Are you guys like seriously worried about people stalking you?

Temp552270562505132 · September 2009

This confuses me. Most of you have tons of pics of LO, your family, your location, tons of personal information, etc.... If you are really worried why don't you just take all of that stuff off your profiles and lock down your facebook?

I mean come on my husband's batshiit crazy ex gf from 12 years ago somehow found me on this board, another looney toon posted my full name... and I'm still not worried. Yeah its creepy as hell, and both people involved are the biggest toolbags on the planet.... but if they think they're going to actually "do" anything to me... or email my IRL people or make me scared... or find out dirt via google... come on. Get real.

I guess I dont understand how people are all "OH NOEZZZZ STALKERS" yet put all of this info out there for everyone to see? I thought it was common sense? Am I missing something?

LizzieandGar · September 2009

I'm personally not all that worried about people stalking me. I look at people like Heather Armstrong from Dooce.com -- both of her kids have been put on that website, her husband is there, she has her full name on the internet as well as her location and no one has stalked her and peeped in her windows. And her kids haven't been kidnapped yet.

However, I'm not a fan of people from my past that I'm not close with anymore (read: I think they are flucking insane) finding out about my life now. Not because they are dangerous, but because... well, I don't really know why. Because I don't think they SHOULD know. Strangers, however, are totally fine with me.

Huh.

MamaMyers22 · September 2009

You can stalk me Surprise

Temp552270562505132 · September 2009

SpringPeeper:
if you are referring to my comment, I was joking...

no i knew you were joking.

Temp552270562505132 · September 2009

MamaMyers22:
You can stalk me

are you sure? i promise only to look into your windows on tuesday nights and friday mornings.

LuLu38 · September 2009

I have nothing but pictures. But, I know little about computers, so maybe someone can still figure me out, so to speak. Really the only thing that creeps me out are the occasional posts about someone taking a baby pic from someone else and claiming it to be her own. That really is stalkerish.

Impatientgal · September 2009

You are right. And it's 100% our responsibilities to watch what we put up here. But it's still scary and hugely wrong for people to take advantage of that and go BSC.

MamaMyers22 · September 2009

kristinhart511:

MamaMyers22:
You can stalk me

are you sure? i promise only to look into your windows on tuesday nights and friday mornings.

Sounds good, I will make sure the dog is inside so he doesn't bite your azz.

kbs0929 · September 2009

not really. I'm more afraid of being flamed cause it would hurt my e-feelings.

kbs0929 · September 2009

kristinhart511:

I mean come on my husband's batshiit crazy ex gf from 12 years ago somehow found me on this board,

that's crazy. was she on here specifically looking for you or just happened to figure out who you were from your posts?

Temp552270562505132 · September 2009

Impatientgal:
You are right. And it's 100% our responsibilities to watch what we put up here. But it's still scary and hugely wrong for people to take advantage of that and go BSC.

oh i 100% agree that it is totally wrong of them to do this and they are major toolbags for doing so....

but its like... we can't control others, just ourselves. i got really freaked and scared when my husb's ex started writing sh*t on this board to me/about me and telling people i deserved to have a miscarriage bc i am an a**hole... i was like "omg is this girl going to steal my kid or burn down my house"

but then i was all "ok well she can try to do mean stuff and say sh*t all she wants- but she won't have any fodder if i dont post personal things that i feel are private" (i.e. C's pic- i dont care if she says things about me, but my child will absolutely not be involved in anyone saying nasty things)

Temp552270562505132 · September 2009

kbs0929:
kristinhart511:

I mean come on my husband's batshiit crazy ex gf from 12 years ago somehow found me on this board,
that's crazy. was she on here specifically looking for you or just happened to figure out who you were from your posts?

yep! she posted "DEAR KRISTIN" and then a follow up "DEAR KRISTIN PART 2" trying to tell me off for doing..... nothing???? she doesn't have kids, she isn't even pregnant. so its not like she even has any reason to be here anyway.

everyone was like "why are you here? go away. you are crazy. etc etc"

Janimal · September 2009

As someone who got a stalker conviction against someone 15 years ago, who STILL is dealing with it - I will tell you what a police officer told me.

A stalker, a true stalker, will find you. No matter what effort you put forth to conceal your information. Unlisted phone number, use a PO Box, no online identity, etc, they will find you. These are good ideas, but they provide a false sense of security.

It's true. A true stalker is about control. And everyone can be found.

kbs0929 · September 2009

Janimal:

As someone who got a stalker conviction against someone 15 years ago, who STILL is dealing with it - I will tell you what a police officer told me.

A stalker, a true stalker, will find you. No matter what effort you put forth to conceal your information. Unlisted phone number, use a PO Box, no online identity, etc, they will find you. These are good ideas, but they provide a false sense of security.

It's true. A true stalker is about control. And everyone can be found.

sad and scary.

kbs0929 · September 2009

kristinhart511:
kbs0929:
kristinhart511:

I mean come on my husband's batshiit crazy ex gf from 12 years ago somehow found me on this board,

that's crazy. was she on here specifically looking for you or just happened to figure out who you were from your posts?

yep! she posted "DEAR KRISTIN" and then a follow up "DEAR KRISTIN PART 2" trying to tell me off for doing..... nothing???? she doesn't have kids, she isn't even pregnant. so its not like she even has any reason to be here anyway.

everyone was like "why are you here? go away. you are crazy. etc etc"

wow. I would have freaked out and deleted my account, but I'm a pvssy when it comes to stuff like that.

Temp552270562505132 · September 2009

Janimal:
As someone who got a stalker conviction against someone 15 years ago, who STILL is dealing with it - I will tell you what a police officer told me.

A stalker, a true stalker, will find you. No matter what effort you put forth to conceal your information. Unlisted phone number, use a PO Box, no online identity, etc, they will find you. These are good ideas, but they provide a false sense of security.

It's true. A true stalker is about control. And everyone can be found.

to some extent i def. agree with you- its not like we can live in fear. and when people do have the false sense of security, they stop being vigilant and cautious. i just refuse to put my pics (DS pics specifically) out there for her to see because someday she will start it up again and say something that will really piss me off.

it sounds like you are dealing with something that is way more intense. and you're right- everyone can be found. i wouldn't doubt that crazycakes knows where our new house is already.

i was always so anti-gun.... untill this sh*t started. now I'm glad that my husb keeps his hunting rifles here. just in case. you never know.

Myanacondadon'twantnone · September 2009

I worry about this every day.

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