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My mom bums me out

GASuzukiGASuzuki member
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We let my mom move in with us because she's getting older - she's 75. She was supposed to help with Quinn so that we could save on daycare. It didn't happen. She watched Quinn for about two weeks and then began complaining about aches and pains. So now Quinn has started going to a sitter, who we love.

Today I asked my mom to make dinner for the weekdays, just to pitch in, seeing as how she doesn't do ANYTHING now during the day. She answered, "I guess I can do that."

ERGH! Add that to the fact she's mean, super nosy and always all up in my business, and we've got a HUGE amount of stress for me to deal with. My DH is so wonderful to take her on. I can't help feeling duped through it all. I wasn't planning on us just being her retirement home. Maybe I was naive.

Sigh.

 


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  • runnergirl2008runnergirl2008 member

    You're a good daughter for taking her in when she needed some help. I don't think it's too much to ask her to do a few things every now and then.?

    ?Hang in there. Maybe she'll come around.??

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  • Mrs.State746Mrs.State746

    Brave brave girl.  My dad lived with us for 4 years, because my parents sold their house on this side of the state and moved to the other.  EXCEPT he kept his job on this side which happens to be 5 mins from our house. 

    He lived here, free aside from 8 months of rent.  Never helped with anything else and  SOMETIMES brought  home dinner.  He was here mon-wed every week.  

    It wore  on us, and our marriage has suffered.  He moved out last week.  

    But there is a big difference between age (my dad is 52) and he doesn't have priorities in order.  But just giving you my experience.

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  • GASuzukiGASuzuki member
    imageMrs.State746:

    Brave brave girl.  My dad lived with us for 4 years, because my parents sold their house on this side of the state and moved to the other.  EXCEPT he kept his job on this side which happens to be 5 mins from our house. 

    He lived here, free aside from 8 months of rent.  Never helped with anything else and  SOMETIMES brought  home dinner.  He was here mon-wed every week.  

    It wore  on us, and our marriage has suffered.  He moved out last week.  

    But there is a big difference between age (my dad is 52) and he doesn't have priorities in order.  But just giving you my experience.

    Yeah, my mom doesn't even pay rent. She pays NOTHING. And now, because she's having issues selling her home, she can't pitch in with groceries. I'm hoping my sister starts sharing custody.


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  • mrskadamsmrskadams
    Wow, I don't think I could do that.  My friend and I were talking about this once.  She went for a visit this summer and decided if hermom was mean to her, she would say, "Since when did turning 70 give you the right to be mean to people?"  You know what?  She actually said it.  It shut her mom up, and she was nice the rest of the visit.  I will do the same thing to my mother if she gets like that.  She told me if she ever started acting like her mom, then I was to call her on it.  I'll probably tell my children the same thing.  Being old doesn't give me the excuse to be a b!tch.
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  • LuLu38LuLu38
    You are a better person than am I.  Hang in there.  I could not do this. 
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  • Savara07Savara07 member
    I'm still offering the shipment of relatives to a far away place....
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