnant I complain all the time.  You never know until you are in that situation.
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  • lacey.butlerlacey.butler
    Yes
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  • getnmarried910getnmarried910 member
    imageCKLee1107:

    Very nicely put.  Thank you.

    While I agree with both sides of the argument to an extent I firmly stand with you that each person has their own struggles and cannot and should not be judged/flamed by those who are outside of those struggles.  (So long as they aren't hurting anyone/anything....kids resented for their gender--parents suck!  parent's being a little sad for not getting a boy/girl this time but loving their baby with everything they have--flame free from me!)

    That is truly awful.  My MIL still makes comments about how she's still disappointed BIL wasn't a girl and he is 23 years old.  It's so awful to hear that about him, and I can't imagine how much more awful it is for him to hear his own mom say that.

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  • Tinkx123xTinkx123x

    Truth 

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  • mrssmith717mrssmith717

    I've noticed the "just be thankful" posts happen more on Fridays, which means people are reading the FFFC and feeling annoyed that people are bitching about being pregnant....

    I'm sure that the people posting their confessions do it there because they feel it's one outlet where they can actually say how they feel without having to feel guilty!  It doesn't mean they aren't grateful....

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  • hockeypiratehockeypirate
    I totally agree.
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