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this is going to sounds greedy but......(VENT)
i know this sounds horrible and selfish but why do people choose not to purchase off your registry. My shower is tomorrow and 1 item has been purchased off the registry. I know it might not be totally correct but whats the point in having one when no one buys off it.....heres a hint. I registered because there were certain items I needed or wanted. and I dont need 8 million receiving blankets and outfits people pick out. Sorry to vent but i was annoyed. i cant wait to see what i get. sorry if this sounds ungrateful but my little guy comes home in a couple of weeks and im getting stressed about going and getting everything he needs and dosnt get at the shower 
thanks for letting me vent
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Re: this is going to sounds greedy but......(VENT)
My shower is on Sunday, and only a few items have been purchased from my registry.
I'm expecting to get a ton of clothes b/c I'm having a girl, and ppl can't resist little pink outfits... lol. I know it's frustrating, and it seems like it should be common sense that you register for things you need, so that's what people should buy. Unfortunately, not everyone uses common sense
GL! I hope you get everything you need!
DD 10/31/09 - BFP 3/22/11 M/C confirmed 4/9/11 at 8w4d - BFP 10/5/11 EDD 06/16/11
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this is exactly why we're buying all absolute necessities ourselves... it's our child after all and we're not about to rely on anyone else to take care of her.
I agree. Alot of people buy in store and just don t tell the person at the register.
Thats why I am buying online!!!
DD 10/31/09 - BFP 3/22/11 M/C confirmed 4/9/11 at 8w4d - BFP 10/5/11 EDD 06/16/11
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I just keep thinking that maybe they got the items elsewhere for cheaper which is fine with me.. My shower is tomorrow, I have 2 registries- I chose the store that had the cheapest price on the items I wanted.. and only 6 items have been chosen.. I just hope that it all goes well, and I am going to try to remember that we will make it work somehow.
Good luck! Keep your head up!
How awful of people to think it was YOUR responsibility - not theirs - to get the things you need and want. Why not just assign them a purchase to make in the invitation?
And surely you would never have researched any baby items for your own purchase...
WOOT! WOOT! WOOT! *Sound the alarm* Greedy pregnant woman alert! Greedy pregnant woman alert!!
Ungrateful much? Gees louise. YOUR FRIENDS, FAMILY, COWORKERS AREN'T OBLIGATED IN ANY WHICH WAY TO BUY YOUR KID ANYTHING. ITS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY. BE GRATEFUL THAT YOU HAVE THOUGHTFUL ENOUGH PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE THAT GIVE 2 SHIITS THAT YOU ARE HAVING A KID AND CHOOSE TO MARK THAT OCCASION WITH A GIFT FOR YOUR OR YOUR KID.
Got it? Hope so. Because you are making the rest of us NORMAL pregnant ladies look bad.
Wow, just wow. You are one greedy, ungrateful pregnant woman. WAY TO GO GIRL! Way to make the rest of us look bad.
You suck. Sorry, but you do.
Emily 8.8.08
Madeline 1.2.11
William 8.5.12
Yes, she is allowed to post her vent and we are allowed to tell her she sounds like a brat. See how that works?
Yes, and she also deserves to know how incredbly selfish and immature she sounds too. Everyone needs a kick in the ass sometimes you know?
Emily 8.8.08
Madeline 1.2.11
William 8.5.12
She has the right to post about how greedy she is, sure.
But I have the right to tell her that she's selfish and she should thank her lucky stars that someone is willing to fork out a sizeable chunk of money to host this shower and that the guests are willing to spend their hard-earned money on a GIFT. Something that isn't required! Something that is given because people are excited about the little bundle of joy in her belly. So what if you get outfits, at least you and your baby were loved enough to have someone care so much as to pick out that outfit!
Why are you apologizing? She totally sucks.
I think you sound greedy. Some people are just old-fashioned and have no idea what a registry is. Others, can't afford what you did pick out, so they buy a few $8.00 outfits instead. People wait til the last minute to buy stuff. Maybe they bought it somehwhere else. Maybe the cashier didn't take it off the registry. In retrospect, maybe you should have just charged admission.
Hopefully your guests aren't aware of how selfish you sound.
you found it rude that I'm not relying on anyone else to take care of my baby??? If ANYONE gets upset about G I F T S they receive or don't receive, they are the rude ones, not me chickidoo.
Here's an idea...
How about you provide for your child YOURSELF instead of expecting guests at your shower to provide for your child?
Here's another idea...
How about you be thankful for what you DO receive? So what if you get 8 million receiving blankets. Return some if it's that big of a deal!
Reminder: Registries are NOT mean to set rules for your guests to follow. They are there for those guests who want ideas on what you might want or need.
My experience:
I set up a registry online at bru. We live an hour and a half away from the closest one. I chose bru because they have more of a selection then wal mart or kmart. However, my boyfriend and I both decided that the registry was just for the purpose of suggestions. We didn't actually expect us to get anything at all at our shower because we wanted it to be more about the fact that we had so much love and support from our friends and family rather than scoring girfts. I will say this though, I was perferring if anyone get us anything that they get us useful stuff. But at the same time, I assumed that wouldn't be the case so I didn't get my hopes up for anything. My boyfriend and I were pretty much going to prepare ourselves to buy everything on our own after the shower.
The shower went great. Not a lot of people showed up but those who I care about most did and that's all that mattered to me. I was so touched by the amount of support that I felt that day! It was overwhelming. We got a lot of stuff... half of what we needed and half of what we didn't need. I didn't care either way though. I was just happy to have had those who came come because to me it was their way of showing how much they love us.
If I were you I wouldn't expect any material thngs from people. Just expect their love and support. It will make your life so much easier
Actually OP said "sorry if this sounds ungrateful but my little guy comes home in a couple of weeks and im getting stressed about going and getting everything he needs and dosnt get at the shower " Which sorta implies she was expecting her shower to provide all the things she needs for her baby.
The purpose of a shower is to shower with GIFTS. Gifts implies whatever someone wants to buy you.....not for them to buy you everything you need.