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Pregnant after 35
Anyone PG at 45?
A friend was told by her doctor that she has basically no chance of conceiving naturally at 45. She is aware that AMA & aging eggs significantly decrease her odds, but was still really devastated by her doctor's bluntness.
Are there any success stories out there I could pass along?
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Re: Anyone PG at 45?
Your friend needs to search out an OB who specializes in AMA or difficult pregnancies... not just a run-of-the-mill OB. They tend to be a lot more open minded about unusual cases like ours.
I conceived naturally with no drugs or anything, but I was 41. Had one blighted ovum a few years before that.
GL to your friend.
exactly as bride says. I conceived without drugs etc at 41, I will be 42 at LO's birth. I have read that the chances of conceiving without help at 45+ is very low, but not unheard of.
If I were her, I would immediately seek a specialist trained in AMA as bride posted above. There are such options as donated eggs, etc. if she is interested in that route.
Ditto. My girlfriend had her daughter via IVF last December at 45. She tried and went through several failed IVFs until she switched to a doctor who specialized in AMA women.
I wish your friend great success in naturally being able to get pregnant.
Not yet (give me time as we want more than just the 2 kids), however both of my grandmothers and my husband's maternal grandmother had children (healthy, minimum of 2 apiece) after the age of 41. To get that many, someone (if not all three) were 45 when they did.
Yeah, we come from fertile grammies!
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My parents had me without any medical assistance when they were 42.
My friend's wife conceived naturally at 43 and 45. She is due with the second one in a month or so.
An OB's job is to handle women who are pregnant.
An RE's job is to help women GET pregnant.
Her OB is expressing an opinion that is based on medical fact.
She also is not educated in the specialty of helping women conceive when they have difficulty.
Your friend needs to be very proactive - charting and using OPK's to determine if she's likely ovulating. Her OB could run some fundamental tests for her (Cycle 3 day testing that covers estrogen and specifically FSH and AMH as they are the best indicators of ovarian function and that's the biggest concern regarding age).
But it sounds like her OB's not on board so she really should seek the help of an RE once she's tried a few cycles or if she's having unusual (long or short) cycles.
HTH
Shell
Total score: 6 pregnancies, 5 losses, 2 amazing blessings that I'm thankful for every single day.
I got pregnant with Isabella at the age of 37, first month off BC, no charting or anything.
I got pregnant again last fall, miscarried at 6 weeks. Also first month off BC, no charting or anything.
I got pregnant yet again with my son who's due in October - again, first month without BC, no charting or anything. With him, I'm due on my 41st birthday.
It completely and totally depends on the person and their body. For some reason, DH and I are as fertile as 17 year olds at the prom... there are some people who try much harder in their early 20's than we did after 40.
It's insane to say that somebody absolutely can or absolutely can't (unless they're already menopausal) based on age... they just need to try and see what happens.
I am the 99%.
My mom had me at 47. (In 1971)
My sister had her first at 48. (In 1998)
I would give it a good college try for 3-6 months and then get to an RE. No use spending good money on all those tests unless it took more time to conceive naturally for any previous pregnancies. Her doctor is a douche.
You should really advise her to go to an RE, and to have fertility testing done. If everything comes back pretty good, they could try on their own with properly timed sex for 3-4 months (no more than that really), before moving on to interventions. If the testing comes back not so great (reduced ovarian reserve) then she would know that the chances of conceiving naturally are extremely small and she wouldn't need to waste time trying, and could move directly to interventions - before her eggs got even older.
She should have blood tests on cycle day 3 for FSH and AMH, and an ultrasound of her ovarias called an antral follicle count some time in the first half of her cycle - before ovulation.
info: https://www.advancedfertility.com/antralfollicles.htm