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Toddlers: 12 - 24 Months
kgail11
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those who only travel WITH your child
kgail11
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For those of you who are in a situation where you can't really travel without your child - like vacations and stuff - do you find that whenever you DO travel, the first thing people ask is if you are taking your child or not?? We've found this to be true for us. We don't have anyone around who could take DS for several (or even 1) nights in a row, my mom passed so it's just my dad, and he's not up to the task - DH's parents are a tad looney.. and all my friends have their own kids or no kids (and aren't really that capable).
I guess I've just never thought twice about bringing DS with us on vacation... we've never had the opportunity to leave him home, so it's just a given. I just get tired of people saying 'you two need a vacation as a couple!!!!'... um YES I KNOW THAT, but it's not a possibility!!!! It irks me.
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Re: those who only travel WITH your child
We have never gone anywhere without Zachary. I'd like to, but we don't have any family nearby. Luckily, a lot of our vacations are to Florida to visit family, so we at least get to steal a date night while we're on vacation.
I'd be irked if I was constantly hearing that too though.
People ask us that too. Honestly, before we had DD I thought I would miss vacation with just DH and I didn't think I'd have a problem leaving her for a week and Grandma's so DH and I could go have fun.
Now I absolutly can't fatham a vacation without DD. We're a family and I don't want a vacation from my child. We'll be dragging our kids with us on vacation from now until we can't make them come anymore. ;o)
I live in a very strange place - it's not like the real world at all. I live in a resort mountain town so a lot of the work here is seasonal. Consequently, during the off season, most people travel. It's just what people do here. So around here, it's just assumed that when we go somewhere, we will be taking DD with us. I've never heard anyone here say that we need a holiday by ourselves. Most people just tell us it's great that we're taking DD to all these places.
Now, my mom, on the other hand - she wishes I would leave DD with her. She worries herself sick about what could happen to DD when we take her somewhere and always tries to talk us into leaving DD with her.
EVERYONE asks that.
i find that it really irks me.
No judgement made on others- but ummm of course we are taking our kid on vacation. I (personally) don't need a vacation as a couple. We aren't a 'couple' anymore- we are a family.
We have family around that we could leave her with if we 'HAD' to- but we don't.
lol thanks for letting me know.
i guess i should not add the "whoa thats gonna suck!" face afterward? LOL
Hmm...no I don't think people ask me that.
I've been quite a few places with DD. I have family who *would* watch her - except they live on the other side of the country
So yes, we take DD everywhere we go. And yes, we still enjoy our vacays.
I'm still nursing, so I definitely can't. And I'm not advertising the breastfeeding thing to my ILs, who probably think BFing one year was weird enough, so they think I'm just being uptight about never letting DS sleep over with them (they live an hour away).
Really? He's one...sleep overs? He still gets hysterical at 3 am at least one night a week (or all week this week). It's not like he's just some big kid who is going to be totally fine without mommy and daddy in a semi-unfamiliar house and enjoy his cheerios the next morning. Um, no.
haha but that is lying. i dont want to *lie* to them. but i will say "wow, thats great! have a good time!" and leave out the bad parts
I haven't been asked that yet either.
DH and I find ourselves very excited to travel with her once we are able to afford it. We can't wait to do Disney, Grand Canyon and so many other places. Ooooh, a cruise, too!
Sheesh, DH and I have been together for 11yrs now (married just 2) and have been traveling pretty much that whole time.......we WELCOME a new way to view the world :P
We always take Joseph with us by choice. I could leave him with my mother or my sister, but have only done that when we were going places that we were absolutely unable to take him (like spending two days in a cardiac surgery waiting room).
And I've never had anyone ask "Are you taking Joseph?" We take Joseph everywhere? Why wouldn't we take him to Canada/Florida/Washington/Wisconsin, etc.?
i totally agree with you on this and i can't wait to do the same when they'll remember it. i think its just that some people dont take babies/toddlers so thats the confusion. id never ask a parent of a 5 year old "hey are you taking your kid to the beach with you?" lol
Hmm...I've been asked that lots of times. The only time I found it mildly annoying/weird was when DH and I were talking about going to Macchu Picchu, and someone asked if we would be taking the kids. I must have looked at him like he had 3 heads. Hell NO we would not be taking the kids to middle of nowhere Peru. But we also have travelled without our kids several times, so maybe that's why it doesn't bother me.
I totally understand why people wouldn't want to travel without their kids. DH & I plan to hopefully take them all over the world. They've already travelled quite a bit. But sometimes we like a trip to ourselves.
I don't think anyone is trying to be rude or annoying by asking, they are just curious and trying to make conversation.