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How many nights have you spent away from LO?
I have never spent a night away from Miles. Actually neither my DH nor myself have...we don't really want to and have avoided any situation where we would have to (so far).
So I'm wondering if we're weird. :-) Our close friends started leaving their LO with grandparents at 6 weeks old. Now he stays with his grandparents almost every weekend. I know lifestyles are different for every family, but I would not be able to function if I spent almost every weekend away from Miles.
What's your take?
ETA: I don't want anyone to think I'm judging what they're doing one way or another...just curious if we're normal or obsessive parents. :-)
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Re: How many nights have you spent away from LO?
Tonight will be my first night away from my LOs. They will be with DH though. I have an out of town conference that will have me away from home just for tonight and tomorrow morning. I'll be home by the time they're done with daycare tomorrow.
And this is how my morning has been since leaving them:
No way I'm going to do this again any time soon.
With Brady the one and only time I left him overnight, we left after he was in bed and got home the next morning at 9am. That was when he was about 7 months old. So we really only didnt see him for 2 hours of awake time. Then the only other time I left him overnight was just a couple of weeks ago when I was in the hospital after having Nolan for 2 nights.
This time around is totally different though, my Mom offered to take Nolan this Friday night for us so that DH and I could get some sleep and I said yes! I would have never left Brady that early. This time I am just so exhausted, it is very welcomed. But it isnt something I would do every weekend...why would I have kids if I shipped them off to someone else to take care of every weekend?
I have spent 48 hours total away from DS, however Dh was with him while I was away. It was hard but a much needed break!
I could not do every weekend like your friends that would be to much!
ETA; DS was 8.5 months old when I was away from him.
Until she was 17 months old, either DH or myself was always near her at night. There were some trips I took with her where DH stayed home. My first two nights away from her were when DH took her to his parent's house. This summer we had two nights where we were both away from her - she stayed with the family that would watch her while we worked - about 20 minutes away.
I don't think you're obsessive or anything out of the ordinary. I certainly wouldn't spend every weekend away from DD - I hardly see her during the week b/c I work! I have a friend whose almost 4-year old has never spent a night away from her mommy, and I don't even think that's weird. I think it's what works best for the family.
"When it comes to sleeping, whatever your baby does is normal. If one thing has damaged parents enjoyment of their babies, it's rigid expectations about how and when the baby should sleep." ~ James McKenna, Ph.D., Mother Baby Behavioral Sleep Center, University of Notre Dame
We haven't left him yet. I'm also working so I want to be around him as much as possible. I miss him too much!
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I have never been away from DD yet. We even took her to Europe with us. Everyone thought we were crazy and should leave her with grandparents, but no way!
I do hear it is different when you have 2 though.
IMO, that is a bit much to leave them every weekend. I work and want to spend all the time i can with her!
the first time I was away from him, I was with theskimmy, crystalgirl and jodysnewsnamethaticantremember in Vegas... he was 9 months old...
He did great with his daddy and since then, I have had another girls trip for my sister bachelorette party where he and his daddy had a great time, and then my husband fit a weekend's worth of fun into 30 hours in NYC and E was with his grandmother.
Knowing that he is safe and secure with family made it ok... and he was fine!
My sister, neice and mom spent the night at my house on my birthday so me and dh went to dinner and got a hotel room - 5 miles up the road - when they were 3.5 months. I think we were away from them for a total of 15 hours.
Up till now, I probably wouldn't have been ready. But if I can find anyone willing to watch all three of them for an overnight so I can sleep, they are welcome to them! (I say this after 3 sleepless and sick nights this week)
Dh travels for work at least a night every other week and come this fall, I'll have to start traveling a couple days a month too. But never at the same time. DH and I are planning to go somewhere for a long weekend in either Feb or March 2010 together. They'll be 16 months by then so hopefully manageable for his parents or my mom and sister again for 4 days.
Last week was the first time we left DS overnight. He was with my mom and in great hands, but it was hard (I think I cried 2 or 3 times before taking him to her house!) and we missed him SO MUCH!!! I couldn't wait to go get him the next morning