Community› The Bump Message Boards› Preemies
Preemies
New Discussion

please help me explain

Clotho!Clotho!
in Preemies

so first a little background. ds#2 was born at 34 weeks and spent only 1 week in the NICU and he doesn't look like a preemie (he's a big boy 19.5 lbs @ his 4 mos. checkup) so most people don't get my concerns about health things like rsv and such.

At church we have what is called children's church for the toddlers and older kids. The parents are asked to help teaching a class. When I was put on bed rest they of course took me off the teaching schedule and kept me off for a 2 mos. after ds#2 was born. Well now the lady who makes the schedule keeps pestering me about why I won't let her put me back on yet. She's like you could just leave ds#2 in the nursery. I won't leave him in the nursery for several reasons 1 it is his nap time and he doesn't nap well in there with the other kids making lots of noise and 2 cold and flu season is coming up and of course that is a concern.

So how do I explain to her why I won't leave ds#2 in the nursery? She doesn't ge that just b/c he doesn't look like a preemie he still is a preemie. This woman also doesn't really belive in medicine (she does only natural remedies which always results in her kids being sick for months on end and she can't figure out why) so any kind of medical info would be lost on her b/c she doesn't belive it. For example she thinks that if people just stopped drinking milk they wouldn't get sick so often and people only drink milk b/c the dairy people shove it down our throats that milk is necessary and we really don't need milk at all. So how do I explain to her my concerns in a way that she would get? TIA

Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers
Lilypie Fifth Birthday tickersLilypie Third Birthday tickers
Lilypie First Birthday tickers
Report Reply to Post

Re: please help me explain

  • mrs.amandammmrs.amandamm member
    I would just say that he has immature lungs, and is very susceptible to getting sick, and you just can't risk it.  Good luck!
    Report Reply
  • Loading the player...
  • dmblackdmblack

    I would just tell her that your ped doesn't want him around other kids during RSV season (cold/flu).  Tell her to contact you in April/May to re-evaluate adding you back to the list. 

    It sounds like no matter what you say she won't get it so I'd just tell her your doctor doesn't want him exposed to any other kids this winter.

    Lilypie Kids Birthday tickers Lilypie Kids Birthday tickers
    Report Reply
  • Mrs. DestructoMrs. Destructo member
    Since she doesn't believe in medicine, I'd just tell her that you aren't comfortable with putting him in the nursery yet, and won't until he's much bigger. Does she really need a reason? Just tell her no, you're not going to do it, but you think you'll be comfortable when he's older and more independent (which you should be able to stretch to April/May-ish)
    Report Reply
  • lstaylor73lstaylor73

    imageMrs. Destructo:
    Since she doesn't believe in medicine, I'd just tell her that you aren't comfortable with putting him in the nursery yet, and won't until he's much bigger. Does she really need a reason? Just tell her no, you're not going to do it, but you think you'll be comfortable when he's older and more independent (which you should be able to stretch to April/May-ish)

    Ditto this, someone who doesn't believe in modern medicine is not able to appreciate and understand all that you have been through so don't waste time or stress over her.  Just say thanks but you guys aren't ready yet and that you'll be sure to let her know when you are and then send her on her merry way.

    Report Reply
This discussion has been closed.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards
"
"