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How to act surprised when you already know...

Bella263Bella263 member
in 2nd Trimester

My mom and sister are throwing me a shower at the end of this month. The past few weeks there have been constant slip ups of them talking about, "When Grandma and your Aunt are here," only for them to correct themselves and add, "for New Years." They both live in New York. My aunt says every phone call how sad they are that they can't be there for my shower. So I had a feeling they were actually coming out.

Yesterday my dad spilled the beans completely, saying how my mom is freaking out about getting the house clean for when Grandma gets here for my shower, and he's avoiding getting into her frenzied mess. Luckily we were alone, and I let him go and then at the end said laughing, "Just so you know, don't tell mom that you mentioned Grandma coming out, it was supposed to be a surprise."

He was SO upset that he told me, kept saying, "Oh no, I forgot, I'm so sorry!" I told him I already knew anyway, because they kept mentioning it in front of me and then coming up with some wierd story to cover.

But now since I know for sure, I have zero idea how to act when I see them. I don't know if I will see them before the shower, or if mom will have them be there for the "surprise" - but I am no good at acting and I'm going to feel really bad if they all guess I knew about it beforehand.

I know how excited they are to have pulled this off, so I want to act like I had no idea. I know one of the first things everyone will ask is, "So did you have any idea?" and what they all want to hear is, "Absolutely none." I just don't know if I can lie that convincingly. I feel really bad for knowing about this when they are so thrilled with the idea of surprising me. Tongue Tied

Any suggestions for this situation? What would you do? I figured you ladies would know better than anyone how to handle this.

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Re: How to act surprised when you already know...

  • vmm0016vmm0016
    I would say you knew they were planning something you just didn't know when.
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  • RJBWifeRJBWife
    I would just be very happy to see them and say that you thought something was up.  Or tell them that you were really hoping they were going to make it up. 
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  • palomaLunapalomaLuna member

    It would be really hard for me to act surprised if I were in your situation, but I would definitely be overjoyed to see everyone and I'd certainly enjoy the whole thing.

    I don't think it's such a big deal to be surprised or not, as long as your family members know how much you appreciate them planning such an amazingly special day for you. (You can still be overcome with happiness at seeing everyone; right?)

    My response if they asked if I had any idea would simply be, "I had an inkling." And leave it at that. 


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  • SLHurst11SLHurst11
    I'd laugh about it and say that you kinda had a feeling something was up.  You were really hoping they were coming and were getting excited thinking about it, so it's so cool that they came all that way for your shower.
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